Just Mumming Along (viroids 2)

[Eskarina]

Tried to post on the original thread and my post got rejected as its full! Have copied and pasted below....

Congrats on the job offer ttl...hope the other one comes up trumps for you too.

Dd isn't quite crawling yet, but would very much like to. She is the queen of the Klingons at the moment, and has a meltdown the second I put her down, look in the opposite direction, or if someone else so much as looks at her. Not all the time thankfully, but definitely for part of every day.

On the bf thing, it's so personal.....I've just dropped doing the afternoon feed myself be cause dd is so distractible that she bobs on and off, which I don't like around other people, and now she finally has teeth the constant latch on/off was really hurting. I just bf once a day, our morning snuggle when she's nice and calm. I would be sad to give that one up just yet.

Sleeping when he sleeps is impossible, my other two need some mummy time, I have all the housework (clothes washing and dishes at the minimum) to do and what seems like endless visitors. I think people mean well, being on my own now I think that they think I'd appreciate the company.... But it is a bit draining having to entertain and be smiley and chatty. And this is only day 2!

Tomorrow we have to go to hospital for them to check me and caspian, then off to the GP for newborn health check then as we are out and about I've promised DCs a trip to the park and lunch at the cafe there. I'm tired just thinking about it actually.

When DD was born (and this is with DH and DS so less than you by a mile) I aimed for one visit/outing a day. So if I had hospital and GP tomorrow (which I'd count as two straight off), I'd leave park and cafe to the day after. I know you've promised them but you are still recovering 1 from the birth and 2 HG and you won't be in any fit state to look after any of them!

Please don't overdo it lovely lady :)

I'm worried that my words seem like I'm nagging you or telling you to slow down when you feel like you really can't - sorry. I'm not trying to nag, honest guv!

Thanks for the advice wing - it really is appreciated, and I think I need someone to say that I don't need to be superwoman, and that one activity a day is enough.

I'm shattered today after Caspian learned to feed properly, and think that I will definitely have to take things a little more slowly. Even a bath right now would be good, but really I have to wait til tomorrow so that DD or DS can sit with him. I also want a proper meal - after months of not feeling like eating, I sort of do now, but by the time everything is straight-ish (like now) it is a bit too late. I think I am heading to bed with Cas and will hope for a little sleep at least

The people who have said that they want to help you - can you ask them to make some meals for you just to reheat? A friend of mine is going through chemo for breast cancer and some of us are taking it in turns to make meals for her and her family (she has four teenage DDs!). I made a massive pasta bake one night last week for them.

Then you wouldn't have to worry about actually cooking but you'll get a good meal in at least?

wing I must listen to you in future! Yesterday nearly wiped me out. Today I am doing nothing other than feed and change caspian. Other 2 DCs are off to a friend for the day and she is sorting collection and pick up so I don't even really need to get dressed.

Caspian seems to be getting on ok with feeding but it is sore on the left so I need to work on the latch I think. He slept 1.30 til 6 after solid feeding from 8pm so I am not over shattered

Looking forward to a "duvet day"

You poor thing! Faith cluster fed like a mad thing those first few weeks. I stuck lanisoh on after every single feed, even if it meant she got a sticky mouth when she went back that side half hour later! But then my nipples only felt a hit bruised with it all as opposed to getting cracked or anything horrible like that. I know it isn't cheap but it's so worth it. In fact I've got a nearly new tube here that I didn't need that I can send to you?

If she started at 5 I knew I'd be likely to be in bed by 11 but if she tried later than that I'd be up until the early hours. It was crazy but all part of building up my milk supply and I knew it was normal so I didn't freak. It happened again at 4 weeks I think when she had a growth spurt.

TV was my friend and the kindle app on my phone! Lots o good free books to download and read with one hand.

Have a lovely restful day just feeding C and thinking positive thoughts about your future!

Ps how's the appetite? I'm assuming you've stopped vomiting?

If you don't need the Lansinoh then i would gladly receive it! I was kindly sent something similar by another mnetter and will take your advice and use at each feed.

Hoping for a bit of sleep shortly. Fingers and toes crossed

Lansing was a lifesaver for me too a few weeks ago during those growth spurts! I seem to have missed the 5-6 wk one though? Mind you, DS did have a fussy 2 days where he only slept 90mins at a time and fed at each waking. The 3 wk growth spurt was far more demanding!

Hope you're all well! Love that more mums are joining lately!

Meant to say Lansinoh in that first sentence!

Waves I'll PM you on FB for your address as I used the amazon gift registry process last time which keeps it all anonymous

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I know what you mean about having lots to do waves and I had DH. He didn't get any paternity leave though so the day after I came home from the hospital I had to do the school run twice a day, all the standard feeding them, washing clothes etc. Thankfully DH would help out in the evening so I did get some relief. hope you find someone to help you out.

Do you babywear? If you can master BFing in a sling your life will be transformed! In the early days Eleanor's hungry hours always coincided with DC1 & 2s bedtime. I know I'd have gone insane without my carriers.

Hopefully the nipple discomfort will pass but is probably worth getting attachment & positioning checked anyway.

Me and a friend booked to take our kids to a caravan park for the weekend in a couple of weeks. We must be mad - they'll be 2 adults and 7 children (ages 7, 6, 4, 3, 2, 7mo and 4mo). The place looks great though; its got heated indoor and outdoor pools with slides and flumes, plus the beach is literally across the road - very excited

*there'll not they'll

Just marking my place here....will take a gander on what you've all been upto before a 'proper' post.

DS2 is 4 days old now, it's been lovely, aside from DS1 being rather jealous (and watching ffar too much tv)!

Hi Gary!! Congrats again Remind me how old DS1 is? My DS is 4.7 and has been fine apart from a couple of odd behaviours: for the first month or so we'd put him to bed as normal and he'd end up coming and falling asleep in our bed. We'd never shared a bed with him before so it was very odd but it's because DD was in with us and he felt completely left out :(

Just this past week he's started saying that he is lonely :( I am spending all my time with him now it's the summer hols, and in fact, we were all on holiday in Wales three weeks ago, then he had chicken pox so he was off with me and DD and he only went back to preschool for the last two days of term last week so it's not like we haven't been doing lots with him, and 1:1 stuff too. DH now doesn't even like leaving him on his own for five mins while (eg) he's watching TV after breakfast while I'm upstairs getting dressed and DH is washing up the breakfast things. I'm not so convinced that's the best route though as I don't want him to end up extremely clingy or for DH to make it so obvious that 'we mustn't leave DS on his own' when he's normally been such an independent boy. Hmm.

And Guinea, yes. You are mad!!

Welcome Gary & congrats to you !

It's interesting heating about those if you with other DCs and their interactions & reactions to new DSiblings. Hopefully we are luckily enough to gave another DC in the new few years - I can imagine there are so many aspects to consider before doing so! A few of my friends who have recently had their first DC have said "no more" already!

Parents left to fly home today, feeling a bit sad actually. It felt too busy at home at the time & now it's so quiet, it's always like this for me though having my parents live on the other side of the country! They loved having met & spent time with DS though most importantly.

DS has had some unsettled periods this past week. It may be a growth spurt but def not as obvious as when he was 3 weeks. He turned 7 wks old yesterday! My little guy is turning into a much heavier little chunk now . He will be fitting into 0-3 month clothes soon!

Cold & windy here today! I am yearning for the summertime!

Hope you are all well and babies too x

Pineapple, it's funny you saying that Finn will fit into 0-3 soon, as Amy seems to be well on the way to growing out of hers! She was 11lb 13oz yesterday.

Sorry your parents have had to leave. When will you see them next?

Wing, hopefully Zac will settle down soon. It must be difficult going from only child to sibling.

Hopefully we will have number 2 before Amy will remember being alone. Time isn't on my side, so we've already said we will try once she's a year old.

Congrats to Gary again :-) I hadn't realised you were due so soon after us! That's what happens when you come off the ante natal boards :-/ Aren't you meant to be going away soon too?

We have just booked a 4 night trip to the Lakes for next March. Should be lovely. We're off to my home town in a few weeks for a week so my parents can meet Amy (mum has anxiety issues and can't travel). That'll be interesting! At least we can take the bed nest with us to give Amy some continuity.

It is a really hot and sunny day here today (Pineapple, it will be our turn to be jealous of your lovely weather soon) I am hoping that Caspian will sleep a bit today after last night's mammoth feeding frenzy! He is a week old today and was 7lb when weighed yesterday (but I reckon he has put on another pound overnight) He is in the first size clothes, and will probably be in newborn size in the next week or so. DS1 was pretty much straight into 0-3!

In terms of age gaps, there is just 18 months between DS1 and DD, so DS1 doesn't remember ever being alone. It was hard work having 2 babies to look after, but for most of their lives they have been able to do similar activities, so that continues to make life easier. Now I have a nearly 8 year age gap between DD and Caspian, and that is proving very helpful as both my older ones are able to help, both with chores around the house, holding the baby, and are able to entertain themselves.

He's just started grumbling - off for another feed

Hi MrsBri, we're hoping to head to the west side of Oz to see the family end of the year but it hasn't been confirmed yet. Hopefully it'll be be between Dec and March when we visit my family next. Your trip for next March sounds lovely!!

Actually, you just reminded me about asking about how soon after a c-section is it advisable to be pregnant again? I vaguely remember the midwife in the hospital saying to me 18 months but I was so preoccupied with having just having a baby that I forget! I have read about other women becoming pregnant sooner and being fine though so I guess it depends on the woman really. I really look forward to having another

Waves I can't believe Caspian is a week old already! Love the photos u posted recently, he is just beautiful! I think it is lovely your older DS and DD are able to help you out too, I imagine its a special time for them too being able to be responsible for their new little brother . Sounds like he is feeding well, that is great!

Pineapple, my hospital didn't tell me the time period it's best to wait. Maybe my GP will on Monday though. However, my friend is a MW and she told me that they advise a year. Which suits me fine as if I got pregnant straight away (yeah, right!) it'd coincide with qualification and I wouldn't have to extend my training contract any more.

Your trip sounds great too :-) I bet your parents can't wait to see Finn again.

Waves, I've not doubt that 2 under 2 would be hard, but I'm sure we'd cope. Just!

It's great that your older kids can help you out.

Amy is refusing to nap today. She seems a touch constipated from the Gaviscon. And also has trapped wind, so she's a tad grumpy. Though she's happily chatting to herself and waggling round in her Moses basket at the moment, so seems ok for the time being! See how long that lasts, eh?!

Congrats Wavesandsmiles :) I hope you are getting some rest and your friends and being helpful. Would you like any boy clothes? I have loads to get rid of.

Welcome Gary :)

MrsBri, how old is your DD now?

My DD is 2 months old tomorrow! Amazing. She is doing well and weighs 11 pounds 5 oz. She sleeps a lovely 5 hour block every night, which is brilliant. So much better than DS was.

I have a 7 year gap between kids, which has worked out well for us. DS is so caring with his little sister and has not shown any signs of jealousy.

Hi Child!

Apparently 5 hours is 'sleeping through' for a small baby, so well done :-)

We sometimes achieve that, but not often yet!

Amy is 6 weeks today. I'm not sure where time goes. :-/

A 5 hr sleep would be a dream come true for us Child! We haven't really exceeded 3.5hrs and at the moment DS isn't doing more than 2.5 hrs at a time. Been quite fussy too. It's ok though, may be a growth spurt but I'm just happy he is sleeping at all .

I have a 3 year age gap between all of mine and find that works well. we've been really lucky as we've not had to cope with jealousy when either of the DDs arrived.

Something has quite a small gap between her DCs and she had a C/Section so maybe she knows?

Glad all mums and babies seem to be doing well. How is everyone with big kids coping with the holidays? Can't believe we're already 2 weeks in, its going quite fast