Just Mumming Along (viroids 2)

[Eskarina]

Tried to post on the original thread and my post got rejected as its full! Have copied and pasted below....

Congrats on the job offer ttl...hope the other one comes up trumps for you too.

Dd isn't quite crawling yet, but would very much like to. She is the queen of the Klingons at the moment, and has a meltdown the second I put her down, look in the opposite direction, or if someone else so much as looks at her. Not all the time thankfully, but definitely for part of every day.

On the bf thing, it's so personal.....I've just dropped doing the afternoon feed myself be cause dd is so distractible that she bobs on and off, which I don't like around other people, and now she finally has teeth the constant latch on/off was really hurting. I just bf once a day, our morning snuggle when she's nice and calm. I would be sad to give that one up just yet.

Remember the days when we just had to complain about the men in our lives being odd creatures? Now it's the babies who we can't figure out [hgrin]

DD is all better now and even slept for 11+ hours the last 2 nights!!!

CC a friend of mine has been doing a babycalm course and rates it highly. Maybe you could have a look into the as a way of dealing with DS's tantrums. Even if not a course, I'm pretty sure there is info on the web to be found.

Oh, I have an email somewhere about that fvp. When I did baby massage the woman gave us baby calm leaflets and was doing her toddler calm training. Thanks for reminding me, will definitely look into it.

Well, despite confusion about appointments dates, I made it to my scan today. 6 weeks 2 days and an amazing heartbeat. Nausea has been pretty bad and I have a huge craving for junk food. Otherwise, dh and I are really happy

Will find out where the tea set is from Nickel. Think it was just a cheap one.

fvp send some of those sleep vibes our way

[hgrin] Yay for your scan CC!

Yay CC! So glad all is well with you and bubba#2!

I was a bit over plastic tat etc. It's not something we would buy for DS and to begin with I actively dissuaded people from buying it (still do really). I would much prefer clothes or money for his savings account whilst he has no real concept of presents. However, what I am starting to appreciate is people really like buying and gifting. If that's what they want (despite my guidance) then so be it. Having had countless trips to hospital with DS we plan to donate his toys when he is done.

One thing I cannot wait to get him (trying to hold off until birthday #2!) is a play kitchen. He loved the one at the hospital and the soft play place we go!

Other than that we are quite 'boy-like' lots of cars but his walker, trike and stuff are multi-coloured. I am sure if we have a girl we will end up with pink and dolls but none of that bothers me. I am a firm believer that kids make up their own minds (hence DS's fave toys being chocolate box inserts and pringles lids!)

I love lego too . We have a big bag of Mega blocks on the christmas wish list!

Sorry to hear about the tantrums. Thankfully not there yet. He gets weepy/angry when he is tired.

Things are settling down here. DS has had various bugs/teething on top of all the change around me going back to work, he is much happier and settled now I think.

In our most recent hospital trip we have been told he needs to wear his glasses so good luck us

Also, went back to the baby factory this week. The plan is to have the two frozen ones put back early jan. Involves me going back on the pill (to clear out my lining) then oestrogen tablets. No needles and the drugs seem much cheaper. I could have them put back sooner, but being the control freak I am and with poor DS on a 31 August birthday I thought if I ended up with twins, delivered at 37 weeks, it would still mean September birthdays for them.

Thank you! The nausea is getting worse, but I know it isn't forever and it will be worth it.

Val I forgot you had the chance of twins. Very exciting. I like your thinking on the January implant date. I don't have to worry about the August cut off dates in Scotland, but didn't half get some lectures about poor ds before we moved .

That's a lovely idea about donating toys to the hospital.

I have seen a handful of little boys (no girls strangely) with glasses on up here. I think you can get a little head strap to keep them on. My ex boyfriends nephew didn't have an eye condition diagnosed until he was over 2. They realised the poor wee thing had never been able to see well and people's faces were a real blur at a distance. His mum just thought he was shy. Anyway, I know he was older, but the novelty of being able to see clearly meant he loved wearing them.

I hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

P.s. FVP and Dyna did either of you get snow today?! My friend to the west of Edinburgh had some. It was freezing here

I had snow! I cannot believe it! (I shouldn't be though, it's not like we had a Summer, just a few warm days here and there as spring drifted into Autumn). It was only a flurry, over in 15 or so minutes, but we may have more over night.

We have a minimum of plastic tat, preferring wooden tat. We have plenty of cars etc for DS because he likes those toys. He is just a very boyish boy. But that said I'm slowly making him a mei tei carrier for his soft toys and he loves being read to and his best friend is a girl. DD has some very girly toys, though I try to avoid the whole it's for a girl it must be pink, thing. Again we take her cues from this. She loves bags, we bought her a hand bag (hasn't kept her out of mine though ), she loves cars, she's inherited a pile of cars DS no longer plays with (well he didn't until they were moved into DD's toy box). MIL once asked me, what if she just want's pink when she gets older? I said something to the effect of 'fine, if that's what she chooses, but at least it won't have been forced on her' (please please please let my girly girly, like other girly colours, like yellow etc).

Megabloks are the best.

All this talk of snow is making me feel all Christmassy! I love it

Having a slight panic as dh is meant to be working in New York next week. Not liking the look of the hurricane Frankenstein . May have to hide his passport

yes, i prefer clothes etc to toys - toys i can grab from my shop

don't like megablocks. fake lego

have read updates.
feeling rather tired so won't reply much

DD has had 4th night of not properly sleeping and i'm more tired than her!
3am, then 1am, then up till midnight, then 3am last night.
although, last night, she was antsy and crotchety, not playful, which wasn't so much fun. :(

Passes nickel [tea]

Oops, better have some instead

cc in a previous life I was a super nanny. DS is testing boundaries plus a healthy side of being unable to communicate in a way we recognise as socially appropriate hence the physical methods of getting what he wants plus curiosity about other children and their features. It's actually an important step to developing empathy and discovering other rolls don't feel the same as him.

Consistent reactions and communication are key. He needs to learn what he can do without consequences and why, plus the communication will speed up his ability to verbalise if you pick 2/3 broad emotions. Don't shout, hit or bite back. That teaches him it's okay.

nickel and sympathy

val oooooh for January!

That's really interesting Frak - I must admit, I need to be more consistent with DS. The path of least resistance is not usually ever really the best

Lots of tea and wine Nickel - there is light at the end of the tunnel. We have just come out of about 6 weeks of niggly-ness, interrupted sleeping etc...and voila, all 4 molars broke through Friday and yesterday. No wonder he was in an arse!

CC - meant to say I sympathise with your DH's NY trip. Mine is off to Oz for 10-ish days at the beginning of December. Gutted I am not on mat leave!

Hey, cc we were in Geordie land this weekend and it very much snowed there... Was lying 2 inches deep on sat am, thankfully melted quickly! Congrats on your scan must put your mind at rest! Very exciting. We were thinking in going for a viability scan (got one last time at 8 weeks) but with a house move and Christmas on the horizon wondering whether to just hang on until 12 week scan which should be week before Xmas... FVP thanks for that link had a good look at her site some interesting stuff and good allergen free recipes!! Val super exciting news re January! Nickel sorry re your DD sleep. How old is she now? Just wondering as my ds was really bad in the night until 10 months when he decided to stop walking for feeds.. I know so many people who say their little ones slept through from early on which isn't really what you want to hear when your still up a lot much later on. Hope she settles soon. Do you think teething? Maybe on cusp of dropping a daytime nap? Hope all is well with everyone.. Now we're ack from weekend away is shopping cleaning and back to work .. Ho hum will distract self with thoughts of crimbo and festive holidays!

At the grand old age of 15 and 3/4s months, DD seems to have finally decided to start sleeping through the night! Okay so she woke up at 5.30 yesterday morning, but only for an hour, meaning I finally went back to sleep too. I guess this means I'll finally get used to real sleep again and her bastard molars will come in and ruin it all.

6 weeks?!!!

six weeeeeks [hshock][hshock]

i'll die!!
she doesn't seem to be teething, even though everyone in the entire universe disagrees with me. (most random people come into the shop, look at her, go "ah, isn't he cute! is he teething?" )

Dyna - she's 10.5 months. still having night-feeds.
dunno what a "daytime nap" is
is that where she gets really antsy for a while, has a feed, sleeps for 10 minutes then wakes again?

Val I was happy the trip was cancelled as I thought he wouldn't need to go. It has been rescheduled for end of November. Really feeling for all those people affected by storm. Been glued to the news all day.

Frak that's really helpful. I am trying to praise him lots when he is listening and doing something good. He is not for listening to the word no though.

Did anyone get any trick or treaters tonight? We live in a flat, so didn't get any.

Had ds dressed as a very scary skeleton for his baby group today. Super cute! nickel did you have dd as part of your window display? [hwink][hgrin]

dyna are you moving away from Edinburgh or having the 'we need a bigger house' panic that we are having?

The early scan is a personal choice. I always get referred for one, but if I didn't would probably pay for it.

God...early scans....I spent a fortune

We had one whole trick or treater....now feel sick eating the chocolate and sweets [boak face]

DS went to nursery as a pumpkin looking too cute!

cc he may not actually understand the word yet. It's quite an abstract concept. Stop is much better because its concrete :)

according ro my book, dd should be recognising no- 10 months is average.

she is in my window display but it's not halloween

we had 3 sets of t or t-ers. I'm glad i bought treats tonight

8-12months is normal to start understanding, but understanding and understanding in context are different IYSWIM because no is a broad concept. We use it to mean stop, we use it to negate (no hitting), we use it to decline (no thanks), we use it to express quantity (no more)... Stop on the other hand means exactly that.

Babies of 8-12months often learn no in association with specific things - hair pulling, biting when feeding, touching plug sockets. It's then assumed that they understand no in general, which is problematic for 12-24months because they do a whole load of things that elicit a 'no' response and have to extrapolate from previous experience what we mean. Now that's a hugely important part of the learning process and just one of the schemas which need to be reworked but it's frustrating as a parent/carer when you're in a situation where you want them to stop biting or hitting and they don't get that no in this instance means no hitting because in their head no means not touching the plug socket and they aren't anywhere near one.