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Sept 2008 - no witty title as we're too busy dealing with stroppy 3 yr olds.

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MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 17/02/2012 10:24

Hello all. Couldn't see a new thread so thought I'd do the honours. Sorry for rubbish title, I'm no good at witty! :)

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Badvoc · 29/05/2012 16:44

meglet Sorry, but I had to laugh at your last post Grin Thing is you are an amazing parent so I am certain you are doing everything "right". What age are they both? I really do think that at certain ages kids go through some sort of "brain explosion" and they go a bit mad Grin I think ages 2/3, 5/6, 9/10 are about the ages this happens. Then of course its......teenagerdom!!!! Shock I have already told Tobys GM that he is moving in with her as soon as he hits 13 Grin AND SHE WAS OK WITH IT! RESULT!!

carrie My 1st BofG meeting tonight!!!! Shock I have got so many things I want to address...not least sen provision. Oh, how the HT will grow to hate me! Grin

Am going to be making cakes and flapjacks for the jubilee picnic on thurs and crowns for the crown making competition at school. And I am a republican. The irony is not lost on me Hmm

I have come up with the idea of a pleat of cotton wool and marker pen to make the ermine!

CappuccinoCarrie · 30/05/2012 20:44

How did the meeting go...? Bet you kicked ass ;)

should be packing right now...biscuits help packing though so I'll head to the kitchen first Grin

Badvoc · 31/05/2012 06:31

carrie ahem Smile I have to wait to "kick ass" as I have not been voted in my the PCC yet.

But after I have been.....Grin

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 31/05/2012 10:31

Sorry to be a stranger. Spending more and more of my time on fb. DS's MN post-natal thread has moved onto fb as a private group and so we can add weaning recipes etc.

Things are going okish here. DS is 6 months this coming Tuesday and for the past week or so I've been passing him a bit of fruit and veg. He's not very interested and is gagging a lot, so I'll keep persevering. Come this weekend I'll give him some porridge, toast etc. He's still on 5 feeds a day and sleeps from 7ish to 5.30am and often re-settles with his dummy till 7, so i can't complain.

He needs to go into his own room soon as DP and I need our room back. DD is adamant he is coming into her room. We had a trial night the other night and it went fine. DD is such a good sleeper that it might just work (DS's room is still a complete dump room/tip).

Time is flying - I'm back to work in Sept though they are still dragging their heels about whether I can go 4 days until DD goes to school next yr. V embarrassing as nursery need to know!

A quick qn - that's bothering me. I may have to post elsewhere. Working mums with school age children - what do you do about after school clubs? My sister's kids go to a swanky private one so their clubs are ballet, french club, hockey etc.
Some local schools do homework club and a bit of football but that's about it and the school we want DD to go to doesn't even have an after school club.
Dance lessons, language lessons etc are held locally (eg at soft play centres) but they are all around 4 and 5pm. If you don't finish work till 5pm say, what do you do? Cram the weekends or just risk not giving them access to extra stuff they may love? I am feeling worried that DD and DS will miss out.

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ninja · 31/05/2012 20:01

Just a quyick one mrsA - no need for activities until they're a bit older and then you'll know loads of other mums and be able to sort things between you :)

CappuccinoCarrie · 31/05/2012 20:41

MrsA I'm not a working mum, but DD only did ballet after school this year and that was enough. They are shattered after school and towards the end of each term DD has had mouth ulcers, impetigo etc as she's so run down, so I really wouldn't sign up to anything else.
Friends who work see Saturday as their 'clubs and shopping' day and do family outings on Sundays.
Just procrastinating from packing and cleaning...we go to my parents tomorrow to 'do' the jubilee and catch up with everyone we've not seen since we last went there a year ago Blush We've got people staying in our house the whole time we're away, which has focussed the mind somewhat wrt cleaning!

Meglet · 31/05/2012 21:30

bookmarking...

Badvoc · 01/06/2012 06:42

mrsa I agree with ninja and carrie

DebiTheScot · 01/06/2012 22:33

bookmarking. Hello everyone, havent been here for a while. Must catch up.

DebiTheScot · 01/06/2012 22:55

meglet hope things pick up soon and that with consistency the behaviour will improve. I can't think of anything useful to say but I'm only 20 mins away if you ever want to meet up.

Carrie I find it very hard to believe any child can swim 100m. Even 50m. That's a very long way and a lot of strokes for a 5 year old. DS1 has had lessons for about a year now and has gone up 1 class in that time but can't properly swim yet at all really. They don't use arm bands, just the noodle things.

MrsA I know what you mean about after school clubs. Swimming once a week is all ds1 does. Part of me thinks he 'should' do more but part of me dreads the hassle. And I don't think he needs to do anything else. I certainly wouldn't worry in year R. I do want to look into Beavers though.

Badvoc I hope your poorly children are better.

I took ds1 to a dentist appoint earlier- he's been referred to the special clinic as he needs fillings and extractions. I felt terrible at the first appointment but this one was to discuss his diet, toothbrushing skills etc and it seems that I'm doing everything right (haha, as if! Just in the teeth department) and he must have just inherited my rubbish teeth. I still feel guilty though!

And ds2 has an ear infection- took him to doc this afternoon (it was a busy day, we did hairdresser too!) and he said it's a nasty one but is almost certainly viral as he's had a horrrid cold which is lingering and so hasn't given antibiotics.

Carrie my s-i-l and I are going into London on Sunday too! We might see you.

Debs75 · 02/06/2012 09:21

Hi all, am enjoying the half term here. 4 grumpy kids, a mountain of washing, a house to decorate and dd1 still has exams to do. On the plus side it is nice weather again so they may get to play in the garden and not bother me so much.

Carrie Dd1 did swimming lessons from 5up and she couldn't do 100m until about 8 years old.

Mrsa they have their whole life to enjoy these extra activities, they won't miss out going whilst they are still little. Plus school is so demanding on them in the first few years they wouldn't have all the energy for after school clubs. With DD1 we kept it to swimming and dance class for a few years then added in horse riding( it was an incentive, and a chance for me to have another go) Now she only does the horse riding.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 02/06/2012 10:03

Sorry, I have been a bit AWOL, I have had loads of NCT stuff to do. I became our branch coordinator earlier this year (can't remember if I mentioned it, or not), so it's keeping me busy. Good busy though.

I would agree with what others have said about activities MrsA. I fully intend that the only after school stuff the boys do is scouting stuff. If they really want to do other things I will think about it at the time, but I really don't want to spend our weekends and early evenings ferrying kids here there and everywhere. I know it will happen eventually, but I will resist for as long as possible.

Enjoy the flotilla Carrie, I quite fancied seeing that.

The village WI are doing strawberry teas on the green today, I think we will go along and stuff our faces with WI cake Grin

I have just ordered some gorgeous copies of The Enchanted Wood and The Faraway Tree to read with M. I am so excited, more so than him Blush

Enjoy the long weekend everyone Smile

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 02/06/2012 21:09

Thanks for all the helpful replies. My neice and nephew do most activities within school time (eg niece is in reception and they finish at 2pm on wed and thurs so they can choose to free play or pay for french club and ballet club on respective days). Nephew is 9 now and does 3hrs of tennis on Sat am. It's cos they go to a private school. I confess I've never been to a state school, primary or secondary, and I feel so guilty that we dont earn enough to send kids private and am a bit scared of 'normal' school as I panic it won't be enough for them to do well (yes I know I need a slap). DD does football club on Saturday mornings and loves it. She's the youngest one there (most are 4.5 to 5) and one of 2 girls and she has blossomed. Her football skills are getting better ands her self-confidence is amazing. I want her to learn to swim (she can do a 10wk course whilst I'm still on maternity leave) and she says she wants to do rugby (?!) and dance class too. Oh ands she learns welsh at nursery! I think I've been panicking a bit and I think we'll stick with football till she tires of it and do swim class and then scouts/brownies (think she's a beaver not a rainbow). Your comments helped me to see straight.

The one thing that I'm struggling with is DS's weaning. He's 6m in 3 days and we've started blw and he's not keen on food - turns his nose up at most stuff, gags, brings his milk up and just wants his bottle. Remind me he will get it before I go mad!!

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Badvoc · 02/06/2012 21:21

mrsa Grin I confess I have never been to a private school so I cant comment other than to say that afaik they do not have to follow the NC like state schools so therefore have far more flexibility and time (and resources) for extra curricular stuff....

I think perhaps ask yourself why you think your dd should be doing these activites? Is it for her benefit or because you (and perhaps extended family) think she should????

I think thats really understandable tbh...i.e. worrying about what others are thinking/doing IYSWIM? My sis and bil have LOADS of money and their dc do things that my 2 will never be able to do as we cant afford it I does bother me sometimes but then I see how well ds1 is doing now and ds2 is settling at pre school and feel ok again Smile

I am sure your dd will thrive if the school is right for her x

Debs75 · 03/06/2012 16:37

mrsa it took Lucy till at least 8lb months to really understand food. She just want interested, but look at her now she is a little piggy. With blw it doesn't matter if they refuse to eat it is all about pkaying with the food and tasting it without pressure. Dont worry he will get it in the end

Meglet · 05/06/2012 19:55

bookmarking...

My line for today seems to have been "We only bite food and we only kick footballs" Angry.

Off to cook risotto now!

Meglet · 05/06/2012 22:24

Meant to say I have managed to get some control over the household. Poundland are selling bells for Fathers Day (says 'Ring for beer' on them Hmm) so I have bought one and now I ring it at mealtimes Grin.

The DC's think it's great fun and know it's their cue to pick a few toys off the floor, wash their hands and come to the table. TBH it save's my voice too, at weekends there can be a lot of shouting.

mrsA I wouldn't worry about your DS not eating much at this stage. It takes a while to learn how to eat, BLW and finger food will be a good learning curve for him. I'm sure both of mine took a couple of weeks to figure out what they were meant to be doing with food.

digitalgirl · 07/06/2012 16:40

meglet a bell sounds like great idea!!!
Talking of 'only biting food' ds1 bit a chunk out of the bannister last night. He tries to bite our stone worktop, but obviously that's slightly more hard wearing. What is it with 3 year old boys going feral?

notcitrus · 07/06/2012 16:57

A keeps trying to eat his duvet and clothes. He says 'I'm being a moth' - from Chocolate mousse for Greedy Goose... He's also started on the random insults phase and the why... one.

R had a lovely phase of sleeping through but is now on one of three-hourly poosplosions. I'm trying to avoid MN apart from this thread as the snippy comments and nastiness and people who never leave their child in a different room are just too much. But by the doth feed of a day i usually get bored and can't resist a look on my phone. Must try writing a novel instead, one sentence per feed...

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 07/06/2012 22:11

bookmarking. tired. hate this stage of weaning (not DS's fault) - as hard as newborn imo. can't remember the last time DP and I had a conversation (nowt wrong, just both busy and knackered). plus side - DD has turned into angel child in the last week. dd and ds now share a room on dd's request and DS's room will become a playroom. yawn. night night.

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Meglet · 08/06/2012 10:58

See, when I mentioned biting and kicking I meant each other and me. This parenting lark is going really well Hmm.

nc We have that book. I'm currently trying to perfect the animal voices. I used to get really wound up by MN, these days I know who is stroppy and who to ignore.

Meglet · 08/06/2012 18:30

I hadn't done one of these yet!

Crown
Meglet · 08/06/2012 18:31

oh, does it not work anymore. Did I do it too late, it's still on the list.

try again.... Crown

Meglet · 08/06/2012 18:31
CappuccinoCarrie · 08/06/2012 19:43

I can't believe I missed the Crown emoticon!
Just bookmarking really so I'll be brief...pageant fab, sorry to miss debi. Had a lovely week, big family party tomorrow then home on Sunday. Kids been great, so nice to have a break from the norm.
MrsA I feel your pain, I dislike 'transition' stages, but once he gets eating you'll be sorted again...til the next thing! DS2 is now crawling