October 2010 - They've Got The Walking Down Pat, Now It's Chat Chat Chat

[NoHunIntended]

Hello, October Mamas!
Make yourselves comfortable.

[HarrietJones]

Trib- pm me/FB me if you want.

Dd3 has started tantrums. Only a few so far but proper stereotypical ones on the floor kicking & yelling. She did have one at toddlers & fell off her chair which made her crosser! dd2 was vv difficult as a toddler so I tend to feel this is easy so far.

She's really challenging dd2 (10!!!) for top dog too. She's just pushed her over.

[HarrietJones]

Aww at dd kissing the screen mock!

[HuggyPomBear]

Its not nice when people make you doubt yourself BP. At least now the nursery have seen a tantrum. DD's are more of the pit of despair variety although as she approaches 2 I am sure they'll escalate!

I really did not know tantrums started this early!

[HuggyPomBear]

Sorry, meant to say NoHun, they time most definitely has not flown by!!! DH Left at the beginning of August and that feels like ages ago, especially as I had to move house and start work in October.

[TribbleWithoutaCause]

huggy are you mock? Have I named checked right?

Work is ok, thank you for your messages they were really sweet. They seem to be going back and fourth at the moment. But I had a nice day today, which was really positive.

Also, ds has been asserting his sense of self for a while. Will he touch fruit??!! No, will he bugger! Two months of this now . He also tantrums, he will throw things at me and then cling to my legs. I tell him no and leave him to it. Rightly or wrongly I don't want him to get the idea that he will get positive attention that way.

nohun I'll read that article in a minute.

[TribbleWithoutaCause]

That article is interesting, we're sort of child focused here. He goes to groups and plays with other kids, I'm not always in his face but I do play with him and talk to him. I give him cuddles but at the same time I let him get on with it.

I don't really take him to restaurants as he just wants to wonder around, I find that stressful.

[HuggyPomBear]

Trib Yup, tis Mock! Fancied a name change. Does your DS like vegetables?

[HuggyPomBear]

Wel, I always thought the end of breastfeeding would be a mutual thing, but it appears that my body has made the decision. I am producing no milk. DD has dry nursed at night recently, but when she's actually hungry, she's demanded food. Well, I suppose 15 months is good going. Still though.

[HarrietJones]

:( huggy but at least dd has sorted herself out over it.

[HoFunIntended]

15 months is great, Huggy. And your DD is fine, all good. I'd be happy if DS was off milk, either if mine dried up, or he just self-weaned. Still not pg, and I think I may be one of those for whom BFing is not compatible with conceiving. But I don't want to force him off.

[HoFunIntended]

This is my Chinese New Year namechange, btw! :)

[HuggyPomBear]

People in America might raise an eyebrow at that name HoFun!

[HoFunIntended]

Oh dear, what have I missed?

[HoFunIntended]

Oh, do you just mean the ho? As in dirty ho?

[HuggyPomBear]

Yeah, brings me back to seeing Jerry Springer years ago .

[HoFunIntended]

:o Jerry, Jerry

[HuggyPomBear]

Well, the end of an era. Last bf this morning at 1030- a dry nurse and a fantastic skin to skin cuddle in bed. This evening, book, bath, massage then cuddle instead of bf. DD cuddled right up, rested her head on my chest and fell asleep in my arms. It was very lovely and she appeared quite content. Still feel sad, but at least I know she's fine with it as recently she's never demanded a bf (never turned one down though!) so she's ok. If over the next few days she asks I won't refuse. I do wonder how long it would be until she forgets the reflex. I consider myself to be very lucky to have had absolutely no problems breastfeeding. I remember the long hours watching recorded stuff on the sofa while she cluster fed when she was tiny and how I used to bring her downstairs after a bath and she'd feed to sleep and I'd let her stay like that until we were ready for bed. My family (apart from DH) thought it was wrong of me, but it worked for us and made her very secure.

Before I had her, I really had no idea how long I'd bf for and how natural it was to continue past 6 months, then a year. She's a little star and we are blessed. .

Hope you don't mind me blathering on! . I was hoping to still be bfing when DH got back, but its not to be. At least he can have night time cuddles!

[HoFunIntended]

Oh, Huggy, you have done amazingly. Your DD is grand. Happy memories. I too have loved it, and it's been easy for us. Loved all the tv watching whilst DS nursed to his heart's content. Was just a nice easy way to let him nod off.
And btw, I meant to say I hope you didn't feel I was belittling how slow it's been for you with your DH away. Just seems fast when you aren't involved!

Blather away as much as you like!

[HuggyPomBear]

No not at all HoFun whenever a colleague goes away the time flies its just never the case when its you!

I am due to retire in 4.5 years time and I really hope I do not have to go away before then.

[HoFunIntended]

Phew!

Nice! I hope you don't have to go away either.

[HarrietJones]

Fingers crossed for you huggy!

[HuggyPomBear]

Thank you! I do live in fear of one of our ancient passenger aircraft having a problem. We fly in aircraft that are no longer flown by civilians as they are so elderly. Also, the weather where he is is very poor at the moment and he's meant to have flown south to meet his successor but is stuck due to snow. Here's hoping it melts soon!

[busyprocrastinating]

Huggy you have done an amazing job bf and made lovely memories. I feel so proud seeing how DD changes everyday but at the same time that they are changing and growing up so quickly. We bought DD a height chart sticker for her room for xmas and she has grown since her first mark on boxing day. And yes it is horrible when people make you doubt yourself. I kept playing the conversation over for days but now I am reassured DD is fine and it is good that she is strong willed I just wish now I'd have stuck up for myself a bit more!
Hope your DH gets home safely soon and that you don't have to go anywhere

DD had a massive tantrum tonight because I took the bubble mixture from her as she kept trying to drink it- yuck! When me and DH ignored her she took herself into another room and we could just hear her wailing 'bubbles bubbles'

DD was sick at 1am this morning all over her room and then I had a terrible day at work, not helped with sleep deprivation and my neck is really sore. Not the best start to the week but am off to bed now and hoping that tomorrow is brighter

[HuggyPomBear]

Oh dear BP. Was it the bubbles bubbles?!

If its any consolation, I tipped a hot caramel latte down myself this morning. In a massively public place then was stood in the ladies in my undercrackers (thank goodness I put a petticoat on this morning which I don't normally do, but my work skirt been static and clingy) washing my skirt and shirt then spending ages drying it under the pathetic hand dryer.....

[NoHunIntended]

bp, hope your LO is better today.

huggy, hope you didn't scald yourself! Ow.

Went to the GP yesterday as we aren't pg yet, just to ask if it was worth doing any blood tests or anything, and to get on the books if there is a waiting list, but she said they won't do anything for me until I stop BFing, and that it is most probably that it will then just happen. Grrr.
I am nearly 38, and my concerns are that a) the longer we leave it for no2 the harder it is to conceive, and b) potential risks for the baby of abnormalities. With this in mind, we are going to try and reduce his feeds, which I really am sad about, I so wanted him to naturally self-wean. He is not best pleased either.