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Dec 08 Ladies - We're fat, we're thin, we're nearly 3 years in!!

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DeidreBarlow · 17/09/2011 13:50

Sorry for the shocking title - couldn't think of anything else and our babies little people will be 3 in the next few months!

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traceface · 18/10/2011 14:19

ration?!!!! I mean ratio Grin
I don't eat toddlers.

LadyThompson · 18/10/2011 14:48

Ah, yes, I see the problem with getting someone for that precise time, JJ. It's a shame more childcare isn't available for that specific time only. If someone started up a business offering just that time slot I suspect they'd clear up. As to the Archers [Grin I do try to avoid listening to it as I find people are either moaning or saying something banal, though DP loves it Hmm And doesn't that just encapsulate the many differences between us. Good luck with the meeting.

Hello Trace. Thanks backatcha.

Actually Kiwi, you can have a bunch as well Thanks Lots of luck with the breastfeeding cafe, I do hope they can help. It sounds excruciating.

JB, how are the old steak and kidneys? Hope they aren't bothersome on a daily basis.

DD2's finger is still a bit nasty looking but am pretty sure it's on the mend. Also, remember DD1's stutter? It seems to have gone, just as with Invis's DS.

My big treat is that I am taking the girls up to Mum's on the train tomorrow and not coming back until Sunday night Grin Heaven.

Beans36 · 18/10/2011 15:19

Kiwi - I had similar ishoos with DD1. Feck me it hurt a lot and I bled into her mouth etc. Minging. I rang the Cow & Gate helpline, which was free and v helpful. They told me to try to keep feeding through the pain and that it was just my nipples adjusting to the latching on etc. They were right and it hurt for about 4 weeks, then suddenly it got better. That's probably not a lot of help now, but it does get better. Well, it did for me anyway and I hope hope hope it does for you too.

JJ - have you tried sitters.co.uk. They do a minimum of a 2 hour slot, so that might work perfectly and if you register, you could get possibly get the same person every week to come and help out. Alternatively, try a local nanny agency who might have someone spare?

Lady - glad your DD1's stutter has gone. My DD1 now has one, but she just repeats the same word again and again and again and again and you get the picture. I know she's reaching for the right word, but then she seems to get stuck in a kind of rut and can't stop. It's like a broken record and quite weird.

Anyway, cold is still raging, but am feeling a little better this afternoon. The reason for which I will reveal shortly...

Went househunting yesterday. The most expensive one was just lovely. DH and I are going back to see it next week. So typical that the priciest one should be far and away the best. Hey ho. But the garden was amazing! Actual house was fairly characterless, but I like that, because we can put our stamp on it... YAY! DH insisted that today DD2 went to nursery with DD1 because it might make her a bit happier there and also it meant I could have a rest and recover, because I've been so minging with cold. Hurray! I am having a lovely day. Done the ironing, the hoovering, the washing, the washing up, eaten lunch, had a little snooze, finished my book and watched Jeremy Kyle. Hateful man. Such a guilty pleasure. But honestly, I am feeling so much more human. THANK YOU TO DH! He may be an arse at times, but then I remember why I married him - he's a kind man!

Ahem. Well, no Beans househunt would be complete without an al fresco poo story. And I outdid myself yesterday. If you're repulsed by me, please don't read on, but Vag - you'd be so proud of me.

I actually did manage a poo before I left the house, so was smug in my knowledge of biggie safety. But NO. I arrived 10 mins early for the first appointment and as soon as I turned off the engine, I was touching cloth. HOW DOES THAT HAPPEN???? Absolutely bursting - both village pubs shut. I had no option, but to drive round to the rear car park of one of the pubs, which was, thankfully, empty and no one around. I had to get out DD1's portable potty (you know the potette ones, which have disposable bags in them?) and then, to my shame, I got DD1 out of the car as well, so that she was standing next to me and I could pretend if someone came, that it was her using it!!!! I AM EVIL! I managed, just in time, to do my poo into the potty. I am so so so ashamed of myself. BUT thankfully I didn't get caught (unless there was a CCTV I didn't see in my panic!). I then went to have a look at the house nearby and realised I had left DD1's toy T-Rex at the scene of my crime and go back to collect it. THEN I had to go and have lunch in that pub as the two other local pubs were shut. I was terrified that someone was going to come and accuse me of my heinous crime. It was awful. Then I had to drive round with my bag of evidence in the back of the car, til I'd seen both houses. Then I found a building site on my drive to the inlaws and deposited the bag into a skip. GOD! How RANK??? I can't believe I've told you all about this. DH nearly killed himself laughing at me. I am horrific.

LadyThompson · 18/10/2011 16:04

Beans, I don't know HOW you do it! Grin This has never happened to me! I actually think you were very resourceful. I also think you should keep the potette in the car, like, forever Grin

AAAvegetable · 18/10/2011 16:35

Ha ha Beans. Please make sure you never ever organise your bowels, it would be such a shame given the stories they create. Glad you've found a nice house. Will you show DH all three or just the fav?

Kiwi - I found the LLL helpline v helpful. I also smothered Lanishol or my nips and found it really helped. Congrats on a great birth BTW, how is recovery going?

Lady - I am so pleased you are finding the natives friendly. Did you get the invite to Danny's NYE party. We are v tempted but I'm not sure we can justify the expense and I am not sure how practical it would be to traipse across Scandinavia with the smalls in mid winter en route to an all night party... so tempted though.

My case continues to overrun. We aren't expected to conclude before next week. Nightmare as I am so very behind at work plus I really miss my Fridays at home with the girls.

We had DD1's first Y1 parents' evening last night. Love her, her teacher is so happy with her. Apparently she answers the register each morning by saying hello in Zulu.

Oh and last night I went to a charity craft night organised by a friend and not only did I make a rather splendid clay nativity but I won a £50 voucher for our posh local organic butcher. I am looking forward to a week of top quality steak.

Kayzr · 18/10/2011 16:37

Oh Beans that is priceless!! Im trying very hard not to laugh. Grin

I've got campylobacter Sad feeling very very sick, really painful stomach cramps. Doctor assured me that the baby will be fine and that in a few days I should be ok again.

VagolaJahooli · 18/10/2011 16:57

Oh Kayz that is just terrible, have you got someone to help with the boys?

Beans, I hope you never get campylobactor, imagine that alfresco poo. Did I ever tell you all about my alfresco wee in DD2's nappy?

Kiwi, where are you living now, do you want me to come have a look at your latch?

AAA I love that your DD1 answers roll call in zulu! Hilarious.

Glad all the events went well Lady and you are becoming a pillar of the community. What a lucky community they are.

Had a lovely night with an old friend last night and also caught up with the friends who were over from home, on Sunday. Was so good to see them but made me quite home sick. I suddenly miss them so much.

Invis thanks for the text. I'm going to be old fashioned and actually go to a bookshop and buy them, in the flesh.

So looking forward to seeing Spot tomorrow. PD I'm seeing another friend in the afternoon so don't think I'd get back to catch up. Bummer.

Where is Trudy? These are for you Thanks

Hi Trace

JamInMyWellies · 18/10/2011 17:02

Bloody hell Beans [hgrin]

I too have resorted to the pottete before for a wee. DH recorded the event for future blackmailing.

Busy busy busy. How come I have one in nursery 3 mornings and one in school 3 morning and 2 full days but yet I am always chasing my tail.

Kayzr · 18/10/2011 17:07

Vag not really got much help. My brother and XH have done the school run for me. DP went back to work Monday morning. Which was bad timing. I have to do school run tomorrow so really hoping I'm going to be better tomorrow.

LadyThompson · 18/10/2011 17:18

I don't know, Jam, but I ponder similar myself....

Oh crikey Kayz, that's horrible. I do hope you feel better soon.

Dear AAA, it is strange you mention Danny's invite as I did get it and I was just standing in the kitchen in a reverie, imagining the snowy scene and reminiscing about our trip to Sweden. I have such happy memories of the whole week we spent there. I wish you could have come for longer too. I would flipping love to go at New Year, even though I don't really like the cold. I bet it would be gorgeous and such fun. But similarly I don't think we can justify the expense either and, like you, am rather put off re: the practicalities of schlepping O and D across Northern Europe to what is essentially an adult affair. I feel so wistful though. I have just replied saying I think it's an enchanting idea but I think it's very unlikely that we will be able to swing it. Is C going to go? I am not fully discounting it yet (can't bear to!) but I do think it is v unlikely that we will be going. Are you still in your trial? DP was interrogating me about it but I had to tell him I didn't know anything!

How much longer have you got here, Vag? You go back Thursday, right?

LadyThompson · 18/10/2011 17:23

Oh and Kayz, to cheer yourself up, have you been thinking of any names? I know it's very early days but I name several imaginary children per week and I am definitely not pregnant.....

Kayzr · 18/10/2011 17:31

Yes we have. Isaac Henry if we have a boy and I have just posted a thread about baby girl names as we have a huge long list that we can't agree on. DP loves Arabella which I do too but I am not 100% on it like he is.

sybilfaulty · 18/10/2011 17:35

Beans that is wonderful! I think I have told you my story about having an alfresco wee in the office car park at about 12am one Friday just before Christmas - the whole thing was caught on CCTV and I became a laughing stock for a while. I do so love weeing outside, but it is quite gross.

DD1 was writing her non fiction book at school with me this morning. Sadly "leopards pounce on their prey" got transmuted as "leopards ponce on there pray". I could not stop laughing and almost had to leave the room.

Kitchen D day - Thursday. No fail. Ribbon cutting party to be announced.

Kayzr · 18/10/2011 17:55

Is anyone having trouble with toilet training? DS2 has absolutely no interest in it at all. He will always tell me when he does a wee or a poo but I can't persuade him to use the potty or toilet. DS1 was 3 when he started and it was brilliant.

Should I just leave him a bit longer?

LadyThompson · 18/10/2011 18:02

That'a a nice name, Kayz. No interest in TT here. I can't see when things are ever going to change!

Yay for my your kitchen, Sybs Grin

VagolaJahooli · 18/10/2011 18:40

Kayz doesn't sound like he is having trouble, seems like he is just not ready. I think when your sick and DP away is not a good time to start TT. Maybe try again when DP is back for a block of time.

Lady I had a giggle about your naming imaginary children.

The flowers were actually for Trace, but Trudy got them, she is still worthy. But here are yours Trace, Thanks

Beans36 · 18/10/2011 20:23

Sybs - I love that non-fiction extract! So sweet! Poncing on there pray! She deserves full marks!

Kayz - I'd give up for now and try TT at a later date.

Glad you're all delighted with my poo story. I can't believe I dragged DD1 into it.

DH out tonight and feck all on the telly. Weep.

AAAvegetable · 18/10/2011 20:34

Oh Gosh, heartbreaking evening with DD1. Since Sept she has been obsessed with one girl in her class. Every eve it's "Doris this" and "Doris that" (fake name used for pointless reasons. Doris seems nice enough, the nanny has had her over here on play dates and says Doris is less innocent than DD1 and more stroppy but my limited exposure to Doris has given me the impression she's pretty sweet. Last night at parents' eve the teacher said Doris cries at drop off each morning but had not yesterday as she'd walked in with DD1 so could DD1 walk in with her everyday. I agreed and told DD1 who was v happy. This morning DD1 tried to hold Doris' hand on the way in to class and Doris refused.

Then tonight DD1 said Doris refused to play with her today and told her they played together too much. DD1 was very sad and had asked a few more times to play but Doris and two other girls kept running away from her. I tried to suggest she just play with other girls for a few days but she kept saying she loved Doris and missed her already. She then spent the next hour writing notes for Doris and went to bed saying she hopes to dream of Doris.

What on earth shall I do? She needs to tone down her approach or Doris will probably continue to reject her. How can I explain that? I don't want my lovely girl hurt and I shudder at her feeling rejected.

Gah, I'm not ready for my babies to face the realities of the real world.

JumpJockey · 18/10/2011 21:26

Oh A poor dd1. This is the down zide of having girls, without wanting to stereotype horrifially they can be so much more sensistive about this sort of thing. There isna charlie and lola episode where lotta goes off to play with another girl and lola 'wins her back' at the end, it's called My best bestest friend - would she take any comfort from seeing that this happens to lots of people? I want to send her a huge cuddle.
Oh beans you are hilarious. God bless the potette.
Kayz lovely names :)
Our meeting went ok, they thinkms is super clever and can get a bit bored, plus she crqves attention because E is being so demanding at the moment - so we will try some sessions where E is having her settli g in and i take s out for time just her and me. She basically never gets any time with me without E aboutm so may be trying to get attention in other ('non desirable behaviour' Hmm) ways.

ZuleikaJambiere · 18/10/2011 22:39

Beans I laughed and laughed at your poo story, you get better and better! Grin

Huge congratulations to Kiwi, beautiful name. I hope the BF settles down quickly, sounds grim for you x

So Envy of the meet up, sounds really lovely

Good luck with the move Spot and with village life. Sounds like LadyT has it cracked! Have fun at your Mums LadyT

Pleased to hear that both Pd and Jump's meetings with school/nursery were worth the effort and I hope solutions are found quickly. Jump I wondered if the TT regression is an attention seeking thing? Is it only at nursery, or at home too? And al fresco naps for E, I found the fresh air to be a real sleep inducer for my E - she once napped for 2 hours in a snowstorm and woke up to more than an inch of snowdrift on the raincover of the pram, but was as happy as larry. Shame I couldn't bung her out there in the middle of the night!

Ooh, ooh, ooh. I'm in the bath and little one is kicking away and I just saw my tummy move! I never saw that with E, so weird. Smile

Love the Thanks , good find Trace

Ick Kayz, sounds tough. I hope you get well very soon, lots of rest for you. I love quite a few of those names

Hurrah for kitchen completion (or so close) Sybs, will M miss Bob the builder? Loving the poncy leopards! Grin

So tough AAA, I wish they never have to learn that life isn't always rosy. Poor A

I had such a lovely weekend with my friends, so nice to get away, and I even indulged in a cheeky cocktail both nights - what a treat. And funnily enough the girls without children turned all homely and cooked and tidied and did all the housework stuff in the cottage, so the rest of us were properly pampered. When I called home for chat DD asked 'are you coming home one day Mummy?' - heartbreaking to hear, now she can articulate her thoughts. I got a super cuddle on Sunday night though

Can I ask a bit of a favour of you ladies? A friend of mine has trained as a BF peer support worker and with her co-peers is doing amazing work setting up clinics and meeting clackered and new mums and taking calls at all hours etc. They don't have any funding, just support in the form of a free room for clinics at the surestart centre for a couple of hours a week, and referrals from MWs and HVs, so are bidding for a grant from NatWest. If you don't have your own community projects to vote for, can I tempt you to add a vote for this one? They want to get literature, DVDs, demo dolls etc, plus training in support for a healthy lifestyle too - one young mum asked my friend if it was ok to smoke while BF, cause she didn't like waiting til the feed was finished Sad. Thank you lovely ladies, I don't think it closes til the end of the week.

Rubena · 18/10/2011 23:40

Tried to catch up, but got to Beans alfresco entry, died laughing, and have no time to carry on reading! Oh God, priceless!!!!!!!!!
Total work done for work tomorrow = zero
Total glasses of wine drunk = 3
I'm in a logistical childcare nightmare since my work roster yesterday, and I haven't even started properly!!
Will have to catch up later x

KiwiPanda · 19/10/2011 08:25

Vag are you in London then?! I'm in SW18 now

KiwiPanda · 19/10/2011 08:28

Beans that is a priceless story!!

DD2 up rather a lot of the night - is there a 5 day growth spurt?! God this tKes me back, blaming everything on growth spurts... She must have fed 5 times between 2 and 4 am - which would be fine if it didn't hurt so damn much!!

Nolda · 19/10/2011 11:56

Kayz - So sorry you're sick. Get well soon.

Beans - You are hilarious with the poo stories Grin.

Congratulations, Kiwi. Hope Vag can solve the latch issues.

AAA - That's heartbreaking about your DD1. My DD still talks about playing with your DD1 in London. She thinks she is great. She will come over and sort Doris out for her if you like!

Jeepers, is that the time, got to go and get E from Pre-School!

Beans36 · 19/10/2011 17:10

AAA - that's so sad for your DD1. Makes my heart hurt for her. She'll be ok in the end, but doesn't help in the short term. Is there any update from today?

I am seething. DD1 is v unsettled in nursery recently and has been wetting her pants a bit there. They moved her from toddlers to Stepping Stones and her teachers keep changing. She has finally bonded with her latest key worker and now, with no notice to the parents or any information, they have put this new teacher in with her. She is really quite strict and not very loving with the children and I know DD1 doesn't really like her. I don't particularly either, to be honest. But her lovely key worker told me about it today. She's not happy either and thinks that the children aren't being put first by the management. And she is about to hand in her notice. I am gutted. Am wording a brutal email to the nursery as am really peeved about the lack of continuity and security for DD1 and the other children. Grrr. Was going to send DD2 there, but as things stand, I dont' really want to. Although they do seem to have the baby section fairly well sorted and as we're probably not around for longer than 6 months, I don't want to change DD1 into a totally new nursery as that's even more unnerving for her. Oh what to do!