July 2010: Warning, this thread contains offensive language; 1 wedding, --d--jogging and some Creme Eggs (although we don't know why). Oh and some babies who are nearly 1 year old.

[CakeandRoses]

See? Panicking works!

that sounds complicated with swapping the nursery days mlic! Sounds like a good plan to spend some time with E on his own, bet he'll enjoy that and W will get loads out of nursery.

listening to J burbling away in his cot - hope he'll go to sleep by himself, could do without having to have him sleep on me this morning!

OK, so my cats are being feeble about the stairgate - I will stop pandering to them! I'm sure they'll get the hang of it soon, even the fat lazy one...

F's nursery do short settling in sessions when you leave them for a couple of hours (free of charge) - could you do that mlic?

Telling your baby not to bite the dog sounds like one of those things you never thought you'd have to!

Who's using a play pen/travel cot now? Just got ours out at the weekend so we could all watch a film and A loved it. F used to too and kept wanting to get in it again now...

trudy the sippy cups which aren't nonspill are fine as they don't suck them - the very basic tommee tippee one is ideal and is the one most nurseries use. F still uses one sometimes just to prevent mess even tho he's perfectly capable of using an open cup.

Ok who changed the weather, its now got rain for Fri. Its really sunny today fgs why cant it just be nice for one sodding day?

Ill put pics up on the day as we go along, no pics before!

ah sorry mlic, i misunderstood what you said re nursery. sounds like a plan re swapping them. tbh, with everything you have on your plate i think you should do whatever it takes to get a bit of an easier time.

must do your back in getting him in and out of the travel cot as they're so low.

keep meaning to ask, does dh walk the dogs at the weekend?

dh move away from the weather forecast. they;re often wrong and you'll have a wonderful day whatever the weather. ours was all outside and when i was booking the venue (the forest) the chap said he'd had an outdoor wedding and there was a thunder storm but everyone danced around in the mud and had an amazing time!

feeling a bit stressed/sad about going back to work and leaving A lately. it feels like the year 'off' has sped by and reality's just round the corner.

I understand how you feel about leaving A cake. Must be tough. Do you know yet, how you're gonna do it? How many days or hours per day?

I'm a weather stresser too dh. No matter how often I tell myself, there is nothing I can do about it, I still get upset and angry if the forcast is bad for when I have something nice planned. But cake is right, you'll enjoy it no matter what.

Thanks for the advice about the sippy cups mlic and cake.

thanks trudy and mlic.

she's such a friendly, confident thing that she'll probably love it - and she'll see a bit of her hero F there too. she'll literally go to anyone and let them swan off with her i guess i feel sad that i'm choosing a situation where she doesn't need me for a whole day anymore

i'm going to put her in for half a day per week from mid-july so that once i get my job/hours sorted i'll she'll be settled about nursery

good luck with the mot!

........ we got up at 8.45 this morning! I really want to say thank you, thank you, thank you for the nap advice as it seems to be paying off with the arse crack wake ups. He still wakes up 1500 times a night so I hope I don't sound too smug.

Cake et al re No. Its basically what you've been discussing, that for an older child its nicer / better to hear positives rather than No all the time. I'm just trying to get in the habit now rather than have to change the way I speak to him later. For some people the more you say it, the more you say it IYSWIM and you might start using it when you just cba with mess etc. If you save NO! for trully dangerous situations they will take notice of it, not just hear it as Mummy saying no again. Don't know if it works as he's pfb but I read Unconditional Parenting and it was like a light going on for me - "My name is Albrecht and I am a praise junkie." I had a pretty miz childhood with my mum sulking and complaining about what I did all the time and I felt sometimes like I'was turning into her pre-ds so I want to make a big effort to make his life happier than mine. But I appreciate not everyone has this baggage so might not apply to most people.

stac I handed out invitations to everyone there so that was progress for me even if no-one comes. Felt like a shy 8 year old though. I don't think I'll ever feel like a real grown up. How was R last night?

dh Your cake sounds lovely. If you get married in the UK you just can't guarantee fine weather, not that that is going to stop you checking every 15 minutes, I'd be the same. Fancy umbrella sounds a good plan just in case.

Trud Our dentist gave us a leaflet that said they recommend free-flow spouts or open cups from 6 months. And water is the best drink.

Those in the anxiety (padded) corner. Something that really helped me, with the fear of something bad has / will happen - My therapist said its your job to keep them warm and fed and loved and to stop them from climbing in the oven. Its not your job to stop them dying, as its out of your control, they might get sick, there might be an accident you can't prevent. Concentrate on what you can control, not what you can't (same goes for weather really!).

Weather here was A-palling this morning, now only a bit dire so we might go for another mamoth walk this pm. Did about 8 miles up and down hills with the buggy on Saturday. My bum muscles were aching the next day!

albrecht totally understand what your thearpist said, my mum says I worry too much about L, but saying that the volunteer jumps at every bang he has and I dont move! he bangs his head about 40 times a day!!! I realised the problem with my worry about DH the other week when we were on the bikes, a van pulled out on dh and I screamed but it stopped then almost pulled out on me after, I was so worried at dh but wasnt bothered that it could have killed me too!!
cakes It has gone quickly but im sure she will love nursery.
mlic fingers crossed for the car passing!
dh in sure the weather will be fine there is such a short amount of time you will be outside I just hope it will be ok for that short time! on my dads wedding I had to hold my stepmums veil for all the photos as the gail force winds were blowing it in the air so on all the pics it looks like ive got my arm around her! Enjoy the day and dont worry about the weather it is something you cant control.
The volunteer took L for a walk but the sun started beating down and she was worried he would burn as bad mammy forgot to put cream in his bag (I actually took it out of pushchair!)
Did anyone watch choosing to die last night? I found it quite facinating, but not the sort of place I would pay 10 grand for the pleasure of them giving me poison, if the time comes I will ring Hazel in Emmerdale!

Oh my....my dad has just left with my 4.5yo brother you remember the one who isnt long out of nappies!! well this week he has been scared in his room (he has only just gone from cot to bed) so they have let him sleep in their bed (he is the size of a 6-7yo) he still cant pull his own pants up or down when he has a wee and then my dad says oh when he starts at school in sept they have a reading corner where if they are tired they can have a nap...is this normal? because no one wants to cross my brother when hes tired as he has a temper??? WTF !!! I told my dad well school will sort his temper out! Im more and more stunned everytime my dad opens his bloody mouth, he seems to think L will be in nappies til 4 'because boys are lazy' I had to remind him my other brother was in pants at 18 months and dry at night by 2.5!!! silly silly old man!!! sorry about rant, I just think he is ruining his bloody life by not guiding him at all!!!

Hey everyone. Have read all the posts but haven't the energy to try and remember everything. Have been really sick all day and feel really crap. Been puking and in pain so must be a bug. Thankfully dp's brother has came down and minded E all day he's soo good.
Mlic you're definately making the right decision with nursery. Will be lovely for E to have some alone time with you too!
Dh i have everything crossed for you for the weather. Can't believe it came around so quick!
cake when are you going on hols?

mlic

Thanks everyone, I know it'll be an amazing day no matter what the weather. Just so typical that its been lovely today.

Getting really nervous now!

oh fuck. spoke to HR today and work is looming very realistically now. without getting into boring details, i was on gardening leave for a few months before maternity leave with A so i have been talking to them about what job i'll return to. it looks like it'll be a 'big job' which i'll then have to try to do in 20 hours

it's kinda my own fault as i don't want to feel like i've lost my previous levels of power so have been acting all catherine tate's 'i can do that' woman.

but.... i lurch between that and wanting to be at home with a flour-covered cath kidston pinny

Hello,
WSS I hope ur ok and somehow caught up on some sleep a bit! D was awake from 3.05 till about 4.20 last night, not crying but just crying out every few mins and banging the side of the cot with his head.....for all that time!! The banging got to me in the end so i went in and i swear he was asleep and doing it all in his sleep, i pulled him down the cot rubbed his back for about 20 seconds and he was flat out, i crept back to bed but DH was wide awake by then however we had a nice time helping eachother to go back to sleep.......so im double shattered today! and had to go to work!
I had to take the cat to the vet today with a lump on the side of her head, its a bone tumor he reconed and he has given her 3 to 4 weeks before we probably are going to have to make a difficult decision....rubbish
kk i have told two friends in rl and might even wait for the abnormality results before i tell anyone, although the boss is visiting on thursday and i cant decide wether to tell him or not.
right its not even half 9 but im off to bed, wheres my life gone??

cake and this is the shit bit about being a woman, i understand where ur coming from (although not about the flour covered pinny cos i dont cook!) but the power/position thing. Its very hard but i think u will be happier in yourself if u can remove yourself from said pinny and flex your business muscles again. I feel strangly content most of the time at work and now im worried about not being able to go back after this baby. I have been in management for the past 13 years so its a hard habit to break and its one of the few things im naturally good at, its helped my self confidence no end going back. Will u agree to a trial period?
Right, bed!!