*~*~* August 2010 *~*~* where does the time go?

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Only 5 spaces left on the old thread - wonder how long it'll take us to fill ths one up?

Happy chatting :)

Hello Dedalus! Hope you're well.

Thanks LCR - that's really useful.

Hello deldalus :) was wondering where you'd got to.

belly that sounds like a very eventful weekend! I've not been around as much cos J has been really clingy and whingy the last few days and I'm not sure why Hopefully just a short phase.

LCR I've been wondering this too. J currently has a feed before his nap (around midday), one at bedtime, one in the night and sometimes an early morning and/or mid afternoon feed. I'm really in two minds about whether or not to carry on after he's one. I know it's good for him but I kind of want my body to get back to 'normal'. And if there's a window of opportunity for stopping easily I don't think I want to miss it. We might start ttc in about 10 months (eek!) and I don't want to feed while pg.

sorry dedalus

Hello.

I have finished feeding ds. He had his last bfeed about 4weeks ago. I stopped because it felt like the right time. I was only feeding at bedtime then early morning (4-5ish) then around 7ish sometimes. I stopped the bedtime feed first as he was not very bothered having had dinner not very long beforehand. Dh put him to bed with some cows milk in a bottle for a couple of nights then I did and he didn't ask for the boob, just wanted the bottle. Then we noticed him getting quite cross when bfing in the morning so switched him to a bottle then too and have had no proplems since. I was surprised at how easy it was seeing as I had to stop feeding during the day because he was getting agressive.

He is teething atm and keeps biting.

Hi all, that is a good question about the feeding. Thomas has been on the bottle now for nearly 3 months, as he self weaned when we moved. He has breakfast at 6.30ish, then a bottle at 9am. He has lunch and then a bottle about 1pm, he then has dinner at 6pm and a bottle just before bed. I too have been wondering for how long we keep giving the milk.

I didn't know we could give cows milk now. He has that with his porridge, but I've not given it to him as a drink. So are you all planning on dropping formula/breast and giving cows milk?

My beautiful Tessa dog was cremated yesterday and now I'm just waiting for her ashes to be returned so that I can bring her home. I've bought an urn as I'm not going to scatter her ashes, well not just yet anyway.

Hope everyone is well.

Sorry to hear about your dog :(

We are using cows milk because he has refused everything else. Plus they say it is fine from 12m (ds is 11m) I did speak to the hv about it though. The follow on milk is meant to be very good, especially if they are not great eaters.

Ds seems to eat so much! I swear he will eat us out of house and home.

marzi I too have a clingy, whingy girl - but in between she's lovely .
I have a vague plan to feed E until she's 2 as per WHO recommendations. At the moment, she gets a feed when she wakes, one at about 2pm ish and one at bedtime. She doesn't really demand them as such but is very keen when the boob appears. I am planning to drop the middle of the day feed when she's one (only about three weeks!) then I imagine the other two will go sort of naturally.
I am planning to give her cow's milk in her sippy cup during the day (no idea if she'll drink it, she's had nowt but booby milk and water to drink but she has cow's milk in porridge, scrambled egg, and cooking sauces). The other day I had to go out all day with work and didn't get home til 4ish and my boobs were really quite full and uncomfortable by then and I had to drain them straight away, so think it won't be terribly comfortable when I drop the feed - any tips?

This might be a good Christmas present? bluemilk.wordpress.com/2011/07/07/how-to-do-discrete-breastfeeding/

They are brilliant, wish I was still bf, just so I could get one .

How is everyone today. How are the pregnant Mums? Not heard from any of you for a while. Hope all is going well.

Thomas is having less and less naps in the afternoon, but he is far more tired at night, completely opposite to 2 weeks ago. Phew.

Going to arrange his birthday party this weekend. I really cannot believe he will be 1 year old on the 21st. Cannot believe a whole year has gone by. It is certainly true when they say they grow up quickly.

Hope everyone is well, take care xx

Bought Thomas his first proper pair of shoes from Clarkes yesterday. They are already improving his walking 10 fold. He loves wearing them and is much braver in them, now walking the gap between the two sofas. Don't think it will be long until he's walking completely on his own. Still no crawling, think he has missed out that phase .

Hope everyone is well. Take care x

I'm here-ish, just feel so sick at the mo that screen time makes it worse.

S stopped bfing the day before his 1st birthday, one day he just didn't want it anymore. He was down to 2 feeds a day anyway so it wasn't a huge thing to drop it completely.

dogwalker sorry about your lovely dog, it's never easy :(

S is walking everywhere now, not very steadily but doesn't want to crawl anymore. I've not got him shoes yet so he just potters around barefoot but I'll need to at some point.

baby hoes are shockingly pricey considering how little use you get. HV told us we didnt need them til she was actually walking so still using some soft ones she was given when she was born or going barefoot.

It's probably a big mistake saying this and will jinx everything, but E has been much better re earky wakings - about 6.30am or later for about a week, and 7.10am on saturday! It felt like bliss. I am having some trouble bf at the moment - not sure if it's a lazy latch issue or that she's not got to grips with all her new teeth, 5 now, but it hurts sometimes when feeding and I have little red marks on the top of the aureola. Think I'm going to visit the baby cafe on Friday when I'm off - bet they don't get too many 11 month olds!

Dedalus, great to hear from you, and also good to see you chulita - hope the 1st trimester crapness passes soon.

I like going barefoot anyway so I don't want to force him to wear shoes :)

at your 'late' wakings, S is still on 5.15am and it's killing me. Honestly, I can't function properly at the moment I'm that tired. I just need to be able to wake up at a normal time.

belly it wouldn't be surprising if you've both got a bit lazy as she gets older, might be worth working on the latch again!

Oof - Chulita, hope you get over the queasy stage soon. Rank. Am definitely thinking of all you preggos in this heat. And sorry to hear about the early waking. We're having a little lucky spell too with wake ups closer to 7am than 5am. I thought it was the fact that it's a bit darker in the mornings these days than a month or so ago, but maybe it's just a phase. Better enjoy it while it lasts!

Those beanies are hilarious LCR!! Hehe. Wicked present idea... I might have to order a couple.

Good idea about the bf cafe, Belly - I reckon Chulita is probably right that you're probably so relaxed about it now that it's got a bit too lazy, if you know what I mean.

Eli's got properly enormous feet. He's already grown out of his 12-18 month soft shoes. Sigh...

Oops, and he's woken up from his nap. Better go!

x

belly I've had a bit of trouble feeding since J got teeth at the top. It was really sore at first and they still sometimes dig in a bit but he seems to have more or less adjusted to them now.
LCR love those hats
chulita hope you feel better soon - you must be so tired!
dogwalker I've been wondering if getting J some shoes would help him with walking - he can stand unaided a little bit now but tends to wobble about on his toes a lot. Glad to hear T's doing well

J has been doing horrible poos recently! Explosive ones which cover him in tiny little flakes of poo which are nearly impossible to wipe off. I'm not sure if it's something he's eaten or what but it's been going on for nearly a week and is very annoying!

I spoke too soon! E woke at 4am then back down til 7 the night after I posted and has been
doing 6am the past two mornings. Marzi, hope J is fine, E has done some atrocious poos recently - two today that were a bit diarrhoea esque, hope she hasn't sneakily eaten anything too horrid.

First full day for Eli with our nanny today. I'm not back at work yet, so felt totally bereft. You know that aching feeling in your chest? Not fun. Especially with torrential rain to boot. I think my main problem is that I don't even like my job (unlike my friend who we're sharing a nanny with). I just don't want an enormous gap in my CV. So torn. How's everyone else feeling about back to work stuff?

On the upside, we're off to France on our holidays tomorrow! I can ignore thoughts of work for another fortnight at least! X

nat :( that's no fun for you at all, different matter if you loved your job. Hope you have a lovely holiday! am very, very

I'm eating for britain at the mo, not nice but if I get hungry I feel really ill so I just eat and eat and eat. I feel absolutely huuuuuuge :( argh!

Nat hope you're feeling better, I know it's not easy, I hated going back to work and still long to be a SHAM, however, I do enjoy my job would just prefer to be at home with LO. Hope it all improves for you soon, be kind to yourself it will get easier and [hugs]

Was in the A&E and the childrens ward on Friday night with Thomas. my DH is over at the moment and looking after LO, I worked til 6.30 so didn't get in til late, but straight away knew that T wasn't well. His temperature was sky high and he had a rash all over his body which DH had not noticed .

Rang NHS direct who said they would get back to me within the hour, no, no, no I wasn't waiting that long so took hm to A&E where his temp was soaring, so they put him on the children's ward as they confirmed a fever but said the rash was nothing to worry about. At 1 am on Saturday morning he started drinking fluid again so they let us home. His temp was still been high all yesterday and this morning he is still hot but no fever. Been a stressful 48 hrs. At least my happy little boy still slowly returning. Never want to go through that again, but I know that was just the first of many worrying times.

Chulita hope the sickness wears off soon and go for it with the eating, why not.

Take care xx

Aw dogwalker that's really scary! Glad you're all home again now but poor you and T! Fingers crossed he picks up quickly and gets back to his normal self.

DH is off on a course today, I used to get on with him being away for months at a time but him going away for 4 weeks (and probably back for two of the weekends) is making me really sad. Methinks it's definitely time to look for a new job, we're pretty stable in this posting but the next place will most likely be a 'normal' one and I think I'm over the 6 months away business.

I'm going to try and distract myself this week by going up to our house and painting if the dc/ms will let me.

thanks belly his poo is back to normal now, I think it might have been down to satsumas disagreeing with him. Will avoid them for a while

dogwalker I hope T is completely better now, how worrying for you. We haven't been to A&E with J yet but I know it's bound to happen some time. One of the low points of being a parent.

chulita hope you're keeping well. I don't think I could cope with DH away for 4 days let alone weeks (think you're amazing too dogwalker). Has your DH got other job plans/options?

nat it must be so hard going back to a job you don't like. I feel very lucky to be able to be a SAHM. I don't have much on my CV (other than a pretty useless arts degree) so don't feel like I'm harming my job prospects too much but I'm hoping (possibly) to be a SAHM for ever so hopefully it won't matter. Was it you who was thinking of midwifery training? At least you've got something really positive to work towards. Hope you're having a great time in France :)

J has decided to try and learn to walk now. He has already done 2-3 steps a few times, don't think it'll be long

Thanks everyone, Thomas is fully fit again, .

Marzi how exciting, the first few stpes. Keep us updated.

My Dh will be working away until at least next May, then he will be able to join me and I cannot wait. This time he was away for 3 and 1/2 weeks and with my beloved dog dying, it felt like an eternity. Not sure how I'm going to cope when he goes to Afghanistan and I won't be able to ring him whenever I want to. Cross that bridge when I have to.

DH and I chatted and confirmed that we are definitley going to start ttc at beginning of September, so it's count down now.

Hope everyone is well. Take care xx

dogwalker, sounds like a a v scary experience with T, glad he seems to be fighting fit. And exciting about d-date for ttc!

First steps also amazing news. I think E is a way off, although she cruises she's gone off walking when you hold her hands and keeps sitting down. She can't stand on her own really either. But there's no rush.

I really feel for all you ladies with dhs who are away a lot. I think I'd struggle a lot without mine being around full time.

At last my T has decided that he would like to crawl. He has been cruising for ages and walks with the v-teck walker thingy but has shown no previous inclination to crawl, but last night he just decided it was time. He has been doing it again this morning. He doesn't crawl for long, still reverts to rolling if he wants to get anywhere quickly, but at least now he knows he can do it.

Au pair has asked if she can leave. She's only been here 2 months, and her boyfriend has proposed, so she wants to go back to sweden to be with him. I had asked for a minimum of 6 months as I wanted some continuity for Thomas, but now I'm having to look for another. Full time creche is not an option because in the 3 months that I've been back at work, I've worked past 7pm on 2 occassions and my local creche shuts at 6pm. Can't wait for DH to be here full time as then a creche could be an option and I could have my living space back. It is quite odd sharing your house with a stranger . It takes some getting used to. There are no child minders in the village, so au pair is really my only option. My DM is stepping in to the breach again to cover whilst I search, as it could take some time. Have to hope I get preggers quite quickly then I can go on maternity leave .

Hope everyone is well.

Great news on the crawling - but rubbish about your au pair. At my nursery, they move the babies up to the next room when they are walking confidently - moving on from their key person - so I think E will have a move before she's been there six months. Not that she seems particularly close to walking right now, mind you.

She has woken in the night twice the last week - once at 3am, when she went back down with a cuddle, and this morning at about 4.15am, when I ended up feeding her. It's very annoying, because I know she can do the sleeping and isn't actually hungry. Grrr. But at 3/4am, it's the easiest solution. Oh, and yesterday she woke at 5.40am and didn't go back down for more than 10 minutes, so that was a fun day. Heyho!