December 2010 - Merry Christmas new babies!

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Hi, I couldn't see a post-natal thread but as we grow in numbers we'll need a place to chat!

All good here... Jude is now 5 days old and such a wonderful good baby. Mind you he must think he's been born in the Arctic as it was -16 outside this morning in Edinburgh. Brrrrrrr - Its not always this cold Jude .

How's everyone else getting on?

So long pitterpatter - lovely story of Jasmine's arrival and its a feel god thread thats for sure. Best wishes will all the adventures to come... it will be lovely to hear from you again at some point.

WWSB - Rudbekia says it brilliantly - your DD is perfect and she always will be regardless of a diagnosis. She is your wonderful little girl and nothing will change that. I feel for you so much as the questions will be dominating your thoughts so much right now. Hopefully you will be seen soon and you can get some further information. I'm not sure if you are feeling in the right place for this, but there are some excellent threads on here regarding downs with some inspirational stories. I looked at them when I had a high risk result for downs and we were deciding on an amnio. I just wanted to read a little about life with a child with downs. Sending best wishes and huge hugs x

Ooops, feel 'good' thread!

WhatWillSantaBring Good to see you back. So sorry to hear that you have this worry and that your doctor is being so rubbish. I hope you get some answers soon.

Pitterpatter2 I hope you decide to stay if only to do as frankenfanny says and share stories of your little one as she grows.

PJen we have something called buggyfit here but I am too scared to join! I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight but unfortunately was at least a stone heavier than I am used to when I got pregnant. I also have a bit of a jelly-belly. Maybe I should man up and join some kind of class.

strix welcome back :)

A massive thank you to everyone who wrote such lovely supportive stuff when I was stressing about Bob. I think I was feeling quite blue and lately the whole birth/neo natal thing has been playing on my mind. I feel great today, after a really good 24 hours with Bob who has had regular naps and has been giving me the most amazing smiles.

We went to baby massage on Wednesday which was hilarious - 10 babies all wailing one after eachother. On the whole Bob seemed to really like it and I amm looking forward to the next few sessions. I also 'came out' to my NCT group and told them I had IVF. Not sure why I hadn't told them before but I am glad they all know now.

oh, and...

I hadn't noticed before but Bob has something weird going on with two of his toes. the two next to his big toe are slightly fused together! from the top they look normal but from the bottom they are slightly webbed! Google says it's quite common and may even correct itself. I'm not worried but will be asking the health visitor about them.

Wishing you all the best pitterpatter2

WWSB I don't think there's anything else I can add to everyone else's posts. Hope you aren't kept waiting too long. (hugs)

DF glad you've had a good day with Bob. I really enjoyed baby massage after I had DD. If you need to work through your birth/neo natal experience, make sure you do as it's horrible to be left with lingering questions/emotions (and I'm talking from experience). There must be a thing about feet today - I noticed a strange little red mark on the sole of Matthew's foot this evening - never noticed it before.

I've been having the most wonderful 'conversation' with Matthew all evening - lots of eye contact, smiles and goos and gaas from him. Absolutely scrumptious even if I say so myself. We also did an enthusiastic performance of The Timewarp - a sight to behold . Had him weighed yesterday - he's 11lb 11oz!

I've been trying to work out a strategy for visiting my ILs. They live about an hour's drive away. Now DD has started school, it's not practical to try to drive down there spend a decent amount of time there and get back before she finishes school. DH works most weekends and MIL looks after SIL's children 2 days a week. IL's won't/don't come up to see us unless it's a really exceptional occasion (they came after Matthew was born but they only stayed an hour ). So basically, I've come to the conclusion that they'll never get to see the four of us at the same time unless they are prepared to travel up to us more often. I feel sorry for MIL as she'd love to see DD & DS more but she can't drive so is reliant on FIL who can be awkward to say the least. It's not helped by the fact that my DM&D only live 5 mins away so they see the children all the time. Hey ho.

DH has summoned me to settle Matthew for the night. Hope you all get some good sleep tonight.

Thank you for all the support- feeling calmer today after a friend (who happens to be a dr) said she probably wouldnt even refer DD as she looks fine.

Might not be able to use mn for a week or spas we're going to without Internet for a while, but I will update when I can.

Or so, not or spas, though a spa would be nicer than what next week holds in store!

WWSB sorry for what you're going through at the moment, have they said how long a referral might take?

DF Bob sounds like my DD1, she hated to be put down and when she was grumpy/tired would only settle for me but soon as DH was home on fridays was all smiles for him. She grew out of it in a few months and I'm sure Bob will too.

I'm in so much pain right now, I hoped my periods wouldn't be much worse after having Kira but it definately is. Sorry for TMI but it's really heavy - almost as heavy as post-birth and more painful than afterpains. I can berely stand for the time it takes to make toast so I'm having to take painkillers which make me want to sleep.

To make it worse it's my birthday and I'm feeling like hell . Oh well it can only get better - till next month.

TMI, sorry, but have to have a moan....looks like periods have started again. sigh. seven weeks after the birth and me BFing too. oh well, its been lovely not having to cope with them for the best part of a year.

DF, glad you're feeling more positive about things and Bob is being gorgeous for you! it melts my heart every time DD smiles at me, utterly lovely!

Max, sorry to hear things with ILs are difficult. I have an ongoing mission with my MIL who is hard work to say the least, very well meaning, but pretty useless on the practical front and quite manipulative when she wants to be....I'm now immune to gulit-trips! Hope you work something out for the best...

WWSB, hope your week goes ok, my thoughts are with you x

right ho, DD has just filled her nappy (again!!!!) so must dash!

that should be 'guilt'....doh!

hi everyone,

df glad the baby massage was fun, I can't wait till our class starts :)

max my advice would be don't see the ILs but thats because i'm evil and you obviously want to see yours so i have no useful advice...

crazykat and rudbekia sorry about the periods, specially the painful ones ck :( are they usually worse after giving birth?

no sign of mine yet but I do have a different painful issue :( me and DH attempted sex a few days ago, may be tmi but basically I say attempted as I couldn't fit him in :( i did have a 3rd degree tear and i'm not sure if its normal (still healing)/scar tissue/sewn up too tight
it really hurt :( and i feel like it will never be normal again, any advice or experience gratefully received (DD is 8 weeks)

Yeah they've got worse after each DC, usually it settles down but unfortunatley not to what they were pre-pregnancy. Hopefully meds will start to work by tomorrow and I'll be able to do something other than curl up.

kitty I don't have any experience of tearing and how it heals but I know the first couple of times we tried sex it was a bit painful. The only advice I can give is to try to relax and make sure you're ready IYKWIM and not try to rush (easier said than done with a young baby).

WWSB I am sure your DD is just fine and probably that's why the GP didn't say anything as he thought the chance is low and didn't want to get you worried. Although he could explain.

DF join. I feel so good after it everytime and you get to meet other mums. BTW good job on going back to prepregnancy weight. Like u I got pregnant at my fattest. I have 4 lbs to after pregnancy and 9 lbs to my normal weight.

WWSB - I'm glad you got some comfort from your doctor-friend. Your DD is very lucky having you as a mum - it's clear from your posts that you love her to bits and worry so much about her. :)

Kittybump - ouch - but I did have a giggle at your "sewn up too tight" comment

Empathy with the painful periods, rudbekia and crazykat. I've been on the minipill for two weeks now and I'm bleeding every day. It makes me feel so miserable and grotty.

Hannah's doing well. We're up to 12lb 1oz. Had a pretty tough two weeks with a growth spurt where I was glued to the sofa breastfeeding some evenings for 5-6 hours . It was relentless and I was getting frustrated. But just when you think you can't take anymore, it all stops and she's back to the routine :)

Had a lovely day. Got a makeover and some superskinny jeans and met a friend for lunch. I haven't ventured to any mum and baby clubs yet. Not sure what I fancy doing but would like to meet some mums. Most of my friends are childless by choice or their children are older.

Have a lovely weekend everyone...

well, last night was a mare - DD seemed fine, bath, feed bed...haha! DH got her totally wound up after her feed so she was wide awake, but also overtired, and would she settle?! hell no. he then left to get himself a pizza and I was stuck for an hr with a screaming baby, trying to sort food for myself and getting no-where. he got home and I told him to take her out in the car. fortunately this settled her enough that she was able to fall asleep - at 9pm ish - then she was up at 12, 4 and 8 for feeds.....

her routine is shot for the day, timings all over the place. I know this doesn't matter per se, but I still seem to be struggling with this damned virus (chest really isn't good ) and that combined with a period are making me grouchy as hell. I'd forgotton how bloody crappy period hormones could make you feel - so far I'm not too bad on the pain front (thank God), its more my mood that seems to be suffering! oh well....

steno so far I've not been to any mum and baby groups. DD just 7wks today and I feel she's still a bit too young - I know they say stimulation is good for them, but she manages an hr, maybe and hr and a half of 'awake' time, with chatting and smiles etc before she gets really tired and grotty. I'm also trying to avoid exposing her to too many germs - she's already had a pretty horrible cold and with all the nasties round the moment..I know it probably sounds a bit neurotic! I'm fortunate that there are a couple of new mums where I live, and although we didn't know each other before, we try and see one another on a weekly basis for a cuppa.

sun is shining today, and the birds were singing first thing...roll on Spring!!!

Hello all, just popping in quickly as have managed to get on a real computer for a change !

WWSB I am sorry you are going through this stress, I hope everything works out for you and your family. I agree the GP should have given you more information, some of them have no people skills.

Periods not yet started again for me but IIRC they didn't last time until I finished breastfeeding which may be sooner than I think this time! Hugh seems to be teething already, he has 4 obvious teeth at the top and 2 at the bottom and has all the signs they are on there way through I know they can appear at any stage but it was 6 months for DD.

Hugh has been nicknamed Huge Hugh at the weigh in clinic - he is on 98th percentile for length at 61cm and 91st percentile for weight - he weighed 14lb5 at 8 weeks I have no idea how I have ended up with such a big baby, he was only 7lb 7 at birth but seems to be growing exponentially. He is in age 3-6 month outfits and will be out of those in the next couple of weeks, he is in a size 4 nappy as well!! I have been blessed with a little corker, he sleeps through most nights from 11pm to 6ish and apart from the early evenings when is clearly "awake" and playing he is very settled. He feeds about 0730-0800 then goes with DH on the walk to school, then sleeps to about 1130 - awake for a feed and play then sleeps again from 2pm - 5 when he is then up until we go to bed, sometimes dozing sometimes awake. He does cluster feed in the evenings but isn't too demanding. He is holding his head up and we are getting a bumbo in a couple of weeks form a friend and he is more than ready to go in as he can sit with minimal support (probably supported by all his blubber )

I am off out tonight for my first baby free night, DH is looking after both children on his own for first time so may get an early recall!! Off for an old work reunion so am currently deciding what to wear.

Will try and pop back in again. Hope eveyone else is coping ok and I promise I will try to read more regulalrly

lol kitty - I can't say I'm keen to see my FIL but my MIL is fab . Re sex, we got back in the saddle so to speak last weekend. Apart from a few tender spots where my stitches had been, it was fine. Having said that, my friend had a 2nd degree tear (like me) and when she had her pn check up the dr did ask her if she'd tried having sex as she 'wasn't sure the mw had left enough room' My friend rushed home and got down to business with her DH and they did manage it. Has anyone checked your perineum recently?

crazy sorry to hear your periods are worse. Mine haven't returned yet (8 weeks pn) and I'm not BF so I'm quite suprised. They had returned by 6 weeks after I had DD. Maybe it's down to one being an emcs and the other a vbac delivery.

steno at your superskinny jeans - I'm still resorting to hold everything in knickers to reduce my michelin man look . TBF though I was really bad at doing anything to regain my pre-pg status after I had DD - it was only about 6 months later that I thought I should make an effort and that worked out ok. I'm a bit worried that being 4yrs older will make it harder, but there's little I can do about that.

rudbekia sorry you're feeling rough. Matthew's had a cough for a few days and I think he's given it (in the form of a cold) to me. I can just feel myself starting to go downhill with it. FWIW I think you're right not to expose your DD to too many other babies at least until she's had her jabs. One of my big worries with Matthew was that DD was starting big school and I was certain she'd be brigning home all manner of germs that he'd get. Fingers crossed, it's not been too bad. at your DH - I'd be having serious words if my DH tried that.

good to her from you MrsS wow, Hugh sounds like he's coming on in leaps and bounds. Have a good time tonight.

Anyone got anything nice planned for valentine's day? My DH is on nights until Tuesday so we'll barely see each other let alone do anything!

oh god Max, can a doctor tell just by looking?
I haven't done the deed yet and am scared to even look at my stitches. Mine was a 2nd degree cut and the doctor said the person stitching did a 'really good job' but I don't even remember him being down that end to oversee!

I'm another one with no periods yet, though I did bleed on and off for over 5 weeks so maybe what I thought was Lochia was really a period?

Hi all, just checking in after busy few days and another tussle with mastitis

WWSB glad you got some reassurance from your friend, your GP sounds pretty rubbish.

kitty I only had first degree tear with Dd but a lot of grazing and was pretty bruised and IIRC it took several months before I felt ok to have sex - probably about 5, sorry if that's too depressing. This time round, DH and I had a go last week and although it feels a lot better than after DD, we had to stop after a bit as it was sore where I tore this time (again 1st degree and no stitches). It may just take time, you might both need to be patient, however I have no experience of being stitched or more serious tear so don't know if you need to check this out with GP. FWIW my DSIS needed to be re-swen eventually and AFAIK has no problems now.

hiya,

thanks for all the advice re sex, I think I was overeacting and underestimating how long it would take to heal, I thought all bruising would have healed by now but maybe not. we tried again earlier on and it was a bit better, so i think the patience tip is right :)
max lol at 'has anyone checked your perineum lately?' but seriously, no no-one in a professional capacity :) I did get DH to have a look - I was telling a friend about this (i have no idea why!) and she said 'I hope I find someone one day who I would be so comfortable with that i'd show them my bum hole' pmsl

also, 2 of my friends are pg and they both independently said they'd prefer it if their DHs stayed up the head end during the birth i was quite suprised, did anyone here feel like that?

hello steno mrsSL and wll
long time no see :) sorry about the mastisis wll.
My HV says she thinks i never had thrush glad i spent 10 days plying DD with medicine and rubbing oral gel on my nips!

Buggar!!! DS (3) has chicken pox! Covered in spots but thankfully not too unwell! Just don't want DD (7 weeks) to get it. trying to keep him away from his sister is difficult though and he does look hurt when I say he can't cuddle her at the moment .

Tried the sex thing a couple of times, feels ok, better than when I had DS (stitches with him). Need to work on the old pelvic floor though; DH said he can't tell any difference but not sure if he's just being kind - feelsa bit, erm, baggy IYKWIM?

steno couldn't manage superskinny jeans prior to pregnancy so !! Need to exercise but hard to find the time - DD will not go down in the day. Not sure if it's related to her silent reflux (gaviscon not making any difference) or whether she just likes her cuddles? Have bought a swing which is being delivered on monday so hopefully that will entertain her for 5 mins? She hates the bouncy chair!!

Hope everyone's weekend going well

MrsS wow and lol at your not so little one! 'Huge Hugh' did make me chuckle hope you enjoyed your baby-free night...I had one of those on Tues - some friends in the village were having a girly film night, so went round for food, wine (had expressed earlier, yay!) and company. DH managed fine with DD and it was just lovely to have a bit of baby-free time...does that sound bad?!

CJ boo at the chicken pox - my little sis ended up with it before 6 months due to having two older sisters! She did fine though, my mum always figured it was best to get these things out the way before starting school (but a worry all the same...)

re. the sex thing DH and I haven't tried yet....I had an episiotomy which, fair play, was done very neatly and stiched beautifully (so I'm told) and healed some time ago. I was very bruised tho and am still having mild coccyx issues too so I'm being a bit of a wuss and putting it off until the 6wk check with my GP (this wk). I suppose I just wanted to give it as much of a chance to settle as possible. DH saw it all, BTW, and said all the blood, guts and gore pale into insignificance at seeing the baby 'born'...but I can imagine if your DH was a bit queasy then staying at head end might be better! By the time we got to that point I'd given up caring - legs in stirrups, everything on display...oh well!

As for DH and overexciting our DD before bed, I think he's learnt his lesson! he's normally so good with her and will always listen to me about what to do etc Its been a tough week for him, very long hrs meaning he's missed bath time apart from one night and it really upsets him. I think he's just accepted that come a certain time any cuddles have got to be 'quiet'...

no plans for Valentine's here!

morning all

Matthew was back to feeding every 3-4hrs last night which I thought we'd moved past and I had trouble sleeping in between (can't quite believe that!) due to this poxy cold. Typical that it has to be when DH is on nights so I'm on duty 24/7. I seriously don't know how single parents do it.

Morning all, just enjoying my hour of peace! Dh taking dd to school and HH (huge Hugh!) goes in pram for a walk, means he then sleeps until about 1130 when he wakes to feed AGAIN! No wonder he is so big he just eats and sleeps with the odd hour of play!
Night out was good dh coped fine and I was home by 11. Nice to catch up with very old friends, some I hadn't seen for 15yrs
very brave those that have tried sex again! I need to get my contraception sorted first
Right off to do some work, boss is really struggling on his own so I have been sneaking in and covering some bits for him without our top boss knowing!
Hope everyone has a good day!

mrsS Huge Hugh :) bless him! In contrast Bea was weighed at 8 weeks and she was 7lb 15oz and still in Newborn.

I am through the tonsilitus now and just got a niggly cough now. Bea was a little 'off' yesterday, she hardly fed and had terrible gurgly tummy all day, small poos. This morning there was a large splat and poo came out the top and legs, it was also sloshing around in her nappy. Big clean up and a few more sloshy wet poos since, no escapoos tho.

Jabs this week and friday off to see if my thyroid has settled down again.

Seen a few friends who have LO's the same age as Bea and it's interesting to hear how they are feeling, one is back to work at the end of the month, she had a rough pregnancy and labour and hasn't bonded with her little boy and can't wait to be back in the office. I feel a bit odd as out of all of them, i want more and don't mind being a SAHM.