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FEB 2010 Longer out than in and first Christmases around the corner...we're 9 months on.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 07/11/2010 19:08

Shiny new thread, as promised fellow FEBers!

Figured we would start another new one to mark first birthdays, bethlou, so I've held fire on referencing that landmark in this thread title - hope that's okay with y'all!

Anyway, welcome everybody, pull up a comfy chair, someone get the wine out and I'll open a huge box of chocolates for us all to share.

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bearcrumble · 26/11/2010 10:42

AbsB I crossposted with you. Didn't see yours yesterday. So glad you all had a lovely time in Paris, it sounds fantastic, except for the snottiness over baby facilities. I thought all European countries were better than the UK for that sort of thing...

Last night we kept DS up until 7.40 as it was papa's last night with us. He went to sleep really quickly and slept until 6.30. I got a little bit drunk after my dad left (half a bottle of wine) and didn't go to bed until gone midnight. I tried to bother DH for sex (first time I've felt like it in ages) but for some reason me waking him up by pulling all the bedclothes off him drunkenly didn't act as a turn on. I woke up at 4 and couldn't get back to sleep. It's always the nights DS sleeps that I can't.

Nothing to do with the wine.

watercress · 26/11/2010 10:42

Hello, hello! Thanks for all your thoughts and good wishes and sorry for going incommunicado. I've been reading and meaning to post but just haven't got round to it - one of those weeks.

My dad is fine and is out of hospital. The op ended up being the more major one, but went very well and was filmed as it was the first in the new operating theatre at the new QE hospital in Birmingham, and was very unusual. The surgeon has been popping in on dad a couple of times a day (professional respect as dad was an eye surgeon, but also because it was the same surgeon who messed up a similar op on my dad a few years ago!). The next few days will dictate how much use he has in his arm (he plays golf a few times a week so this is very important to him) but so far, so good.

DD2 is now more or less over her cold, bar a runny nose and a nasty bout of constipation. She's sleeping well again and is eating. Phew. Unfortunately her daytime naps are being cut short as we are having some building work done and is always seem to get noisy just after she's gone to sleep, but she's coping well.

AbsB sounds like you had a wonderful time in Paris. Hope the sleep returns to normal now you're back.

I can't remember who asked, but I'm not planning on babyproofing either. I didn't with DD1 and hope not to with DD2. I found with DD1 that if I said no firmly enough and moved her away from whatever it was that could be dangerous, she didn't bother again. And she also learnt to do the stairs while crawling so they were never too much of a risk.

Like IC, I am still using a carrier. I put DD2 in it when i do the school run as there as so many pushchairs at the school gate. Like IC's DD, mine is still quite little and has only just grown out of her 3-6 months clothes, but I am starting to feel it a bit in my back and shoulders so may have to start using the pushchair more as I never got on with my baby backpack (unless anyone has a recommendation?).

Someone asked about regular Calpol or Nurofen. It's fine and they can't get tolerant. But try and give Nurofen after food as it can be harsh on the stomach. I'm just jealous that other people's DCs take medicines - both mine have refused (like DD1 at her age, DD2 screams and then is sick) and DD2 still isn't that keen now, but since she was two has managed tablets quite well.

Still no teeth or crawling here! But she is feeding herself proper food - I give her whatever DD1 is having (last night was macaroni cheese, the night before was salmon and noodles), and then she will have fruit puree and yogurt (not self-fed!). She seems happy with most things, though doesn't seem terribly successful with bread bizarrely.

Oh, very long post, sorry. GF well done on the sleep training. CC how are you? Is work better?

mamaloco · 26/11/2010 10:51

IC santa nicolae is on 6th of december, "los reyes" in january. If we go with all the tradition in the world we could have presents every months.
A bit Angry at the americanisation/disneyisation though! DD1 wants stockings and cane candies! grrrr! My Santa has a donkey (you leave a carrot for him) and no reindeer, he leaves present in our shoes at midnight on the 24th. And we don't eat turkey. Rant over.

talking about food:
Have you ever try to put tomatoes juice or sauce on a cut! It hurts! A LOT!
We are entering the age were our LO will be permanently teething, or have a cold, sore throat.... They will get back to tomatoes when they are past that stage. DD1 hasn't been able to eat any since july, with all her throat problems. That doesn't mean she doesn't like it.
For the greens, don't worry if they don't like it cooked they still will be able to like it raw. Even cooked it is not lost, if I remember correctly, you need at least 15 tastings before a food is accepted. keep offering!
You will be able to hide it in other stuffs too. One of my friend with a skinny baby was able to cover/hide everything with bechamel sauce. DD1 will eat practically anything with pesto or houmous (obsv. a bit older).
The only lost cause is cabbages, if you are one of the 30% of the population who is an hypertaster.

AbsB · 26/11/2010 11:38

Oh Mamaloco of course I didn't mean to insult your beloved Paris. I LOVE Paris, I am half French, grew up there, and my father had a flat in Paris near Centre Pompidou until I was in my late twenties, so believe me I know Paris well! It's just that having lived in the States and Barcelona, and now having a baby in London, I can compare them. The Americans are very baby friendly, wide doors, high chairs in every restaurant, lifts, lots of beaming smiles from everyone, the Spanish are very family, as IC says, they just love children and are more than happy to help... and the French... would rather children could be seen and not heard! Grin Grin Massive generalisation I know but it is mostly true! Shock

I am sure you could give me some tips of good places to go with babies (I think I did ask way back when but your computer had broken down)... and no of course I am not suggesting that we hung out in the Gare du Nord BUT you have to admit it doesn't compare to the beautiful St. Pancras with its good restaurants and facilities... considering they spent so much money on Eurostar and it is such a success and so busy, I think they could have made the bloody effort tried to improve the Gare du Nord! Hmm

Watercress I am so glad to hear about your dad. Very brave of him to give the surgeon a second chance!!!

Oh, and BC I love you making advances on your DH in a drunken state... that's hilarious! Oh yes and about that pregnancy test... I think the best contraception is probably having your baby in bed and your mother in the room next door!!! Grin Grin

GuernseyFrench · 26/11/2010 12:46

Yepee, I've made my Christmas cake. It's now in the oven.

mamaloco, thanks for the thought on tomatoes, it maybe why DS is off his food at the moment as most of the dishes I have are made with tomatoes (we had a lot of them this summer and I have frozen them), but he was fine eating them when his teeth were coming through Confused unless it's because he's having a funny tommy and just don't fancy eating in the evening or he's in a phase where he's eating less at night... I'm off to do some spinach flans to see if he'll eat that tonight.

Grin at bc advances

watercress good news about your dad.

IC Los Reyes are in January.

LittlebearH · 26/11/2010 14:51

Just a quick question...what do you all do with your DCs when cooking?? DD will not sit her high chair unless being fed. I can't let her crawl around on the floor as cat bowls/tray are in the kitchen. (no where else for them to go)

I don't get a chance to do any cooking at all until DP gets hom and at best it is salad and something bunged in oven.

Small maisoneete so on one floor and when she is in bed..too scared of waking her!

[feels incompetant emoticon]

back later.

LittlebearH · 26/11/2010 14:51

Apologies for crap typing!!

bearcrumble · 26/11/2010 15:10

I will put him in the jumperoo for half an hour or the playpen. Will she sit in the highchair if you put a laptop with a DVD in front of her?

Could you move the cat stuff just while you're cooking?

mamaloco · 26/11/2010 15:58

LBH I used to put DD1 in the high chair, but I had to sing constantly to her while cooking (and in general) to make her happy "lalala I am cutting the pepper to put in the pot after washing....lalala"
I also let her play with kitchen ustensils which she had only then: wooden spoon, small pan, unbreakable plates.... very noisy. I also made her taste everything I could, telling her the name of the ingredients.

Blush just realised I am not doing anything at all with DD2! she is just happy to sit or hang on my leg.
DD1 was pointing at everything at that age, I am dumming DD2 down.

You could prepare when she sleeps, cutting and washing doesn't make noise, if the tap is making too much noise have a bowl of water ready beforehand, get the pan out too, and cook later?

Crossed post with BC Grin and watercress earlier, good to dad is better.

mamaloco · 26/11/2010 16:00

Or even "to hear that your dad is better"
???? Confused

InmaculadaConcepcion · 26/11/2010 16:11

Oops, Blush, getting my Kings and St Nicholas conflated...! Another excuse for presents, eh? I'm going to keep that one quiet, I think...!

Grin bc at your drunken advances...! To think he turned you down, too....

Great news on your dad, watercress!

LBH my solution on what to do about DD when cooking is to get DH to do it... Grin I really don't know what I'd do without him, sometimes. A lot less MN, for one thing.

Yep, mamaloco, we do a bit of concealing of broccoli with other things and DD will eat it then. Ditto peas. Thanks for reminding me about the bechamel sauce, though - must make some more of that as DD was reasonably keen on it (she seems to like cheese very much) - it's the one thing DH won't make Smile

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watercress · 26/11/2010 16:26

I put DD2 in the doorway bouncer when I am cooking, or put her on a rug on the floor with her treasure basket (my sister is an ed psych and made one for DD1 when she was born -it's brilliant and I get a good half hour out of it at a time).

I am also dumbing down DD2. DD1 was such an early talker (50 words by her first birthday) that I decided I must have talked to her too much!

BabyGiraffes · 26/11/2010 16:36

SNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

GuernseyFrench · 26/11/2010 16:56

I put DS in his baby walker and he goes around the kitchen. I also put him in his highchair and speak to him about what I'm doing. If it's just to take something out of the oven, switch off the hob, I put DS on the floor in the living room and run into the kitchen, he'll crawls to me but hopefully, I'll have the stuff done.

Whaou Snow!!! For us, it's cold temperatures, around 5C which over here is cold.

DS is having a dummy nap, he has very rosy cheeks so I hope he's not teething again while we're dummy removal training.

GuernseyFrench · 26/11/2010 18:59

Night 2 round 1 - DS went down in 6mn!!!!!!

BUT I'm not counting my chickens...

LittlebearH · 26/11/2010 19:15

Thanks for advice laydees! She is very clingy at the moment. Tears every time I leave the room and wants constant attention. Maybe I will just stick her in high chair and do mamloco's and BC DVD suggestions. Galley kitchen so no baby walker!!
DP took her for a little walk to the shop earlier and she freaked out because he was wearing a wooly hat, she stretched her arms out for me and he had to take it off!

BG snow?! Whereabouts are you? No snow here in Kent, but we normally get some..maybe tomorrow.

GF Doing well!! No vomiting or hr and 15 min screaming? Envy DD made it through till 4am (did a poo, will review her fruit and veg intake) The early hrs of screaming are hard aren't they? I am praying for no more!!

Watercress glad dad made it through. Hope he is back to full health soon.

Abs Bon soir!! Sounds like you had a fab time.

Grin at some of you thinking you are dumbing down DC2. Don't think I could manage a DC2 Even DP has changed his mind, doesn't want to go through my PND again.:(

GuernseyFrench · 26/11/2010 19:27

LBH Believe me, I can't trust my luck! I think it's going far too easy and that DS is going to hit me hard at some point! Grin But to be fair, he wasn't too bad at sleeping our main issue was/is the dummy.

Christmas cake is now in the freezer. One less thing to worry about on Christmas week Smile

mamaloco · 26/11/2010 20:59

LBH It took us 5 years to have DD2 (not really by choice) and I was going to pull a stop as I had hit 40. She just sneaked in before I could get the birth control in! [Grin] She is SO cuuute, though!
DH wants DD3, I am done. I might consider having a Charlotte though as my familly keeps teasing me about the sweets manes. Grin And it might be a boy.
btw 2 CS are enough and at nearly 42 I am done, honestly! (We can't afford it either!)

stoofadoof · 26/11/2010 21:21

just a quicky - sorry, i made a couple of lengthy individual replies yesterday and lost them :(

it's DD's birthday today - 4!!! can't believe how quickly time has gone?

iv'e had the day off work, and we've been and bought her bike for christmas whilst she and DS ahve been at nursery for the afternoon? i then hared round and fettled the house whilst DH baked her cake, then i decorated it whilst he went to collect them from nursery? pass the parcel wrapped and balloons blown - good to go for small family party tomorrow?

i love having a tidy house - really helps me mentally!!!!! aaaah?

i've jsut had half a glass of wine and feel a bit tipsy - off for napnaps!! night all

ps sorry, no individual responses, other than v chuffed your Dad's ok wc

SunnyBumpIsNowSunnyMummy · 26/11/2010 21:24

Happy belated Birthday BC and glad your Dads op went well Watercress.

Cooking is either prepared during afternoon nap, done with DS self feeding a dinner like french toast/ omelette, with him crawling round my feet or in the sling on my back if he wants to see what's happening. Failing that it's done when he's in bed by DH!

Christmas, bah humbug, we're skint too and I feel much better knowing there are other folk making it low key. Wrapping paper and boxes all the way this year, it won't be long before they're asking for an x box/ computer/ [insert expensive consumer item here]. Luckily we're invited to the in laws, meaning very little effort is required by me :) Hooray!

There's snow here too and I'm hoping for a family snow adventure tomorrow. Snuggly sleepy baby vibes to those who need them.

stoofadoof · 27/11/2010 07:26

(4 inches of) SNOW? more on its way? poor DD, looks like her unky won't be able to make it? still - glad we bought her a sledge for her birthday!!

GuernseyFrench · 27/11/2010 07:56

Snow here too!!! Actually it's just starting to cover the ground.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 27/11/2010 09:13

No snow here.... but it's getting damn chilly. We don't usually have much if any, but last year was quite snowy by Madrid standards. I prefer snow to stay where it belongs, personally: on the mountains!! It would really bum up our pram naps if it gets snowy...ice-encrusted pavements and all that

Anyone's DCs got any annoying little habits yet? (As opposed to BIG habits!!) For example, my DD has just started to grind and click her teeth back and forth which really sets my teeth on edge. That and the spitting out food game (when it's a game rather than because she doesn't like something) tend to garner stern looks from Mummy.

I got nipped on the nip the other night...ouch!! It was about 02.00 and I was trying to resettle her. I jumped and she woke up fully and cried, so a mini-disaster in its way. I was sore all yesterday, but luckily she hasn't done it since and it's feeling better again today. It certainly takes the prolactin chilled-out vibe off BF!

Great news that dummy-weaning is going well, GF!

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GuernseyFrench · 27/11/2010 09:37

So last night went well. Down at 6.26. Quiet at 6.32. Then crying for 6mn at 9pm and then awake and ready to start the day at 6.30am this morning.
Today'I'm going to try dummy removal on nap and I guess it's going to mean CC as the dummy is the thing which make him 'switch off'

BabyGiraffes · 27/11/2010 10:09

I'm in South Wales and it snowed heavily all afternoon and into the night. Very very pretty this morning with quite a bit still on the roofs etc. It won't last down here but hey... I seem to have been more excited than dd1 Blush (she was put off snow last winter in Germany where it was over a foot high with a temperature of -15). dd2 just looked confused Grin.

I seem to say 'I agree' a lot to mamaloco's posts Grin. Also somewhat baffled by the insistence of ditching bottles by a year old. I found with dd1 that until she was about 2 she reverted to being a baby at bedtime and found nothing more comforting than snuggling up to me for her bedtime bottle.

Was wondering yesterday whether I am a spoil-sport in not actively encouraging the whole Santa and reindeer nonsense... When I was young it was actually the Christkind (Christ child) coming to bring presents on Christmas eve, nicely tying it in with the Christmas story itself. I'm not overly religious but would rather not do the American version, thank you. Christmas will still be magical for dd1 with a real tree and real candles etc. and presents on Christmas eve!! Am I cruel to use our fireplace for an actual fire, not for Santa to come through the chimney??? Grin