Fab Feb 2009: things that go bump and "mummy, mummy, MUMMY!!!" in the middle of the night

[dinkystinky]

New halloween inspired thread (in honour of this time of year) to talk about our little jekyll & hydes [hgrin]

Is anyone going to be taking their little ones trick or treating this year? We'll be at MIL's for Halloween and she's already told me she has both Danny and DS1 costumes -so it appears that decision has been made for us

Sounds like you had a lovely day yesterday SM! Always good to have a break to recharge your batteries.

Danny is tantrumtastic at present - from when he gets up to when he goes to sleep. I suspect there's teething behind it as he's drooling loads too and has v red cheeks. God this teething malarky seems to go on for ever....

Luke had his 20 teeth well before his 2nd birthday!

He just tantrums when things aren't going his way

My Luke had a bit of a tantrum at bedtime and has finally worn himself out and is asleep on his bedroom floor.
Just waiting til he's properly asleep before I move him

Blimey - anyone remember Tinkerbellesmum (officially the very first one on the list to give birth, v early to Sian I think)? Just seen on facebook that she's 32 weeks pregnant with another baby! Wow. Given how stressful she found her first 3 pregnancies, and with her giving birth early in each cases, am in awe of her going for a 4th baby!

I'm in awe of anyone going for a 4th!!!

Jesus dinky I removed her from my fb, couldn't take the constant breast-feeding stuff!
Are you sure it's 4? I thought she had Tink and then Sian. Didn't her dp have kids from another relationship?

I think her very first child was born very early then passed away. She then went on to have Tink and Sian - again, both troublesome pregnancies and traumatic births (GA I think for the csecs)- and is now preggers with no 4. Think her DP had 2 sons from previous relationship. And from what I recall she had terrible SPD her last pregnancy and was on crutches. Am in awe.

Oh yes, of course. That's right.
Yes she did suffer lot with Sian's pregnancy didn't she and was on crutches.
Well, her dd's must be little angels then, no way am I even contemplating no. 3 now

I think i blocked her too She was a bit too attention seeking and preachy for my tastes tbh. Hope the pregnancy goes well for her though, can't say i'd go through it again if I had her troubles but each to their own.

Sorry I'm not about much lately.... OU coursework piling up and tonnes of hospital appointments, mechanics visits with the cars and playschool nonsense taking up time I don't have. I'll be so glad when my EMA for my environments course is over and done with (June 10th).... I got 84% overall on the on course assessments so pretty happy, just need to pass the damn EMA now (and then plough into my science course as sod's law the two biffest books for that one are for an assssment due not long after the EMA for the other course

How's the house loking now dinky, have you settles back in yet or is it still chaos?

biffest? biggest!

Good luck with it SR

Wow, life sounds v hectic for you Summerrain - especially with 3 kids and a load of cats to add to the mix. Like the sound of biffer books

House looking good - electrician in today fixing last of the lights and kitchen mostly done. Some of the builders damaged some doors so they're going to have to be replaced at the end of the month - and still need some shelves etc to be put up - and missing a roof pane for our shed and a bed, and still quite a few boxes (mostly of my books - never realised I had such a huge collection) to deal with but slowly but surely getting there. Promise will definitely upload photos when finally get rid of builders and boxes!

yes dinky - so looking forward to the photos ( the 'so' is something my 7 year old uses all the time - must be contagious )

SM & SR - I took her off my fb as well for the same reasons!!!!

Glad it wasn't just me then.
Jacob is at nursery, Luke is asleep in his pushchair, I have an hour til I have to get jacob, so thibnking, housework or reading.
I want to read, but looking around, I think it's got to be housework

Ha! Another one who got rid of her on FB! It was either that or go mad at the constant ridicule of anyone who ff. I actually sent her a message to say that she should be more aware of the power of her words. Can't believe she's pg again, think she'd had Sian by now hadn't she?

Like the sound of a day off, SM, but you're much braver than me, I'm one of those chickens who wouldn't go to the cinema by myself!

Dinky - she got engaged three weeks ago! She's got so much on atm, moving house, planning a wedding, working two jobs. We had her 20 weeks scan today, she hasn't felt baby move yet so was very relieved to see all was well. 80% sure it's a girl, but she was being very modest so we can't be sure. Not like my scan with M, it was very obvious she was a girl!

Hope things calm down soon, SR, good luck with it all. What exactly is EMA?

Things are a bit difficult here, have been struggling recently and have decided to go on anti-d's. Started last night, and have had an awful headache all day, but am pleased to be doing something rather than hoping it goes away. Also have joined WW (second meeting tonight) and have made plans to sort out the house, so feeling a bit more in control.

Hope everyone else is well and

Yes, Sian was born around christmas time wasn't she?

Most of my friends have said I'm mad for going on my own, but it's not like you're going to go to the cine,a with a friend and hhave a good old chat halfway through the film. I love going to the cinema on my own.
In fact, I like doing lots of things on my own.

Sorry you're having a difficult time MrsY. Hope the AD's work, mine took about 3 weeks to kick in properly.
Am off them now, but sometimes I think it was a bit early (I came straight off them on my own without advice from gp, just because I forgot to take them for a week and then didn't tart again)

I'm still struggling with ds1, he just won't listen to anything I say and he out-right refuses to do what he's told.
I have been very shouty, but it doesn't work, he just shouts back.
Really don't know what to do about it. Every day is a battle with these 2

Thanks SM, the GP signed me off work for a week as that was making me really anxious and emotional, but I'm hoping after that I'll feel more like myself - although I don't know what I'll be like without my depression, I've felt like this for the best part of 15 years. She'sreferred me for counselling too, so fc the two combined work well.

M is so strong willed, and very clever, and just doesn't listen to reason. Very glad I don't have another atm. The only thing that works for us is distraction, and making sure she sleeps enough. Remember the mantra, it'll pass before you know it. Any news on job front?

MrsY Take it easy then, look after yourself.
Distraction can work with Luke but you have to catch him at just the right time which can be tough.
I'm not looking for another job. I'm staying at home at least until this time next year when Luke will start p/t nursery, at which point I'll be looking into college I think.
I don't know what I want to be. I don't just want a job, I want a job I love, that I want to do. I want a career, but as I'm not trained for anything, I should think I'll need to study first.

MrsY - my lovely sister had really bad depression at university. A combination of meds and counselling helped her massively - but it did take a few months for her to fully come out the other side. She's off the meds totally now - taking a holistic approach to life with lots of exercise (especially yoga) and good food - and keeping a diary of her moods etc - and she's doing so well. So meds and counselling can really help you recover. Sending you huge hugs. You have been through alot of stress over the past 3 years so its understandable you may be suffering abit - just take it one day at a time and look after yourself and dont feel too proud to tell the ones you love when you're struggling.

SM - DS1 sounds quite spirited! Rather like Danny. Is he 4 now? Remember, its a difficult age with lots of hormone surges - so keep repeating its just a phase to yourself. Dont shout if you can help it - as he just shouts back so it clearly isnt getting through to him. Lots of time outs and also queueing what you want him to do (such as in 10 minutes its bath time and you need to tidy your toys away... its 5 minutes till bathtime now, please can you tidy your toys away.... its bathtime now, what do we do for bathtime? etc.) - seemed to help with DS1 at that age.

Mry... EMA is 'end of module assessment', it's a fairly hefty assignment covering the whole course that lots of OU courses do instead of an exam.

Sorry to hear you've been having difficulty Mrsy.... I hope the ADs and new regime start to help soon... depression is awful, I suffered from it for years

Dinky... i'm looking forward to those house pics too, sounds like things are getting close to done now.

SM... my ds1 is a bit like that too..... it's exhausting and head wrecking but I just keep telling myself 'In 10 years he's going to be a grumpy teen who doesn't want anything to do with me and i'll bee looking back on this as the good year' (it doesn't help!)

Thank god i'm not the only one who deleted TBM

Thanks dinky Ds1 is still 3, 4 in august.
I do all the warning bits for what is about to happen, i.e. dinner will be ready in 10 mins. Dinner will be ready in 5 mins. Dinner's ready, let's wash our hands etc etc etc.
I really do hate shouting, but is really difficult to break that habit. Have had an ok day today and I've managed to stay relatively calm with him.
Luke at this moment is thrashing around on the hallway floor in a melt-down.

SR Gosh, yes. I suppose you're right re looking back at this as a good year
This whole parenting/having kids thing just won't ever get easier will it? Oh dear.

RANT ALERT
I am going to lose the plot with this fucking child.
I swear he is pushing me far far beyond my breaking point.
Today, coming back from nursery, Luke had to walk so I could put Jacob in the pushchair as he refused to walk. Little fucking shit.
He has now lost his computer time, all dvd's, and the tv for the rest of the day.

I had our naughty spot in my bag which I made him sit on for not walking, then he refused to get up.

I really don't know what to do with him. I have overly praised Luke for doing such lovely walking on the way home and given him a sticker.

hello all
SM take a chill pill, you must not let him get to you like that. These damm boys know how to wind us up and if they succeed, they will carry on. H is getting very good at tantrums now and I have to try to ignore/count to 10 or I'll trottle him

calico good news about your DS. Good luck with job interview.

MrsY sorry you are having a hard time recently.

I also deleted but only about a week or so ago when I had a cull. Even though I didn't FF she still got on my tits!

dinky must be a bit sad that D has stopped bf but also a relief. It still appears to be H's favourite hobby but its really draining and I've really had enough and want to stop now. When I try saying no he screws his little face up and puts out his lower lip and I just give in.

All a bit up and down here. Organised a charity coffee morning last week which raised 445 GBP for my charity that I've pledged to raise 3.5k for and so far I'm at 42% of my total which is good. Have organised a charity 60's night for next Thursday and hoping to make a lot of money for that.I managed to 'acquire' a bottle of gin and am doing a raffle and in 2 hours last week at the clubhouse I sold over 200 pounds worth of tickets! Fingers crossed I'm hoping to raise at least a thousand pounds in total.

So that side of things is good and also, had final resolution on the complaint from the loony woman. Got 'invited' in to DH's office on sunday and finding was that there was no case to answer (and she is a loon but that was off the record!) She and her DH were told just before I went in and apparently were not happy and were ranting and raving but the investigating officer stuck to his decision.

Still have other ongoing case which is my complaint against a manager who banned me from the nursery 2 days a week (when lady muck's child was going) Have put in claim for slander and defamation of character which is being dealt with but then I got an email from nursery managers boss(she is a cow and is now shitting herself as she should not have taken the order to ban me and should have referred to her boss) and she has basically claimed that she now feels intimidated by my presence (as she is shitting herself as she knows she did something wrong) and so I've been banned until the investigation is over! Bloody ludicrous. I've been totally exonerated by the investigating officer who also confirmed ban was completely unacceptable and needed lifting. He suggested I get written confirmation from nursery manager that the order to ban was given and as far as she knew it still stood and so I do what he says and I get permanently banned until resolved! DH is fuming. He managed to establish that H is still allowed to go so he will take him when he is next due on Sunday and my best friend will pick up so not really a huge inconvenience but bloody ridiculous. DH is on the verge of saying they can get stuffed and chucking it in. We are considering constructive dismissal, pretty sure he has grounds.

well, thats me, hope everyone is doing ok.

SM... I know it's not very helpful but ds1 is a year older and he's absolutely knackered by the friday afternoon.

Maybe J really was just too tired to walk but couldn't articulate that to you? If L was happy walking did it really matter if J used the buggy? We had tonnes of buggy swapping when dd and ds1 were similar ages. I also used to stand dd on the back of the buggy and push it with her balanced between my arms (highly frowned upon I know but it got us from A to B without hysterics!)

It's bloody hard when they're giving you cheek and getting right under your skin to remember that they're still effectively babies mentally..... and sympathy, hope the rest of the day improves.

mos.... omg, what a saga. I can't believe the nursery have banned you, what utter nonsense

I'm envisaging you chalking lines into the wall above your bed to count down the days until you leave all this nonsense