September 2010 - we've met our little ones now!

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Or most of them at least - there are some late September ones still to come!

Oh bless you cinnamon I'm sure it's just a phase that he'll soon realize has been mightily unfair on you. I've always thought from this thread that you seem so 'sorted' like most other mum's on here and I've gained confidence from your positivity. I really hope you're feeling better and that DH is giving you a little support...... I'm sure the weekend will help big hugs

catbus your post re: linking labour times with lo's awake times is an eye opener! I've never heard that before but it happens to be exactly the same timings of Jack's awake times. Is this a fairly commonly known thing? Shame I was in labour for long

watersprite ADORABLE photos! Congratulations!

I think that maybe because the OHs aren't around the babies quite as much as the mothers are, they don't get as used to the crying, whereas we get a bit more blasé about the crying? Or something! My doula did specifically say that it wouldn't do the baby any harm to cry a bit while you squeeze in time for a shower, for instance.

My DP is generally very good with DD even when she cries, but in the evenings when he's back from work and his tolerance level is low with tiredness he gets this pained look on his face and just looks like he can't take it - which is all very well, but if she's cried during the day, it's me who's had to put up with it, with no back-up... Luckily DD's actually very good and doesn't cry much at all, or at least not in a colic-y hard-to-find-an-explanation sort of way.

Lovely pics watersprite esp 2 dd's!

Oh God, are we all connected or what?! I had big arguement with DP last night about the very same thing. He had Isobel on his knee and she needed her clothes changing cos they had got wet with pee. I got the clothes and gave them to him saying you do it. His reply........why can't you do it! Big, big, mistake.
It went something like this:
ME; Because i do it all the time, i'm here 24/7 with the babies
HIM; Yes while i work.
ME; Yes but you get to clock off, when to i get to bloody well clock off? Give her here i'll do it.
HIM; No i'll do it now you've made me feel bad.
ME; You should feel bad,that you can't change your own daughter. I'll tell you what Lee, i'll change her and you can do the washing up, or the ironing, or put the washing on or hoover!
HIM; Silence!!!!
ME; Well, this is an age old arguement isn't it?

Made up this morning though. I said, i'll remember that you work all week, if you remember that i'm on my own all week and i need a break.

We had our 6 week checkup yesterday. No serious problems, Louis is just still slightly jaundiced, so he has to do a wee sample next week (should be fun). He was weighed again - now he is 11lbs 8oz! No wonder my arms are aching, and I now weigh half a stone less than I did before I got pregnant, despite eating for six two. He has gone from just below the 25th centile to the 75th in 5 weeks.

My DP had a period early on where he thought that Louis didn't like him. He felt that Louis cried every time he held him. I could see it was just that Louis wanted to feed so frequently that there was a good chance he'd cry with anyone else and calm with me as I was his food source. And actually Louis cried just as much on me, but I guess the tiredness meant DP couldn't see that. Also, even though he doesn't cry solidly, Louis is definitly grumpier in the evening, just when DP gets back from work. Thankfully, DP's got more confident with him, and now often offers to take him from me when he's fractious but not hungry. cinnamon, I did struggle not to feel resentful though if we'd had a difficult day and DP didn't want to take Louis in the evening.

It posted before i finished.

Also, both babies were grumbling and wouldn't settle and he couldn't get them to stop crying. (we kept swapping because i'd get mine to settle and we'd swap so he could have the sleeping one, but they kept waking up and we'd be back to square one) I always try to help by saying Isobel likes it when you do this or Jacob likes that. Problem is he does it once or twice and when it doesn't instantly work, he loses his patience and gets all short with the baby. Ended up getting up off the chair with Isobel, saying give Jacob here and taking them both upstairs to bed. Told him he can sleep on sofa bed as well, cos babies are in with me! oops.
Like i said made up this morning. He's less grumpy this morning. He has worked away all week and travelled 250 miles to get back, so fridays are never good (even before babies came). He's also already at our new house doing jobs every weekend. God, shouldn't have wrote it down....making me feel sorry for him!! ha.

Sorry for long post, thought i'd share!!!

watersprite, great pics btw..

6+3

Anyone having problems with sweat???? Odd question I know, but I'm a little concerend!!

I've never been one to sweat much, but I have found that in the last week or so, when I wake up around 6:30am to feed Harlyn, I am absolutely soaking wet. My top is wet, my quilt is wet (the corner bit that has been by my neck) the back of my hair is wet and I just feel hot and clamy. We don't have the heating on and the room temperature is around 20 so I just wondered if this was an after effect of giving birth or breast feeding???? Or possibly a hormone inbalance? Am I alone in this sweaty state?

Hope you are all well x x

2 weeks + 1

Hi sassy. It's difficult when the OH is doing/not doing something you think they should. I try not to tell DP what/how to do things as I know Louis is just as much his baby, and we are both equally new to this, but it's very hard not to esp when Louis is crying. We had a small tiff yesterday. Louis had been crying for a feed in the car on the way home, so as soon as we got back that's all I was focussed on. We got in and I sat down and ordered asked DP to pass the infacol, with what I would call urgent, but he though was panicked, tone. He then paused to tell me to calm down and I made the mistake of saying "it's my hormones, you don't understand".. Oops

Jodylea I only sweat like that for 2 reasons: i'm ill or i have an infection.

I'm not new to this mapletrees but he is. I'm a lot calmer and laid back cos their my second and third. But to be truthful it has rubbed off on him and my DD. Neither bats a eye when they start crying or gets flustered like i did with my 1st. He's just a bloody grumpy get on fridays! I took the p* out him this morning about how he tries it once and then goes....it's not working (in a no patience voice) and he just laughed. I said patience wasn't a virtue bestowed on you was it love? (in sarcastic but joking voice)

it does get better ladies. Me and Dp have 4 now and he is more relaxed with lucy then he was with our eldest. He will happily take lucy for 10 mins whilst i play with dc3. He does however have a deaf ear to the crying and will just sit her in his arms whilst he plays the ps3. AAnd he never notices when she poos.
He did used to get het up with dc3 when she wailed all evening and he would always say he couldn't settle her, he never tried. we do still have the 24/7 argument even tho he isn't working atm so he is there 24/7.

I don't feel ill, or have a temperature or fever so I have no idea why I'm so sweaty!! It only when I wake in the early morning. Hope its not the sign of an infection coming my way. Have checked my c-section scar and it doesn't look red though it does feel tight. I'll see how I go and keep an eye on it just in case.

I do JodeyLea, I think it is to do with breastfeeding and as you say it's only during the night when I wake up to feed Luke that I notice it. Not sure about when I had ds1 it's too long ago to remember everything .

I don't actually want dh to do anything, that's the frustrating part! I am happy to have Luke when he's like that I just hate that as soon as he starts crying he is really tense and starts shouting at everyone over nothing. Still we have made up know and he has apologised so hopefully it won't happen again for a day while!

Luke did a poo today, first since Monday and didn't seem to cause him any trouble, just loads of it so nothing to worry about there. Thanks to those who replied though.

Maybe its just my area trying to cut costs then. Both MW and HV have both told me that they don't do 6 week checks anymore as theres no need to do them.

For those of you who have already had them, do they check baby or is it just you? Its been over 3 years since my last one and I can't remember what they do.

Jodeylea I do too and in the same place and the same time as you say. I also had a section so could be linked? Seems to be passing now and coinciding with my bleeding/discharge completely stopping so that could be connected too.
I can't believe how numb my left over bump feels! I don't know the science behind the operation but i'm sure it's a nerve damage thing.....?
Hope everyone has had a lovely Saturday with their wee ones. Jack said "Hi" to the baby alpacas at the farm shop today! Very cute they were too.

jodylea - me too! Am sweating like a demon at night. I don't remember this happening with DS1 and DS2 but it was a long time ago. DH reckons it my body burning calories whilst it makes milk. Jessica seems to be doing well, and i am really trying to get her into a routine, which is hard as she is quite a sleepy baby. Also she grunts and groans all night like she has a lot of trapped wind, or needs a pooh. Not sure if it is something i am eating or if it is just her but it is making me think i might give up on breast feeding sooner rather than later. She has one bottle of formula at 10pm which she takes happily.
Must dash got to put DS2 to bed.
Hope everyone doing ok, am sorry i haven't read back on all the threads yet, just this page, but will do so later.
xx

Cluds Jack is really grunty at night and he is on formula. Maybe they'll just be chatterboxes later in life!

Cluds, beaditAli, Louis is a right grunter too. Not just at night. It's worst when he's lying on his back. Do you pick your LOs up when they're very grunty, or just leave them too it?

merlin, our six week check was for both of us. The GP just asked how I was (if I had stopped bleeding etc) and had a look at my CS scar. Also made sure I understood the need for contraception. She gave Louis a checkup too - hips, eyes, heart, chest, balls, checked his pulses in his groin, asked about his hearing and weighed him. We also talked about his ongoing jaundice. I think most of it could have been done by a midwife, but if there's anything specific you were worried about, perhaps you could just make a normal appointment with your GP?

Hello everyone, Flynn is really grunty too!! I have just (hopefully) added some pics of him to my profile.

All going well here now I'm finally on the mend it's been a long 3 weeks of hoping stitches, swelling and brusing would all calm down and start healing and they finally have, thank goodness, MW was getting quite concerned as it was all taking a long time to settle, been on antibiotics and bed rest for a lot of the time, not easy with a toddler about the place! It doesn;t help that I am the world's worst patient and just want to be getting on with everything

I can't believe how quickly I'm losing weight, even though I am eating SO much food, BF is def speeding up the return of my waistline! Flynn was 8lb 7.5 born and 3 wks later is now 11lb 5!! Can't believe it!

Have had a very stressful week with my Mum staying this week, in my sleep deprived state I somehow thought it was a good idea to have her stay for a whole week - big mistake, I am an emotional wreck too much history between us that just never seems to heal.

3weeks + 4

Know what you mean about mum's mellymooks, mine lives very close so no staying with us but we've seen a lot more of her the last few weeks and all does is remind me how strained our relationship is at times. We talk a lot and I love her very much but some things are very difficult, like how I bring up my children and hormones really don't help! Wow, sounds like your little man is piling on the weight, I thought Luke was doing well going from 9lb 2 to 11lb 9 in 4 weeks!!

melly, lovely photos of little Flynn!

I had my mum coming to stay for a few days the other week and while it was great having so much done by her - ironing, washing up, laundry, cleaning - there were definitely also difficult moments! She also did some weird or odd things I couldn't understand the why of, but I've forgotten the details now mostly so I guess it's all ok in the end. She washed the pram carrycot mattress and it didn't dry for well over a week! Shan't be doing that again.

it was funny though - maybe not funny ha-ha - she said she was staying till Wed and ended up staying till Fri morning. First it was Wed, then it was 'oh I'm staying till Thurs' then it was Friday morning! But she did give us a chance to go out for a meal by ourselves on Thursday eve which was much appreciated.

Aphra 6 + 4

Merlin our 6 week check was basically a once over of baby, temp, length, weight, head circumference and checking the hips and any other concerns. For mum its a chance to tell them if anything is bothering you, and to see how feeding, sex and contraception is going.

Lucy smiled yesterday for the first time at her Daddy. They were proper big smiles and since then she has smiled at me and dc2 and 3.
She also had a massage after her bath tonight and loved it.

9 weeks +1

mapletrees I usually don't pick him up although I'm not entirely convinced he's asleep. It's annoying coz I don't sleep through his noises whereas DH doesn't stir unless he's really awake and unhappy. Most of the time he's happy to have a wriggle and grunt around for a while then he's off to sleep again. It can last for an hour though..... not really sure if I should pick him up more than I do or not...? He doesn't cry though so hopefully I'm doing the right thing.
My turn to camp out in the living room tonight so that DH can have a full nights sleep.

4 weeks tomorrow

Slow down everyone! I've been away for 5 days & there's 4 pages to catch up on! We've just had a little holiday to Scarborough. My parents have a holiday flat there. It was nice to get away as a family. It would've been even nicer if it hadn't rained!

Chelle Olly only takes 3-4oz every 3-4hrs and sometimes thats a struggle! He started off well but like his brother is getting worse the older he gets. for his bedtime bottle last night he only took 1oz! I worried & worried with ds1 when he did this so am much more relaxed this time round & know that he'll take what he wants when he wants. I would just love to have a baby who likes milk tho and drains a bottle with no fussing!

I can't remember who asked about the cord & its probably ok now but Ollys absolutely stank for 24hrs before it fell off. I could smell it as I walked in the room. Horrible but perfectly ok as long as there's no redness or puss.

Olly 6wks 5days.

My parents are staying at the mo (not actually staying with us but in a holiday cottage down the road) and babysat this evening so DH and I could have a rare trip to the pub. Only discovered when we went to order 2nd round of drinks that the pub had closed at 9pm! Gah!!! Still, lovely to have had an hour or so "off-duty".