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March 2010 - Six months in - will they ever sleep?

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Arcadie · 28/08/2010 08:56

Welcome to the latest thread for mums of babies born in March ( and a few in Feb and one in April!).

Come on in. Find out who'll be pg next and who's weaning onto what.

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rebeccacad · 26/09/2010 19:33

I am almost embarrassed to post after my long silence, but I've seen some very nice shout outs to me on the thread and have got my virtual act together a bit.

We've been having a sleep nightmare. Hats off to those of you with persistent non-sleepers I have no idea how you do it. 3 weeks or so of 1-2 hourly wakings is killing me and I've been crap and in tears several times. I think DD is teething as finally got the bright red cheeks today - feel much better if it is that as it means there's a reason for it and she might not do it forever.

On top of that I've had a nasty cold this week and a lovely, but all night and morning, birth to attend so have been feeling totally awful TBH.

Have just posted on Pixie's thread - really feel for you Pixie.

PD I've been lurking and wanted to send hugs your way. You are wonder woman and I know you can do it all, but glad you've got us to vent to. DD goes to bed around 7 after a bath and bottle of EBM. She used to sleep through till 6.30/7ish but that's a thing of the dim and distant past...

Ok, I'll 'fess up, I haven't booked the smear. Yadda yadda yadd, I've been busy, no more excuses. I will book it tomorrow for the following week (as will be in Birmingham most of this week). Please keep nagging until I tell you I'm all done - it is really helping.

IWCAS am thinking of you too - don't beat yourself up about nursery. DD has been left with childminder for a few half days now. Even when she's being a total stinker at home she is an angel with the CM (she's even said she's the best behaved, smiliest happiest baby she's ever met and how weird that she doesn't seem to miss me Confused). So you may find DS is very different at nursery and may take a bottle/nap more easily etc.

Let me know if you fancy a coffee in Brum this week - Thurs or Fri good for me and I promise to actually pay this time and not just swan off in to the distance Blush.

Tooblessed I love your name - I've been trying to use it as a mantra when I'm feeling stressed at DD but want to remember how much I love her. This is usually around 3am.

scooby hope the arm is feeling better.

manda we are going to NY at the beginning of NOvember, so I'll be able to report back on the success/failure of taking such a little one. I'm planning on investing in a snowsuit and will bring my sling. I think americans can be funny about BFing in public, but surely not in NY?

Donttry hugs to you too. Is there any way you guys can get some alone time?

Ok, got to dash and make dinner (very quietly as the tiniest noise wakes our little demon baby).

scooby26 · 26/09/2010 19:57

Evening all- we need to have a live chat tuesday night at 9pm for pixie who will be home alone and needs adult chat! ( prize to least adult post on the night!) see you all then x

scooby26 · 26/09/2010 20:32

Rebecca- thanks for thinking of me. The horrendous pain from the steroid has now gone thankfully but sadly the pain I had been suffering from that caused the injection is now back- i guess that means if hasn't worked??? Time will tell u guess. Maybe it's too much testing! X

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 26/09/2010 20:59

rebecca,thank you,someone mentioned here on MN that my name was just a cover up,that i was struggling,blah blah,and that i was always stressed out because i had many kids:o,

i was happy to tell them that i had only one,i was very happy and believe myself to be beyond blessed,and i am,so being stressed is not allowed anymore,and God gives me all the peace that i need if i have a problem

so to all the mothers i always say,count the good things in your life,those are your blessings because no matter what,there will always be someone out there worse off than you,and when i am feeling down,i just find someone with a problem and see if i can help,gosh sorry to sound so higher than thou,but it has helped me a lot,

rebecca,about the smear,i have neve had one done,and my doctor offered one but i was so not ready for anyone or anything to come near my privates,even now and i am scared of it,does it hurt?and why should we have it?and who gets to take it?i'm so ignorant

FlipFantasia · 26/09/2010 21:33

Just a quick post from me, as have caught up on all of what I've missed in our week in Portugal.

First off, Pixie big hugs to you. I'm so sorry that your DH had to move so rapidly. I'm a planner myself, and like to take time over such big life changing things, so I think I'd also react badly to a sudden shift. But I'm glad you reached out on MN and I hope things seem better soon.

Second, I was sad to read of people's stresses over the past week but I was also happy to know that we've created such a great support group. You gals are fantastic - roll on the meet-ups!

And in no particular order (this is based on what I can remember as I've no time for multiple windows):

Manda another huge Maclaren fan here - we have the quest and it's great: comfy for DS (he has most of his naps in there now), lightweight but sturdy, easy peasy to collapse and handled the flight to/from Portugal v well. It's definitely one of our "best" purchases. I'll also be in NYC in December - we're out to the in-laws in Philly for Christmas but will be spending a week or soon in NYC with my DH working out of the NY office and staying at a friend's apartment (I'm hoping that a week in trendy Brooklyn will cure me of my fantasy of moving there Hmm...). Transatlantic will be grand - just think of all the extra space vs a short haul Europe flight, no baggage restrictions, able to watch movies while feeding etc. I'm quite looking forward to it myself!

Scoobie you're mad for the travel plans! But you'd be madder to not go so I think you'll have a great time. Hope DS gets over his cold soon. And hope the CTS clears up though sorry to hear the steroid injection hasn't worked - hopefully it's like PD says about it getting worse before getting better.

BMI so glad to hear DD was unscathed by her brush with the wind. And the crawling! I bet she's a total cutie but you'll be getting eyes on the back of your head now Smile

Smac I'm planning to be an independent nappy advisor - start with selling via nappuccinos and eventually get a website up and running. I looked at some of the companies (mainly lollipop and fill your pants) but just don't like the idea of being tied to a particular company. I may well pick your brains via FB!

Donttry glad to hear DD is taking to food so well Smile. DS is a great eater now but I'd say it took a week for him to really get the hang of it. Now, 3+ weeks in he's been literally having what we have but we pay attention to salt content of course (it was a dream on holidays, as no faffing around with any special kit for him). And the poo change suits me grand, as the bumgenius are so much less messy (the poo pops right off into the toilet, tis great!). OK, enough poopy talk from me Wink. PS was laughing at you just realising who RKD is Grin

PD you sleb you. Can't believe I missed your Wright Stuff moment. Though considering I can't stand the show I would have missed it even if we'd been in the UK! Hope you feel better soon. It must be hard "treating" yourself iykwim (maybe "diagnosing" would be a better choice of word there).

Welcome to TooBlessed - I went out with a Norwegian as a teenager and spent some time in his family's cabin, which was lovely. But wouldn't fancy having to learn Norwegian though! So hats off to you learning it.

Dizzi well done on the interview. My sis worked for Gartner many moons ago (left nearly a decade ago) but loved it while she was there. She worked out in San Jose for them too.

For all the sleep deprived, my sympathies. DS is still a rubbish sleeper - wakes 3-4 times a night but I'm coping with the lack of sleep (just). I just worry about what will happen when I finally give up BFing [decides to cross that bridge when I come to it].

For all those dealing with relationship stress, I echo Arcadie's advice to talk talk talk. I praise DH where I can as well. But I will also go nuclear pull him up if I think he's being unreasonable (eg claiming to be more tired than me - I am fully sure he would literally be ill by now if he'd had as little sleep as me! - or trying to be passive aggressive via DS - kind of "gosh, isn't mummy [insert irritating remark]" - bugs the socks off me, mainly as my MIL is queen of the passive-aggressive communication). Anyway, am rambling but hope all marriages are on surer footing [and all mums are having some well deserved wine/chocolate/telly]

For all those worried about childcare, it's reassuring to hear from others on here that babies thrive. I'm in the process of looking at nurseries etc and I'm finding it a little depressing (I would love to not go back...I have my flexible working app meeting on Monday next and am not looking forward to going into the office at all [sigh]).

IWCAS on looking for tips re childcare, you can see if any of your local childrens' centres do a stay and play for childminders that you could drop in on to chat to some and see if anyone knows anyone who's available. One of my NCT friends found her childminder that way. Others have found nannies by just asking women at places like singing at the library and getting details passed on.

We had a great week in Portugal - v relaxing and lots of days at the beach. It was a v rustic spot, so lots of simple pleasures like reading and snoozing and hanging out just the three of us. Perfect for BLW too as ate mostly outside and there were dogs about who were more than happy to scoop up what DS dropped! DS got his two first teeth while we were away - didn't seem too bothered and seems to enjoy the fact that he can now bite food as well as suck.

And tonight we finally put him in his big cot (the bedside co-sleeper cot has been comedy small for him for aaaages but I had to be ready before I could switch him over Blush). He's still in our room but will (hopefully) spend more time asleep in his cot. My PIL arrive for a visit this week so we're planning on moving him into his own room once they leave.

OK, now off to drink some wine and finish unpacking. Toodle pip for now!

FlipFantasia · 26/09/2010 21:39

Oh and on the smear front, rebecca yes go and book it!

Tooblessed smears aren't painful. Just undignified. But they're the only way to catch cervical cancer so are vital. Cervical cancer is very treatable if caught early enough but it's a killer if not. I can understand how it might seem like a big thing but I've never had a problem with a smear (I've been having them since I was 17 as my older sis had a dodgy result one time so I went and got myself checked out).

OK. Am now backing away from MN as must unpack Grin

MummyElk · 26/09/2010 21:49

quick one for ang have a look at mei tei slings - or even things like the Yamo that smac mentioned - I DO have a rucksack carrier, and it is really useful - but now i've discovered these softer versions I think they are generally better, even for day to day....iwcas's freehand mei tei that she lent me for hols was fantastic for DD2 and also I gave DD1 a lift around various places too (and she's 2.5). Also - the rucksacks available in the UK are pretty rubbish - i got a really light one when I was in the U.S, not sure why we don't stock decent ones here but anyhoo.

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 27/09/2010 07:45

fantasia,great post and thank you for the advice about the smear,will book it asap,laughing at your poo story,

sunshinesarahandco · 27/09/2010 17:14

omg i am so so so sorry i havent been on for ages! i prominse i will come back later and catch up with u all- however for now i am getting ready for my first shift back at work!!!! so not ready to be going back i like my life the way it is!!!!Grinhowever at least i spend all day with the lo's as i work 6pm til 9pm mon to fri --- cannot belive its come round already!

gotta go=bbl

BusyMissIzzy · 27/09/2010 18:05

Hope your first shift back at work goes OK Sarah. That's really good that you don't miss full days with your DCs though. Does it work out with your DHs job so that you don't need childcare? That would be handy.

Epic post Flip, and glad you had a nice time in Portugal. Isobel is definitely keeping me on my toes now, she's so curious and adventurous I can't leave her alone for a second. Her new trick, as of today, is pulling herself up to standing, which quite often leads to her bumping her head when she inevitably loses her grip or her legs give out. I'm impressed at your weaning too, Isobel is mostly eating purees these days as anything with texture made her gag in the beginning.

rebecca and TooBlessed, get yourselves to the GP for yor smears . I had one a few weeks ago; they may not be the most fun you can have with your pants off Grin, but they are well worth any (minimal) discomfort.

Manda have you been to NY at Christmas before? I went with DH in 2007, it was amazing (but yes, cold; take lots of layers). All the Christmas window displays in the department stores, and the big tree and skating rink at Rockefeller Centre, it's all just gorgeous. I'm very Envy (that goes for rebecca and Flip too). Actually DH might have to go over for work sometime, and we thought about all going, but I'm not sure how I'd get on by myself with Isobel while DH is doing work stuff during the day. I'd rather go when it's a holiday for all of us.

MummyElk how is Elk sleeping these days? I hope things are improving.

Pixie thinking of you, hope you're coping (you always seem to cope amazingly with everything, I'm sure next Thursday will be here before you know it).

PD If you're off to Crieff Hydro already, hope you find it relaxing, restorative and rejuvenating and come back to the thread feeling like a new woman :)

scooby26 · 27/09/2010 20:38

Evening

Hope tonight goes ok Sarah

Bmi- I'm soo relieved I haven't got a baby who wishes his independence. Apparently girls are keener for that. DS walks holding my hands but barely moves at all if left alone - so much easier that way. Not sure what I'll do when he's as able as your DD!

DizziDoll · 27/09/2010 20:40

Evening all.

DS fell of the bed this morning [lush]. I put him on there and turned around to pick up some clothes and when I turned around I saw him fall head first off the bed. He screamed a little but then seemed alright. I now feel like I am real member for the mmm's!

Pixie I hope you are ok tonight.

Rebecca, TooBlessed I had my smear done last week and though a little uncomfortable, it only took a minute. Did you book yours today?

Manda I am very Envy at Christmas in NY. I spend a new years eve there in a very distant past and loved it.

Flip Sounds like you had a lovely time in Portugal. Well done on moving your DS into the cot.

I had a meeting with my boss today to talk about going back part-time (in case Gartner doesn't work out). He spent an hour asking me about why I thought a project went wrong, only to say right at the end 'I think part-time is going to be difficult', just when there was no time left to talk about it. Aaaarrgghhh, I really hate that place.

DS also seems to be a real mummy's boy. He totally refuses the bottle from the CM now, even though he took it fine the first time he was there.

I would really love to get the job at Gartner but fear that they also won't want to consider taking me on part-time. I am just in the kind of industry where part-time is not really 'done', which is why there are so few women doing what I do I think.

It's all up in the air at the moment but I am sure it will all work out somehow. In fact DH said the other day that his employer is about to give him another job so we might be sent to the US or Qatar. Or maybe not. Who knows. Time will tell I suppose .

The most I can look forward to is the unauthorised southern MMMM next week. Hooray!

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 27/09/2010 21:03

books an appointment for a pap smear before BMIand DIZZY* drags her to the doctor,

itwascertainlyasurprise · 27/09/2010 21:52

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donttrythisathome · 27/09/2010 22:00

Hi everyone

Thanks so much for the kind words re DH and me. I must say the problem really is me rather than him as I have such a short fuse. Must Try Harder!

DD is still waking up all night. Like the walking dead I am!

Tooblessed thanks for the porridge recipe and your lovely posts. I gave her normal porridge with banana and she loved it. But still woke up! Am looking forward to trying your secret ingredient though.

Flip Portugal sounds great and being a nappy advisor sounds great. And scooby am very Envy of all your trips! Are you going to Dollyland in Nashville?

Anyway sorry for all those I didn't shout out to. I have to express, eat chocolate and then face the music with a night of feeding every 2 hours or so....

sunshinesarahandco · 27/09/2010 23:14

right i have finally read thru everything i have missed x

pixie how are u doing,hope all ok with u guys x

rebecca=how was the birth you attended?

was going to write loads but my mind has gone blank!

is the live chat going to happen tomorrow?

my first shift was ok- like i have never been away :) bmi- i think it was u that asked about needing childcare= no we are really lucky dh comes home at around 5=40 i leave at 5-50 and get home for about 9-10 so it works really well for us

spk tomorrow night night x

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 28/09/2010 09:05

donttry,you are welcome,did you happen to use the maize meal?i didn't think you would be able to find it,not easy in europe,if she wakes up try the secret ingredient
:o at you eating chocolate,way to go girl

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 28/09/2010 09:06

ladies,can anyone tell me how to get rid of piles without having surgery,i was great,then pregnancy ruined me now i kind function like a normal human being,,aghghg

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 28/09/2010 09:07

i meant to say now i can't function ,,,

siamesecatwoman · 28/09/2010 09:13

so so so so so much to say and Ill forget it all but lets start with DD learning to crawl today and crawling off the bed and falling. Shes been on all fours for a few weeks and going backwards for what seems like forever. But she chose today while on my bed to crawl forwards and I chose that time to be cleaning out the wardrobe :( I think shes ok. She's sleeping which is making me nervous but she yelled like a goodun so thats always a positive sign.

Had a lovely holiday in Cornwall and I took my petite star zia with me. Excellent lightweight reclinable buggy recommended for manda and you can get it on ebay from the factory shop Nursery Value and save some money for all that shopping in NY

BMI if I buy those boots too can we just not mention it on the MMMM?

Ang have you been making Hughs savoury muffins too? the Spinach ones went very well, will attempt cheddar ones later this week.

Donttry I love how I can your accent in your posts. DH and I have also been having a crappy time on and off, I cant stop being a bitch sometimes when I know he is just trying to help.

Pixie hope you are ok? My parents live between Norwich and GY. It is always sunny there! Have you been house hunting?

last night was horrid - up again and again, she finally settled in bed with me. DH is working in Edinburgh for the forseeable so its just the two of us during the week. It is tough Pixie I completely understand. I file away my 'cant cope' at the back of my mind and just aim for wine oclock. Eventually Im going to have to sort my self out as living day to day like this doesnt feel quite right.

scooby how nice to have your twin so close. Have you ever been far from each other?

rebecca is the sleeping any better? After being unsettled after hols, DD got back to 'normal' after a week, but then we went away again, and she got another cold..

hi tooblessed Are you Norweigian? I have visited the fjords years ago, it was very beautiful

sarah OMG back to work! Dont know how you manage it with 3 DC, Im head firmly in sand until March 2011. That reminds me the gits at work have now changed Maternity Leave conditions so that it is more than SMP if you go off now. My SMP has finished (I went off in Jan) and Its annoying me so much theyve done this I almost feel like going back pg!

Cant remember what else I was going to say but I'm Envy of southern meetup.
Waves to the lurkers - Rinders? Afri? Dalrymps? Hows it going?

evitas · 28/09/2010 11:19

Good morning ladies.
Miserable day up here :(
Ds still has a cold. What can I do apart from keep him hydrated, lots of cuddles, calpol from time to time?

Tooblessed Piles, awful, isn't it?... My sympathies.

Siamese Shock at your DD crawling already. I'm sure she's fine. If you want to come to Edinburgh for a few days to be closer to your DH you can stay with us :)

Flip glad you enjoyed your time in Portugal :)

IWCAS 4.30am?! that was an early start. I hope the teething improves. Have you tried the teething biscuits?

Sunshine well done going back to work!

Pixie hugs

love to everyone
x

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 28/09/2010 13:50

Siamese no i'm not norwegian,just married one,its a difficult language but i can read ,write and speak enough to read the paper,pass exams and the worst is i have to take my A levels in Norwegian,as if,wish me luck coz i'm gonna need it

the best part is as soon as i am done with the norsk,i can finally do what i have always wanted to do,get my early childhood development degree,exciting

rebeccacad · 28/09/2010 14:08

Ok, I've booked it! next Thursday at 10.30am. I will report back - if you don't hear anything nudge me as I may have chickened out.

Tooblessed glad you've booked yours too and much luck wiht the exams.

Flip welcome back! So glad you had a splendid time. Sorry DS not a great sleeper but well done on the big cot transfer and good luck for the work meeting.

BMI Isobel is amazing. Sofya can still barely sit up (lazy little tike) but am comforting myself that she's a secret genius as handing her a book will stop her crying and she's happy to lie around turning the pages for ages.

Unauthorised southern MMMM hey what? Have I missed something?

IWCAS next time indeed.

Sarah it was a great birth - 2nd timer who had a traumatic first birth. This time it was lovely and at the most amazing NHS birth centre.

Arse DD only napped for 20 mins and is now crying. Gah! Sleep still awful but pretty sure it's teeth now...

BusyMissIzzy · 28/09/2010 14:29

rebecca I tried to text you a while back but maybe messed it up. Next Thursday, Oct 7th, there's a bunch of us meeting at the cafe in Mamas & Papas on Regent St, lunch time. Thread here. And I'm not sure about amazing, but Isobel is hard work right now. I can't leave her alone for more than a few seconds without her trying to climb up on furniture, knock over bins, eat shoes, or pull the cat's tail. Glad to hear the smear is booked (you too TooBlessed) :)

TooBlessedToBeStressed · 28/09/2010 15:19

oh ladies,all your babies are either running or crawling,my DD isn't doing any of those,she hates tummy time and very lazy,i guess she will move when she is ready,