I don’t want to see kids in poverty and I think people who are ill/disabled have worked but fallen on hard times should be entitled to help and support be it financial or otherwise. But I do not agree with blanket lifting the 2 child cap.
In the UK we’ve access to free contraception and family planning, we have lots of support universally available in terms of healthcare. Obviously there are circumstances where people may have had more than 2 children outside of their control eg abusive relationships, or multiple births (twins/triplets etc) and so I agree to a lift on the cap for certain circumstances and would support this.
But to blanket lift it does piss me off. DH have come from a working class background, we don’t have rich parents. DH and I have had to work hard to get the jobs we have now. We don’t earn huge amounts, above minimum wage but below average, we’re taking steps to progress to earn more money. We have been responsible, worked since a young age, lived within our means and we had one child because we couldn’t afford another and didn’t want to be stuck for money.
I know for a fact in our local area there are thousands of people who are having multiple children who don’t have any special circumstances where they may qualify for extra help. Who take no responsibility for their health, wellbeing or family planning, couldn’t care less about their children’s needs don’t make any effort to get any sort of job. I know that this will be reflected across the country and it is this which really pisses me off.
Have been talking to friends recently about how we feel we are on a treadmill of working, looking after kids, trying to be sensible with money. Trying to save. Feeling knackered. It just isn’t fair that one group of people are working their arses off and just keeping things afloat and another group of people couldn’t give a crap and expect the rest of us to fund them.