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Do you discuss your vote with your partner?

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CuriousMum27 · 04/07/2024 23:22

Do you tell your partner who you voted for?
Do you tell your parents? My mum always insists on asking but I never tell her, I feel weird about it and I don’t know why!

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marigoldandrose · 04/07/2024 23:22

Yes we're all completely open but I think it depends on the dynamics in your personal relationships

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 04/07/2024 23:23

Yeah I tell my husband and I leave it up to him whether he wants to tell me, but he always has done so far.

Nothankyou22 · 04/07/2024 23:23

edit I read parent not partner but in single so talk to myself
I never discuss politics or anything anymore that could lead to a debate because our views are always different and I get an ear full 🤣

flyinghen · 04/07/2024 23:24

I tell my husband, potentially husbands family if the election is brought up. Nobody else unless they say they voted for the same party in conversation somehow.

Don't discuss politics with my family as we are polar opposites and it's an unspoken rule to just leave it out of conversation.

Darker · 04/07/2024 23:25

Yes, absolutely.

shellyleppard · 04/07/2024 23:27

Discussed it with my son who got to vote for the first time. Can't talk about it with my dad as we disagree about the best candidate/party 🙄

HollyFern1110 · 04/07/2024 23:30

Yes, but my dad would never discuss his vote. He wouldn’t discuss religion or politics as a rule.

HungryLittleCrocodile · 04/07/2024 23:32

I don't tell anyone. DD, DH, family, neighbours, friends. No-one.

Because when I have told people in the past, I get eye-rolls, sighs, head shakes, and judgy comments, and a list of reasons why I am 'wrong' - because they picked someone different.

I get it from work colleagues, extended family, DH, and even from my adult DD.

DH is curious who I voted for, but I am not telling him. CBA with arguments or debates about it. It's called a secret ballot for a reason. My vote is between me and the ballot box.

housemaus · 05/07/2024 00:10

Yeah, 100%. I wouldn't have married someone I couldn't talk to openly.

emmetgirl · 05/07/2024 00:15

I'm very political so I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who has vastly different views to me. We're very open and agree on most things especially the ones that are most important to us both. I cant imagine it any other way.

OuijaBoard · 05/07/2024 00:18

Some partners have ways of finding out ...

Do you discuss your vote with your partner?
healthadvice123 · 05/07/2024 00:22

Neither of us voted this time, on previous occasions sometimes we do sometimes not. We don’t always vote the same way , but are respectful of each other’s decisions. Which seems very lacking these days as it seems many only want to associate with those who think exactly the same way as them. Nowadays there is not a huge difference between some of the parties anyway. I have no faith in any of them at the moment.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/07/2024 00:33

Same as @healthadvice123 DP and I don't always agree but we respect each others' views. We know who each other voted for.

Onehappymam · 05/07/2024 00:48

Yes, always.

DH works away from home. I voted on his behalf (proxy vote). We didn’t vote for the same party this time. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t. Our general outlook on politics is the same though. Can’t imagine not being open and honest about it.

Stickortwister · 05/07/2024 00:52

Yes of course.... And my family and friends.... But I've also put a poster up so very open about my views. Can't imagine a relationship where you wouldnt be able to talk openly about politics. We don't always vote the same but our views broadly align. I wouldn't directly ask someone about who they voted for, as it would be rude, but enjoy a good politics chat.

Saintmariesleuth · 05/07/2024 00:54

Yes, we regularly talk about politics. We rarely vote for the same party but respect each other's views.

Notmydaughteryoubitch · 05/07/2024 01:04

Of course, I am baffled by people that wouldn't discuss this with their significant other. Can understand parents and wider family (you can't choose them) but you choose your partner and I wouldn't want to be with someone who I couldn't talk to as significant as politics

SilverSimca · 05/07/2024 01:06

Of course. I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't discuss that with
Parents - I assume they know who I voted for but happy to discuss if it comes up

Iffx · 05/07/2024 01:29

Yes it seems odd not to.

Me and DH voted differently. Both for what we thought was least bad. We don’t argue or disagree - because there was nobody inspiring to vote for.

fridaynight1 · 05/07/2024 01:31

Yes, me and DH openly discuss our voting intention. Politics is a subject we discuss as a family. We are floating voters, however every election bar one we have pretty much been on the same page and have both voted for the same party. The only year we voted differently was when he agreed with Nick and I didn't.
Our 3 over 18 DC's talk about who they are voting for too. No secrets. No one judges.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 05/07/2024 01:36

I find it really hard to imagine not talking to close family about this stuff tbh, but we're all quite interested in politics so naturally it comes up. I know always know how my DH has voted, and my parents and my DSis and BIL etc. And now she is old enough, dd.

We are all pretty much on the same page as each other, and share the same fundamental values even if we don't always vote in exactly the same way. This time, we have all voted for the same party in any case.

We do have a lot of arguments about politics in spite of agreeing on pretty much everything, but it never leads to any bad feeling...we just enjoy the debate!Grin

fruitbrewhaha · 05/07/2024 01:41

I don’t know how you can build a life and a family with someone you can discuss politics with.

Marmiteontoastgirlie · 05/07/2024 01:44

The British are SO weird about voting secretly I have to say - isn’t the point of living in a democracy discussing ideas and the impact of politics on our society? How boring to keep this a secret from your partner in life!

I understand avoiding getting into arguments with people you know vote differently if you know the conversations are unproductive or end badly, but my mum is polar opposite to me and I still know who she voted for and she me!

It says so much about someone’s values and their priorities in life, why wouldn’t you want to know who everyone you’re close to voted for?

Christ0nABike · 05/07/2024 01:49

We sat at the kitchen table with our postal votes and discussed it. Neither of us wanted to vote for the main parties so we picked a local party and Green. Not sure which was mine.

We’ll just have to see what happens and fucking pray things don’t get any shitter.

Pointless in many respects.

Teenagerantruns · 05/07/2024 01:55

Yes we went and voted together today and both voted for same party,. I wouldn't care if we had different options, but would think it was strange if we didn't share who we voted for. My adult children and l are all chatting onwatsapp and sharing who we voted for.