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Does religion help with fear of life, dying and death?

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Followtheinstructions · 15/07/2026 13:02

I'm in my 50's and for as long as I can recall I have feared life, living, dying and death.

I'm talking from young childhood, I would lay in bed a night thinking and thinking, without any answers and would cry from my fear of the enormity of life. No idea why. I've had no childhood traumas and had a lovely childhood.

I was diagnosed ND last year, not sure if this makes me more prone to these thought processes but I simply can not compartmentalize life in the way others do. I over think everything.

I went to a CofE school with the church nearby and all events and celebrations were held in our village church. The village I still live in. I probably saw myself as (non-practicing) Christian most of my life until my 4 year old niece died from a brain tumour 15 years ago. I gave up on praying and believing, it felt wrong somehow.

Although I have a lovely life with a great dh, beautiful DC, family and friends I have always felt something is missing which may contribute to my fear of life? I don't know but could that be religion?

I am always drawn to more spiritual religions and beliefs and have wondered if Buddhism or something similar may be a better fit for me. I often ponder if it would help guide me to peace of mind and a more relaxed feeling towards life, living and death?

Does anyone find having a religion, whatever that means to you offers you some kind of peace, a feeling of being free from fears from the enormity of simply living?

Just something that I ponder now I'm past middle age and head towards my later years.

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GentleSheep · 22/07/2026 09:11

It was a miraculous conception via the Holy Spirit.

Dilbertian · 22/07/2026 09:59

Parker231 · 21/07/2026 21:25

I don’t like people lying and stating things are facts when they obviously aren’t. Some people could get worried by their suggestions.

Lying is a deliberate attempt to deceive. Believers are not lying.

You claim to worry about people being worried by things that are not proven facts, yet lies are an integral part of helping people feel good. Father Christmas, the Tooth Fairy, fairy doors in woodlands, fairy tales in general. Children outgrow these ‘lies’, just as many adults outgrow or adjust their beliefs as they go through life. If a child is worried by FC or the TF, then you adjust what you tell them. But you don’t attempt to refute their existence in the first olace, or make others justify their belief in their existence, just in case some other children are worried by them.

As it happens I grew up without FC or the TF, because neither was part of my parents religion or culture. But as soon as I understood that they were important to other children, I didn’t go around deliberately trying to spoil things for them.

Followtheinstructions · 26/07/2026 18:22

Waitingfordoggo · 17/07/2026 12:38

Interesting thread and replies.

I relate to you OP. I am ND and also do not have a faith and feel similarly to you. I am scared of being dead which I know is irrational because I’ll know nothing about it. I suppose what I’m actually scared of is running out of life to live, so I should make each moment count. But I spend so much of my time worrying and overthinking that I forget to actually be in the moment and enjoy life.

Sometimes I see people together having a lovely time and I think ‘What’s the point? We’ll all be dead soon.’ Which I know is a terribly negative way to think but my mind just does what it wants. Sometimes I’m enjoying a snuggle with my dog who I adore and then I suddenly pull away from him because I’ve remembered that he’ll die within the next few years, and I can’t bear it, and then I’m cross with myself for loving him so much because it’ll be too hard when he dies.

Ironically I teach some Mind and Body fitness classes (yoga/pilates style) and we always finish with meditation/relaxation. So many of my participants say that I have such a calming presence and really help them relax and ‘be in the moment’, and I think ‘If only you could see what’s going on in my mind!’ 😫

I’ve always been a very negative, fearful thinker but it’s definitely at a peak now in perimenopause. I’m hopeful I’ll be able to feel a bit more accepting once I get past this phase.

Crikey, we sound exactly alike. I resonate with everything you've written.

I took wish that I could live in the moment and drink in every experience, good or bad but I took have this internal voice constantly telling me there is little point in all this enjoyment when it could end at any time.

And yes, peri has definitely been a barrel of gasoline thrown into an already burning fire. It's made everything so much worse.

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Justmerach · 27/07/2026 05:59

I posted the magi center research before on another thread and this is for Christianity/Catholicism. It seems to be a legitimate website. I think someone stated that they suggest you can buy something. I think is standard practice today with most websites. Of course you do not need to buy a thing and the articles are free to read. I am posting because they do have some information on near death experiences and thoughts about the soul and afterlife.

https://www.magiscenter.com/blog/tag/science-and-faith

https://www.magiscenter.com/near-death-experiences

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