Can anyone point me in the direction of an amazing psychic????

[allgonebellyup]

i would really love to hear what (if anything) my future holds, have seen one already who was a bit hit and miss.

i am in Sussex.

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please, don't waste your time, money and energy. Read Derren Brown's book (have forgotten the title) he explains really well how these people are able to trick their clients who are desperate for hope/support/comfort whatever. I'm prepared to believe some psychics are deluding themselves, too, but not that they can see the future. Why are you so keen to know what's going to happen, anyway? Is something troubling you?

God, yes. Have had a hellish year, been suicidal several times, ex h met someone else and got her pg straight away, they are now living their perfect life with the baby and MY son there all the time.......i just want to know i will get over it eventually

Agree 100% with Madlentileater. At the very least do a google on "cold reading" and/or "mentalism" before plonking down any more money.

Lots of Derren Brown's stuff is available on YouTube if you don't want to buy his book. Other great mentalists who have exposed these con artists are James Randi, and Penn & Teller.

Sorry you are having such a crap time. When all my dcs were tiny - and things could get a bit grim- a friend used to say 'this too will pass' - she had it written over her door, in her imagination- I find that kind of comforting- just hang on in there and things will pass. Sorry that's not very specific. People do get over things, though, is what I observe.

If you are determined to get a reading then I met "Brother Michael" years ago at a physic fair and he was impressive. Even sceptical DH did not think he was a fake.

Aw I really feel for you. I was never married but ex p met another woman and got her pg straight away too. My dd was with them every other weekend and they would play happy families while I busted my ass trying to hold down a full time job and study for a better one.

It was the hardest time of my life but I came through it and guess what? ... I got my new career, I met a wonderful man during my training, ex and his ow have split and he's in the pub every day like he always was. He now has 2 dd's who he sees every other weekend and no partner in his life. I have picked myself up and followed through on a promise I made to myself and my dd. I changed my life for the better and can be all I need and want to be for her.

My mother always said 'this too shall pass' and she was right.

I wish you all the luck in the world, I know it's not easy and I know the hurt and tears will come whether you like it or not but time will change that if you let it. Feel your feelings now, cry, be angry, be hurt, talk about it and then make a promise to yourself and keep it.

thanks crunch

i wish my life would turn itself around like yours! i am also working nearly full time and studying part time in order to have a better job!

its been 11months already and im still not getting over it, but then the baby was only born 4weeks ago and it stills feel a bit raw

i dread sunday nights as my ds will come home in a minute ranting and raving about how fab the baby is, how wonderful ex's gf is etc etc..

Oh I know those Sundays. Ex's new gf used to do all the fun things like playing with make-up and dressing up, having girlie giggles and it used to really upset me.

I had all the hard jobs, bedtime, bathtime, homework, rules, the nasty dinners (healthy veg and meat dinners!) but nasty compared to the McD's treat every 2nd weekend. I used to think dd would hate me for doing the necessary Mummy things and that this other woman would get all her love and affection because she gave her everything she wanted.

Trying to explain the motives of an adult to a child is not a task I wanted to take on so I gritted my teeth and listened with just as much excitement to all she had to tell me about her lovely weekend and as much as it hurt inside I knew in time she would see the whole situation for what it was. I still feel that way, dd is only 8yo but already she has a grasp on things and I can say with a clear conscience (sp) that I had no part to play in her reaching her own conclusions.

I never have a bad word to say about her Dad. I think he's a prick but what use is my opinion of him to her. It would hurt her to think someone thought of him that way but in time she will see through the material bullshit and realise the very important meeting he had to attend was in front of the big screen, down the local. She has seen that the novelty of having her around and spoiling her to get at me has worn off for the OW and I have been there to comfort her.

She doesn't realise it now but when she's older she'll know why things are the way they are now and hopefully she'll understand why she caught me crying sometimes about my sore finger (or other made up excuse) just after a conversation or visit from her other parent and be glad I was strong enough (most of the time) to have a sore finger and just to let her be a child who thought her daddy was a hero and not a useless piece of shit. Hopefully she'll be glad that she was able to spend time with a fun and caring bitch woman at the weekend and not feel torn between me and her.

I'm sorry I've made that all about me. I just want you to know that, yes, it's hard but it does get better. Keep on with your studies, let anger drive you if you must and make that promise

That was a great post crunch.. am trying not to cry at mo as ex has literally just dumped ds into bed and zoomed out the front door.

It's understandable you're upset. That has to be hard to deal with. Obviously I don't know how your separation came about but no matter it still can't be easy having him around you when he is a source of hurt for you.

If you still love someone, it hurts. If you hate them because of hurt they've caused you, it hurts. Your worry for your child, your anger towards another woman. I have been guilty of being angry that the other baby was cute! [shame] All the happiness now in another household is crap and yes, I'm not proud to admit it but I did wish shit things for them for a long time.

I doubt my wishing had anything to do with it but maybe karma did lead to it all going wrong for them. At this point I don't care. It took some time but I realised that allowing them to take up residence in my head was a bad thing. When I was angry with them they didn't know. It affected me not them. When I was hurt by them it affected me not them. I decided I wasn't going to allow thoughts of them stay in my head, take up my time and rob me of my peace of mind.

I would go into dd's room at night and touch her soft skin and kiss her. I wanted to pick her up and hold her so tight so noone else in the world could touch her. I was scared and I was lonely and I the only thing I knew to be true was that she was my gift. The greatest gift I was ever given and I didn't want to loose her to anyone. I was scared, I was lonely and having lost someone who was supposed to love me, I feared loosing the only person left who did.

That was when I made that promise. Making it and following through were two different things and it wasn't always easy but I have a strong faith and it was my trust in my faith that brought me through.

Your original op? The future is what you make it. Faith can help and guide you but you are driving. I don't believe people can tell the future by looking into a crystal ball but I do believe that no matter how lonely we ever get we are never alone. There are many con artists. Please don't get sucked in by their promises. I won't say any more about my beliefs in case you are of a different opinion, faith but if you want to chat more, about anything, I'm here for a while

i do have faith, but i am not Christian, are you??

No I'm not Christian. I'm not sure there's any religion I fit into to be honest.

I believe in God. God being the highest power. I believe in angels and archangels and spirit guides. I believe in a life after this and that our time here is for learning or teaching so that in the afterlife we can attain a higher spiritual vibration and move to the next level of learning in order to some time be a spirit guide to another.

Just having a little grin to myself reading back over that. I imagine to someone of a different faith or belief system it sounds very odd. I hope you don't think I'm odd

I suppose no matter what your faith is, it is your trust in it that brings comfort and solice in times of sadness, loneliness or need.

I know certainly that during the most difficult times in my life I have leaned on my faith very strongly and I have yet to be let down. It could be that when I die, that's it - nothing or maybe I will be met by a different God to the one I believe in but in this lifetime what I believe and trust in works for me.

I have had many experiences that others would call coincidence. That's ok for them, I hold no contempt for anyone who says it's tosh because it is not about being right or wrong, it's about trust not just in your beliefs but in yourself and I believe the experiences I have had to be something other than coincidence. Live and let live eh?

Like I said in an earlier post, I don't believe looking into a crystal ball can reveal what the future holds but I'm open to the possibility that some very gifted or chosen people have some ability to see things. I've yet to meet one but that doesn't mean they don't exist.

I'm starting to feel like a preacher. Hope I answered your question without freaking you out

How are you today anyway. Feeling any better?

No, dont think you're odd, at all. i believe the same thing. i believe everything happens for a reason, and i do believe that someone or something is watching me, although at the moment i am struggling to feel this.
I also think that some things that happen in life cannot just be coincidence, and mostly i depend on my sense of intuition, that is seldom wrong!

My faith is also kind of keeping me going at the moment, although some days i feel i am losing sight of this, as my pain doesnt seem to be diminishing with time.

Hi Allgone. I feel shit, I've been here half the day and only just seen your post now. Very sorry.

It's a little difficult to know what to say because I don't know how things happened the way they did for you and I'm a little wary that I could be saying something totally wrong or irrelevant to your particular circumstances. I do hope you have friends or family to talk to. Not saying I won't be here if you want to chat, just they know your situation, they know you.

I used to think of it this way...

I'm on a ship. A dark old ship just about sea-worthy. There are people on it who have hurt me, who I don't like, who have taken away my peace of mind and made me question everything I once trusted, loved and believed in. It used to be a happy place but now I'm sitting in a far corner and it looks like there will never be an end to this journey. I'm not at the wheel, I'm not in control. These others dictate how, what and when I feel and most of the time it's a bad feeling but I'm stuck. I look over the edge into the dark water. It's scary but as I look back over my shoulder I know it is nothing in comparison to how scary the thought of staying here is so I jump into the deep unknown.

At first, I thrash about trying to catch my breath, desparately trying to swim and keep my head above water. I'm tiring quickly and I know I will eventually run out of energy for this fight so I try to calm myself and lie back. To my great relief I realise if I just relax I can float and take a breather.

That's the first step - trusting myself to make the right decision even in the toughest situation. The next step? Trusting that my faith will quietly guide the current and me to better place.

I lie back watching that big old ship sail further and further away. There are moments of fear and moments of regret but I'm still alive. I'm still floating and I'm now in control of my own destiny.

After a little time I spot a piece of driftwood floating near by. I can see it but it's not heading for me. It's up to me to swim to it. So that's what I do, I swim for all I'm worth and I grab that piece of wood. Out of breath but very proud I lift my head for the first time in ages and I smile. Ahead I can see land. It'll take time to get there but with this new piece of 'treasure' I can make it!

That old ship was my relationship with ex p. That leap of faith was our break up. That piece of driftwood was my training and that land was my destiny.

I deliberately left dd out. Not because she didn't matter but because I know to be everything I can be for her I must first be all I can be for me.

You can and will come through this I promise. You sound like you're doing a great job already with studying, working and being a mum. We all have times when we feel we are just about surviving but when we lie back and float for a while we give ourselves time to plan how to live again.

Hope some of that makes sense.

Also hope you're feeling a little stronger today.

oh dont worry! ive been at work all day so only just logged on..

i guess i just feel so sad about my situation as it was all my own doing - ex and me had been fighting for a few weeks about money mostly; i got it into my head that i wanted to separate, so i literally kicked him out, and he was so gutted. He said he felt suicida and stopped going to work etc.

In the back of my mind i was always thinking "oh we will get back together soon", but then WHAM, he met someone else in the space of 8wks, got her pregnant, and even though he told her a million times that he didnt want the baby, she still had it.

They now live together and the baby's been born, and they all play happy families with my ds there every weekend. (i also have a dd from my previous relationship, and now she has lost her lovely stepdad)
i CANNOT stop kicking myself for making him leave, when i think all i wanted was a break. i knew deep down that i still loved him. Now its too late, as he keeps reminding me.

suicidal

Ah that's a tough one no doubt.

Do you really think it wasn't for the best though. Don't answer that for me but think about it yourself. There was a reason why you wanted a break. Please don't think I'm trying to dismiss the feelings you have at the moment just that maybe it's circumstance making you have regrets.

Ask youself...if a lovely man came into my life tomorrow could I let things develop with him. If things did develop would I still have regrets about splitting with ds dad. What I'm getting at is that it might, just might be because you miss having someone that close. That you miss all the things that a relationship brings.

It's a tough thing to say and I don't like saying it because when it was ever said to me I felt like hitting those who said it but....spilled milk. You know how the saying goes. Maybe you made a mistake, you may never know so you can't dwell on it. Maybe you didn't make a mistake, I'm betting someday when you're very happy in another relationship you'll realise you didn't but for right now, it's spilled milk.

Try not to beat yourself up about it.

You said in your 4th post 'i just want to know i will get over it eventually'. I'm no fortune teller but I know from experience in my last relationship and others that you will.

Your big ol' ship and my big ol' ship have different stories to tell but I know you'll swim.

You might get some guidance fromthis site

thanks crunch, yes i know i am crying over spilt milk, but it is also guilt im feeling - that i have ruined my dc's lives for the sake of a few money arguments (and ruined dd's life for a 2nd time as i had already split from her dad in 2001)
i know ex dh played a huge part in all thats happened so i dont solely blame myself.

That site looks great, i did my 3 cards, oddly, the ones i picked were "new beginnings", "soul mate", and "meditation".
ive been trying to meditate lately, my sis is a buddhist and swears by it.
Obviously i would love to meet my soul mate, but thats what dh and i used to call each other, and it makes me sad again!
And obviously "new beginnings" says it all really!

thanks for that. Do you look at that site a lot?

Hi you two, hope you don't mind me gatecrashing.

Crunch - I was a bit gobsmacked to read your post when you talked about your beliefs. You had managed to put into words exactly what I believe too and have always struggled to verbalise.

I think there are people who can tell us what is on our path in the future - but the bit I struggle with is that surely there are so many other things that can influence what happens. Our own free will for a start. Do things not happen as people say they will because we've changed our path by free will. Or at the time of the reading were we set on that path but it changed because lessons we were here to learn we learnt earlier than expected - or didn't learn. I don't think it's as straightforward as someone "fortune telling".

The site Crunch linked to is really interesting and right up my street! Thank you. My first card told me that the angels are very much around me at the moment, even though it feels like they aren't. I'm having a tough time right now, and am really hanging onto the fact that there is someone out there supporting me - just as I thought the other day "am I making all this up" dd ran up to me shouting "mummy, look I found a real angel's feather" .

This is a site I visit a lot AGBU, you might find this helpful too.

Hi Allgone and Surfer

Allgone - I have my own deck of those Angel Cards so I don't go to that site. I had considered doing a reading for you but thought you might find it intrusive and a little weird and that maybe if you picked your own cards you would feel more connected with the answers you were given. That you would trust your own guidance rather than what some person said to you on a public forum.

FWIW I can see how the cards you picked where right for you. I don't know the positioning of them but to me they are very significant. To me they say some of the things I tried to say to you earlier. New Beginnings - You've taken that leap. There's fear, regret maybe a sense of loss. It's not easy to let go of what we are familiar with sometimes but new beginnings, new experiences, new opportunities are coming your way and they will replace your doubts and fears.

'Soulmate' - Because you have one person in mind you are I think, instinctively relating this card to him. This card was a message to you. It's telling you that there is a soulmate relationship waiting for you. Your angels have heard you and they know this and they want you to know it too.

'Meditation' - Take time out. Nurish your spirit with positive thoughts. Like I said, trust yourself to stop thrashing, lie back and take a breather. Take time to ponder, to connect with and nurish your spirit. Then allow yourself to be guided through your thoughts and intuition.

These cards are not fortune telling they are confirming that you are not alone. That your angels are with you and they know your fears, worries, dreams, desires and aspirations. They are telling you that what you want will come (new beginnings and a soulmate) and what you need to do to achieve it (meditate) They are guidance and that same guidance will come to you in many forms. I've said it lots on here - Trust. If you find it hard to trust in a particular faith right now, that's ok but do try to trust yourself. Go with your 'gut' as some would say and grab those opportunities (driftwood ) when you see them.

Sure the waters will be choppy at times but it will make your achievements all the more to be proud of. All that you learn will help your spirit to grow.

Angels evolve by helping us. They want you to ask for help so if your inclined to - ask.

Please don't be thinking you have ruined your dc's lives. You made a decision based on your circumstances at the time. That's all anyone, including yourself, can ask of you. There wouldn't be much point us being here to learn if we 'knew it all'! Quite a lot of people think they 'know it all' and find at some point along their journey that they were a little deluded.

I believe we come here to nurish our spirits by learning or teaching. It's our egos that get in the way of that learning/teaching.

Surfer mum - I questioned exactly what you have many times. What about free will? This is what I refer to as the egoself. Like our bodies, our spirits need food. Our egos get in the way sometimes.

I don't think there is a particular path to a particular thing we must learn. I believe before we are born we (our spirits) chose lessons to learn. To be able to guide another spirit someday we must first have experienced what we will be providing guidance for so it is with the intention of learning something that we chose a life on earth. How we go about learning that lesson is effected by the ego/body we live in. We feed our bodies but we don't always feed our spirits. I believe the closer we are to knowing our true selves and nurishing our spirit the closer we are to learning what we came to learn because we allow ourselves to be guided.

Our spirit guides guide our spirits but we don't meditate, we don't relax, we get caught up in the busy lives we lead or we just simply never learn to connect with our inner selves so we miss the guidance in the form of dreams, intuition and subtle messages. We are a different vibration to our angels so it's like a different language. We learn that language through meditation, letting go of our ego and asking for help.

I'll leave it here for now as I feel I've completely taken over Allgones thread Sorry Allgone.

I hope you havn't found me too preachy. I am very passionate about my beliefs and maybe I have gone on a little. Please forgive me if I've crossed any boundaries.

I hope things get easier for you and that you will find peace of mind, courage, new love and hope very soon.

Take care

I'm very sorry you've been feeling so down. But a couple of things jumped out at me. Firstly, why is your ds there every weekend? I think that's a lot. Most courts say every other weekend. When does your ds get to hang out with his big sister? Also your ex is bringing home your ds very late! He should be bringing him home at a reasonable hour and nearly 10pm isn't, in my book. It's you and the school that has to deal with a tired little boy in the mornings. I'd say 7pm is the very latest he should be coming home on Sundays.

msDemeanor - yes my ex has ds every weekend, he starts calling me every name under the sun if i dont let him, and says i am using ds as a "weapon", and trying to stop them seeing each other.
Yes he does also bring him back late at night, so he can just plop him into bed but this will have to change when he starts school.

Hi I had a reading with an amazing woman, after having wasted 100's on psychics, which I am so embarrassed about. She doesn't claim to be psychic but is a very precise astrologer, told me pertinant facts that were very specific, and this was over the phone! She is called Donna taylor and she has a website called Scorpio Rising. I totally understand peoples scepticism but she actually gave me some tough but wise advise. Wish I'd acted on it as she turned out to be right

How did you sort out contact Bellyup? I think you need to knock this on the head now. He needs relaxed weekend time with you and his big sister for a start, and you shouldn't be called names. If he is going to be abusive you might need to insist he only talks to you via a solicitor. It is totally unacceptable. I think you should be thinking about alternate weekends and a 6.30pm return time. I'd be bloody distraught if I were divorced and never saw my children at weekends. It is totally unfair. Get it sorted now before he starts school. See a solicitor and if your ex starts kicking off you can just say 'see you in court', knowing no judge will enforce an every weekend order for your ex in the face of your opposition.
I really wouldn't waste your hard-earned cash on charlatans. Spend it where it matters, on good legal advice, a nice glass of wine with friends and some treats for you and the kids.