@Babybirdmum , if I don't take you up on various points that you make in response to me, it's not because I agree with you. But I can see that any counter argument, be it rational or emotional, you simply use to support your own beliefs. Which might be fine, but in many hands that sort of attitude does lead to religious intolerance.
I personally object quite strongly to the suggestion that because I do not align myself to your choice of religion, I have no moral core.
You can tell me, and the world, that it's "not gods will" that terrible things happen. Naturally, atheists will ask why, in that case, does this supposedly omnipotent and caring God allow things to happen? But you will give the usual answer - just that it's not gods will and these "bad" people are not following the true path - even when they might call themselves devout theists, of whatever persuasion, and use their interpretation of their sacred texts to justify their actions. What if their interpretations were correct and yours wrong? What if there is a god, and bad things happen precisely because that god wills it?
Now even though I apparently morally deficient by dint of not being religious, my moral sense would lead me to act if I felt something was wrong. And I'm just one small person. So sorry, but if God is omnipotent, and doesn't agree with something, then it's in God's power to do something about that, and I see precious little evidence of this.
(I know you'll have an argument to show why you think I'm wrong but no argument will persuade me!)