This might be a rambly so I apologise in advance for this.
I recently left the evangelical church where I became a Christian after falling out with the pastors after they told me I needed to rely on God more than the Dr's for my bipolar. It wasn't a friendly leaving and I still have a lot of resentment about feeling pushed out.
I joined a CofE church where it seems the teaching is very authority driven and although they talk a lot about building a relationship with Jesus they are also very anti women leaders and take a strong line on LGBTQ+ which doesn't align with my beliefs.
This coupled with having a non-Christian boyfriend (he's an atheist) I'm feeling pushed out again. I work for a Christian charity and one of my colleagues is a fundamentalist and uses every opportunity we're alone in the office to preach at me. He even went so far as to send me scripture quotes just before I went away with my boyfriend for the weekend so he could meet my parents.
I'm feeling very confused about where I fit in at church - or even if I do and a little like I've been brain washed.
It's further complicated by the fact that I work for a Christian charity and am also a Street Pastor and volunteer in the college chaplaincy so I would have to stop the street pastors and chaplaincy work if I wasn't a member of a church and I love both of these activities and feeling a calling to help people and I'm not sure if I could find other voluntary work in the secular world.
I guess I'm looking for direction on where to go with these feelings and how to make a decision on if I leave church and go it alone.
Thank you for reading and any advice gratefully received!
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Sweetladyjane · 17/10/2023 09:37
Sweetladyjane · 17/10/2023 09:37
This might be a rambly so I apologise in advance for this.
I recently left the evangelical church where I became a Christian after falling out with the pastors after they told me I needed to rely on God more than the Dr's for my bipolar. It wasn't a friendly leaving and I still have a lot of resentment about feeling pushed out.
I joined a CofE church where it seems the teaching is very authority driven and although they talk a lot about building a relationship with Jesus they are also very anti women leaders and take a strong line on LGBTQ+ which doesn't align with my beliefs.
This coupled with having a non-Christian boyfriend (he's an atheist) I'm feeling pushed out again. I work for a Christian charity and one of my colleagues is a fundamentalist and uses every opportunity we're alone in the office to preach at me. He even went so far as to send me scripture quotes just before I went away with my boyfriend for the weekend so he could meet my parents.
I'm feeling very confused about where I fit in at church - or even if I do and a little like I've been brain washed.
It's further complicated by the fact that I work for a Christian charity and am also a Street Pastor and volunteer in the college chaplaincy so I would have to stop the street pastors and chaplaincy work if I wasn't a member of a church and I love both of these activities and feeling a calling to help people and I'm not sure if I could find other voluntary work in the secular world.
I guess I'm looking for direction on where to go with these feelings and how to make a decision on if I leave church and go it alone.
Thank you for reading and any advice gratefully received!
scoobycute · 17/10/2023 16:28
This may not be the answer you're looking for but maybe you're struggling to fit in to a church because you have largely quite secular views on LGBTQ+ issues, sex before marriage/dating someone with different beliefs etc which many mainstream Christian Churches will not encourage.
The bible is very clear on these topics and it's not in line with your current lifestyle or beliefs. I'm sure you're not interested in getting into a heated debate about this. But what I'm saying should come as no great surprise to you.
With regard to fitting in somewhere, some very left liberal churches will hold beliefs similar to yours but that line of teaching is not biblical. Some independent home churches are not in any way regulated, this is again where you may fit in more with your line of beliefs.
I urge you to look at Christs teachings and why Christian's hold the views that are opposite to yours. Go back to the Word of God.
I wish you all the best.
scoobycute · 17/10/2023 16:28
This may not be the answer you're looking for but maybe you're struggling to fit in to a church because you have largely quite secular views on LGBTQ+ issues, sex before marriage/dating someone with different beliefs etc which many mainstream Christian Churches will not encourage.
The bible is very clear on these topics and it's not in line with your current lifestyle or beliefs. I'm sure you're not interested in getting into a heated debate about this. But what I'm saying should come as no great surprise to you.
With regard to fitting in somewhere, some very left liberal churches will hold beliefs similar to yours but that line of teaching is not biblical. Some independent home churches are not in any way regulated, this is again where you may fit in more with your line of beliefs.
I urge you to look at Christs teachings and why Christian's hold the views that are opposite to yours. Go back to the Word of God.
I wish you all the best.
scoobycute · 17/10/2023 16:28
This may not be the answer you're looking for but maybe you're struggling to fit in to a church because you have largely quite secular views on LGBTQ+ issues, sex before marriage/dating someone with different beliefs etc which many mainstream Christian Churches will not encourage.
The bible is very clear on these topics and it's not in line with your current lifestyle or beliefs. I'm sure you're not interested in getting into a heated debate about this. But what I'm saying should come as no great surprise to you.
With regard to fitting in somewhere, some very left liberal churches will hold beliefs similar to yours but that line of teaching is not biblical. Some independent home churches are not in any way regulated, this is again where you may fit in more with your line of beliefs.
I urge you to look at Christs teachings and why Christian's hold the views that are opposite to yours. Go back to the Word of God.
I wish you all the best.
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