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Child with a gift? Please share your experiences with me

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beautifulgirls · 30/04/2007 12:41

My DD#1 seems to see things that we do not. My mother is sensitive to such things and has in the past seen ghosts though not recently. I have never seen one myself but was very aware of someone with me at one point and only afterwards found out that the particular property was believed to be haunted. So, we would not be surprised if she had a gift for such things. She is 2yr 7mth old and now and again waves and says "Hello" to "nothing" especially in my parents house. We are not aware their house is haunted, but we do believe my grandparents are with us at various times and perhaps it is them that she sees. It is hard to ask her what she sees and I do not want to put ideas into her head, I want to hear it from her.

Have you had a child that has done this, how did you talk to them about it and did you encourage the gift - how did you if so? I'm not upset with her if she does see ghosts, in fact it would be sad if she lost the ability if indeed she has such an ability as I suspect.

So far her younger sister does not appear to show any such traits, but she is still very young and time will tell.

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Homebird8 · 30/04/2007 18:46

Our friends' little boy came into our diningroom aged two and said, "Oh look Mummy, ghosties". We asked him where and he pointed to one side of the fireplace and siad, "There, on the chair". We're sure the old lady who lived here before us was still here when we moved in and both DH and I got the feeling she was thanking us for clearing out sheds and things that she'd been unable to do for some time.
I'm not at all surprised to hear that your little girl is in good touch with such things. As with all things child, listen to her, encourage her to express all her experiences (natural and potentially supernatural) and wait until she can express herself more clearly. Perhaps write down where she's looking when she says hello, and when, so you can see whether there is a pattern.

fransmom · 30/04/2007 21:31

hi bg my dd is just abit yunger than your dd1 and has seen several thigns both when she was younger and now she can partly tell us what she has seen. for instance, one day i was sitting in the living room with her and she said " i can see nanny". ( my mom died nearly 8 years ago). so i said to her - well go and give her a kiss then! and knock me down with a feather she did and it was then i realised that my mom was there. i have felt her round me several times and she has also visited me in dreams. but to have the experience of my lovely dd seeing and then telling me was absolutely uplifting.

we were told by a medium that she did have the ability to see things (which i already knew) and that later on she would be able to tell us
little children are very often more perceptive than we give them credit for, even tiny babies that can't yet speak and talk to us to tell us of what they've seen. this is because they haven't yet had the experience of other people telling them it is not "normal" (even tho it's the most natural thing in the world) - for some it's a case of jealousy when they say things like that and wish to denigrate someone else that has the ability that they would like to possess (which of course is wrong because the ability to see things is not a material possession - but a spiritual talent which has assistance from spirit guides.

please understand that i don't want to pset you in any way i jsut had soem information for you that i had to pass along

fransmom · 30/04/2007 21:31

(from little children onwards)

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beautifulgirls · 01/05/2007 09:03

Thanks for the replies - I'm pretty sure that she is not copying other kids or making things up out of jealousy. It may be interesting if perhaps her sister does later though? DD#1 is a little slower than some of her peer group for understanding and speech and she is very laid back about sharing toys and things with other kids too. These moments of "seeing" are not very frequent and usually only last a moment or two, are not addressed to us at all - she waves to who she is seeing, says hello once or twice then usually gets on with whatever else attracts her attention next. We had one episode last week though when I arrived at my parents, as we went in the front door she looked up the stairs and waved and said Hello Nanny (though my mum was downstairs and is very much alive), ran through to say Hi to my mum and dad, then grabbed my dad by the hand and insisted he took her upstairs to look around. My dad is not into these things at all so I didn't mention her waving and that fact I thought she had gone up to look for someone. As far as I know nothing happened while they were upstairs, but then I didn't go up with them and Dad would not mention it if it did - he would rather turn a blind eye himself. I told my mum though later and she said she had been chatting with her mum and dad and asking them to pop by today as I was coming with the kids. My nan and grandad never met my kids while they were alive. It is lovely to think they are about now though and see them.

I shall just keep encouraging her to tell me what she is doing/seeing when it happens and hope she can make herself better understood soon.

Thanks

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SaintGeorge · 01/05/2007 10:35

All children have the gift. For some, it will grow and develop naturally as the child grows. That trait can run in families (fransmom and myself are perfect examples of that).

The majority of children lose the gift as they grow simply because society as a whole does not believe. Things are laughed off or ignored and gradually the gift fades into the background.

You are doing the right thing if you want to give your dd's gift a chance to grow. Don't overly encourage it, by asking if something has happened for example. Simply accept what she tells you and use those opportunities to talk to her about it.

KerryMum · 01/05/2007 10:44

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Homebird8 · 01/05/2007 21:20

Kerrymum, you've just explained something I've seen in DS2. He's 2 1/2 now and it doesn't seem to happen so much but when he was younger he would sort of look at you like he was looking into your soul. It was a very strange feeling and I have even been stopped by strangers in the supermarket asking whether I knew that my baby could see straight through them and that their souls felt naked under his gaze. My mum who regularly writes poetry expressed it as an expression only an icon could make (like the grownup faces on the infant Jesus in pictures of the virgin and child). You've really made me wonder!

maltesers · 01/05/2007 23:10

homebird8 I can relate to this bout your ds. My ds of 6 yrs is supposedly an 'ebony ~Child and has seen and told me some very strange things. They are very psychic before the age of 6 or 7 so keep aware. you may have a very talented child who is psychic.

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beautifulgirls · 02/05/2007 10:24

Thanks all

Kerrymum - that is a really scary story about your niece. At least she was able to go and choose a house she was comfortable in.

As a child we went on holiday and rented a house in Cornwall. Through the whole holiday for no reason I felt totally uncomfortable in that house. Where I would usually have my own bedroom I insisted my brother share with me there. Talking to my mum years later about it - I didn't at the time- she told me that she too thought there was a bad presence there. We didn't see or hear anything, just felt it. We never rented that house again but went elsewhere instead. Never a problem after that.

StGeorge - thanks for the reassurance we are doing the right thing with her.

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KerryMum · 02/05/2007 10:27

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beautifulgirls · 02/05/2007 10:36

I would love to see a ghost myself. When I had the experience I mentioned in my first post when I knew that someone was there with me it was not in any way a frightening experience - not uncomfortable at all. I believe it felt like a lady and she felt very "safe". It was very different to that house in Cornwall that I felt a general bad feeling - not a specific person feeling in the same way. I once stayed with a friend of mine who told me his parents old house was haunted. I didn't sleep a wink either, but that was because it was in my mind. Actually I never had any feelings in any way that something was actually there. Maybe it was because it was not nasty and knew I had become scared about it before I even set foot in the place so it just stayed away to be kind?

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KerryMum · 02/05/2007 10:38

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beautifulgirls · 02/05/2007 10:47

I often see my maternal grandparents in my dreams. It is always very emotional when I see my nan, I give her a big hug and it is always known to us that she is not on this side any more. I always have a happy day after I see her in particular. I really do not know if this is a true communication between us or just a dream, but I do like to think it is true. I have tried asking questions to her before I sleep but have never received an answer so I am not so sure either way.

Sorry you miss your godmother

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beautifulgirls · 02/05/2007 10:47

sorry make that grandmother not godmother

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fransmom · 02/05/2007 16:34

bg let me tell you now - this isn't just a dream, it is true communication between you and your nan, i'm getting the impression that the fact that you feel she hasn't said anything is because she thinks you have the answers inside of you already and just need to do some meditating to find out your answers. they may not come directly but as more of a feeling.(((((((((hugs))))))))))

kerrymum you reminded me of what i eventually realised about my dad and that was the fact that he didn't like me neing able to do those things because it was somewhere that he felt he couldn't protect me (which was strange because as i might have said here or elsewhere - we were brought up with the whole concept and so it was totally natural to us).so that may be the case for your parents or it may be that they just felt that they just didn't understand ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))

stg i do think that it runs in families - my father's paternal uncle was, sorry is, a healer as i have had healing on my energy leaking ankles from him - he also, i believe, helped to build a spiritualist church in the v.small market/ex coal mining town where i grew up. i have also jsut had the impression that he is a very important guide to me as well but not yet sure how - perhaps, as he's just said laughing, i need to meditate as well!

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beautifulgirls · 02/05/2007 17:19

Thanks fransmum - it is nice to hear that

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fransmom · 02/05/2007 19:55

dontwanttogetoutofbed · 10/05/2007 20:40

is anyone still watching this thread? i read it out of total curiosity. i think i could feel (but not see) gohsts or spirits or whatever when i was little, and my parents paid no attention, and i ended up living in fear and developing lots of social and other problems as a result. i have been working on myself and have fixed most of those problems, and have also accepted that maybe a lot of my fears were justified and i would have been better off accepting them then fearing them.
anyways, now i am wondering will a medium or someone be able to tell me if it is true and can i bring back this ability if it exists as i think it may help me finish fixing my problems.
i would be really greatful for any advice here

fransmom · 10/05/2007 22:59

hello! yes i am still watching (occasionally) i had similar probs to you. maybe you ned to visit your local spiritualist church and talk to someone there

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beautifulgirls · 12/05/2007 17:41

I still pop in too just to see if there are more posts. I hope you get your feelings resolved soon. DD#1 hasn't said anything more since I first posted, but I still watch her for more. It will happen when she is ready.

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fransmom · 12/05/2007 21:10

hello x

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beautifulgirls · 13/05/2007 08:30

Hi Fransmom

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3littlefrogs · 13/05/2007 17:33

My mum used to see ghosts, and is incredibly intuitive. I see them and my children see them. Dd is an old soul and has strong psychic abilities. I am very lucky that I have been able to understand her and accept and explain her abilities, and help her to deal with them. I have had to help her to find ways to understand that schoolfriends and teachers may have no understanding of the subject and think she is telling lies or making stuff up.

She is such an open channel that I have sought help from more experienced friends to teach her to shut down, otherwise she would never get any peace.

She told me when she was very small that I was chosen to be her mummy, so I know that this is an important aspect of my parenting.

fransmom · 14/05/2007 19:53

3lf

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beautifulgirls · 14/05/2007 21:56

3Littlefrogs - That is amazing she has such a strong gift. I am pleased she/you are able to share with her too.

A bit of an aside to the original topic but did have an unexplained event today. I can only "blame" my grandparents or a friendly soul at least! This morning DH and I were looking for a particular birthday card. Neither of us could see it in the usual cupboard we keep them in. I left DH to search and he eventually gave up. I was going to buy another tomorrow to replace it. When I came in from work this evening I was doing something next to the cupboards and DH came over, looked on the worktop next to me and said "Oh you found the card then!" - and there is was on the worktop clear as day. I didn't put it there and DH obviously didn't. The work top is usually totally clear so it hasn't just appeared from under other stuff. Guess we have a helper in the house (both DD way to small to get to the cupboards where it should have been)

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