Baptism Advice

[TheRealHousewifeofCheshire]

Hi

Can anyone offer any advice or support? Ive wanted to get my daughter baptised since birth but my partner was not keen. In two years my desire to formally join the church and to baptise my child hasnt lessened and I think he has finally realised how important it is to me and has agreed i can attend church and he will support me.

However, I was born to a catholic father and a protestant mother. My fathers family were deeply catholic and there were disagreements over wjether i should be baptised or not. So they decided we cpuld make our own minds up. Unfortunately growing up this isnt one of your main concerns so I never gave it much thoygh. Ive now movef away from family and into a new community and would like to reconnect to my faith background.

I know i will need to prove this to the local priest and i plan to attend services at the local church but i dont know how to approach the ossue of a baptism. I want to show my commitment first by attending. I am wprried though that the priest may not want to baptise my daughter because i am not baptised although i want to join the church. My partner and I are not married which may also cause a problem but he is not relihious but we do want yo marry. Again we were young when we got married. I would just like my child to have a stronger moral guidance in their life.

Obviously we will provide our child with a moral upbringing but Its important to me she is welcomed into the church and i would like to join the church too.

Is the church you attend/are planning to attend Catholic or protestant? If protestant, what kind?

I think he has finally realised how important it is to me and has agreed i can attend church and he will support me.

What now?

Our (Catholic) church runs a course each year called 'Journey in Faith ' which is for adults wanting to receive the sacraments of baptism/communion and confirmation. It is one evening a week for a few months so you really learn about everything. See if your/a local church run anything like that. Your Parish priest is a good place to start.
Might be worth attending 2\3 local churches to see which one suits you as they can be very different.
I think it's a lovely thing for you to want to do for both you and your daughter, and great if your partner can support you too.

@Lalaleah thank you. I know the church in my Parish at home has a course you can apply to attend but as far as i am aware the church here doesnt.

Thank you for all your lovely positive comments.

We did four preparation sessions in total for the first Nothing for others. I don’t recall having to prove we were baptised. We also run a course preparing adults for reception into the church. Then we have alpha courses for people interested but wanting to explore more.
I agree try a few if possible because they are very dependent on the parish priests attitudes.

I think my church is a little stricter and i havent heard of any courses

Thanks though

Some smaller Catholic churches don't have courses, but if someone wants to join they do a personalised course with the priest or another person trained to do it.

If you want to be Baptised as an adult it's your informed decision. Why deny your child the decision you are able to make now, by making it without his/her consent?

ridiculous

Thank for the unsupportive comment though when i soecifically asked for supportive ones. You wont get an argument here and i wont argue the toss.

Goodnight

Firstly, you were the given the choice as to whether you were baptised or not. You want to be, fine. But why not let your child have the same choice?

Secondly
“ My partner and I are not married which may also cause a problem but he is not relihious but we do want yo marry. Again we were young when we got married”
Are you married or not?,

@Goldenwondering my comment was to the poster above

What shall i do with myself- this isnt the place for me to discuss or argue both sides of the coin. Why are you on a baptosm thread if it isnt something you believe in. I should not have to justify my reasoning.

You asked for advice - I gave you some. It's not for me to decide if you like it or not.

Ok like i said i wont argue. I asked for advice about a specific thing not to argue if it is right or wrong.

Thanks for taking the time to comment

There are definitely courses in the Catholic church. Go and attend mass in your local church, see if you like the priest, and then approach him.

Good luck

I would suggest you look at what the bible says about baptism, rather than what your church denomination says.

I have attended the church before and i know i like the priest which is why i think its right.

I have done some reading but happy to take further guidance

I feel that you are so tied up with denominationalism and this is clouding your judgment.

Your child will not come to harm if you wait for baptism.

It is important to God how your partner feels. Perhaps this is a way of giving God time to work on your partner’s heart and bring him to a Christian faith.

Infant baptism requires the parents to make promises on behalf of the child. It’s important that both of you can make these promises.

Thank you I dont think I am clouded. I feel like for the first time ever i have utter clarity.

If you had utter clarity, you wouldn’t be posting for advice.

It is important to God how your partner feels. Perhaps this is a way of giving God time to work on your partner’s heart and bring him to a Christian faith.

What, now?!

Advice about how i canget baptised

Go to church.

Start attending services. Talk to the congregation and make friends, join the church family.

All of your worries about baptism etc will eventually be discussed by you with your church family who are there to support and share with you.