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Christian prayer thread

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Dutchoma · 10/11/2016 07:34

Just starting a new thread without any embellishments so it doesn't run out.
Please add any concerns/witterings/names to it.
Love to you all.

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Lissette · 09/02/2017 16:50

How bizarre Don't - it's one thing if feedback makes sense and you can utilise it but if it's totally left of field then it's not much help. I suspect young Master Gloaty will waft into his course and think there's not much to learn. Your dd seems much more mature and resilient. I will pray for the driving test

BlackeyedSusan · 09/02/2017 18:52

library.... check

homework.... check. done as much as we can now.

stress ... check (nearing time limit and getting printing done, but did it)

meltdowns... check. awaiting daylight to see if there is any damage to the car. or bruises.

hope driving tests are passed, and uni decisions are clear.

CocoaX · 09/02/2017 22:02

Please can you pray that I get sleep tonight? Thank you Flowers

girlandboy · 09/02/2017 23:11

Please pray for my son tonight as he is upset again about so called friends at college. He's asked me to ring in sick for him tomorrow as he can't face going in, and as it's the last day before half term he won't be missing anything anyway. His angst and unhappiness make me very stressed and agitated, so please pray that I can sleep tonight instead of my churning thoughts keeping me awake. Praying myself.

EddSimcox · 09/02/2017 23:22

Reading through praying for all... Joe and his mum, dont and her dd, oma, bes, mhd, lisette, cocoa... may God's peace surround you tonight

I have a few prayer requests, if you are able...

  • for my friend J, whose mum has just been diagnosed with cancer
  • for D from my church, who has moved away and fallen off the wagon, that he gets to an AA meeting very soon
  • for colleagues at work who are being made redundant today, and
  • for my Dm and Ddad, who are struggling to work out what to do now they've sold their house and DM's Alzheimer's is getting worse.

Those who are willing, please also pray for the COfE General Synod who meet next week and will be considering a report from the House of Bishops on sexuality. Please pray that they respond prayerfully and mindful of the immense hurt and upset that the report has generated amongst LGBT Christians.

Finally, if you have time, please pray for wisdom and discernment for me. I have to make a decision about work - whether to apply for a job - which is really taxing my brain. I worry that it is so much responsibility that I will lose out on family time and God time, and other things; and then that if I don't go for it I am potentially failing to use the gifts God has given me to best effect. Please pray that I work out what to do.

Lissette · 10/02/2017 00:15

Praying for sleep, calm and wise decisions. That includes returning to sobriety. Courage to face job loss, illness, a new stage in life....

For what it's worth Edith I had to make a decision on upping my part time hours recently. You do have to think globally but you'll know the right balance for you in time. Your words about using gifts was timely. My job isn't my dream job so I've held back on many more hours to build on the area that I'm actually qualified in. Sometimes you need to think of where you'd like to get to.

Praying for LGBT Christians in the Anglican tradition, but also those who are in my faith.

cocoa, girl - sleep well.

Lissette · 10/02/2017 00:29

"Heavenly Father, please grant me peace of mind and calm my troubled heart.
My soul is like a turbulent sea. I can't seem to find my balance so I stumble and worry constantly.
Give me the strength and clarity of mind to find my purpose and walk the path you've laid out for me.
I trust your Love God, and know that you will heal this stress.
Just as the sun rises each day against the dark of night.
Please bring me clarity with the light of God."

CocoaX · 10/02/2017 07:29

Flowers thank you. I have read through and am praying for everyone below my last post and those in need of prayer. May God be with you.

I slept till just before six, which was good as expected legal communication came in yesterday evening, which is stressful even if expected. Your prayer is perfectly timed Lissette thank you. I am praying through and will post properly later.

girlandboy · 10/02/2017 08:08

Thank you Lissette. I slept from midnight until 5.30 so not too bad. I'm hoping God's peace flows through us today and gives us the ability to cope and make the right decisions.

Orchidflower1 · 10/02/2017 15:05

Please pray for my anxiety- I know I've been away- lots of ups and downs.
Got school run and meet dd off bus and collect dog from groomer and feeling anxious- was sick with it earlier - please pray. Prayed for all xx

Dutchoma · 10/02/2017 16:44

Just seen this Orchid I had hoped that things were a bit easier for you as we didn't hear from you, sorry to hear that they are not. Praying for you right now that you will cope with all you have to do without being sick with anxiety.

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BlackeyedSusan · 10/02/2017 18:10

how did it all go lovely?

Lissette · 11/02/2017 16:57

Thinking and praying for you Orchid.

Dontbesilly · 11/02/2017 20:23

Prayers for everyone. I have read through and said prayers as I read each post.

Edd, of course I have time. I have prayed for your requests and I am praying for you to make the right decision for you. It sounds quite difficult to know what to do, however I pray that you will find the best way forward and that it will be a decision that you are very happy that you made.

Lissette I loved the prayer that you posted.

Glad that both cocoa and girlandboy both had a fairly good nights sleep, considering what you have going on too. Prayers for you both too.

Orchid, I have prayed for you and your anxiety. It does sound like it's very difficult for you and I really hope that you can find a way to cope with everything and you can deal with things without being sick. That must be so deliberating for you.

Dd failed her driving test. She was a bit disappointed but her instructor wants her to put in for it asap as he knows that test appointments are coming through for a week or so.

I have the mother of all knots in my long hair. It's where the collar rubs again the very back of my hair. Think knotty poodle, as in a tight pad of knotted hair, and that's me. Dd is going to tease it out for me as I cannot stretch to get it. Thing is it possibly will happen again as I cannot sleep with a pony tail in. I am dreading the ouch of the teasing bit.

I had to go to the pharmacy today and collect my bits. I was conscious of my hair that I can't wash and the added knots and was a tad bit grumpy. I absolutely can't drive past the accident site as I am reduced to tears and the fear is immense although I don't remember a single bit. Anyway the journey to the pharmacy was that bit trickier due to this. We went another way and I got in the pharmacy and sure enough everyone turned to stare at me. The pharmacist who is lovely asked me what on earth had happened and then I just opened the floodgates. I was driven by general frustration with everything going on and I was fuelled by the stares from everyone and the grease knotty hair that people look at and don't know that I haven't been allowed to wash since the accident that I just seemed to go on and on about it.

I suppose that I was trying to say that a lot has happened and I am having to make the best of it without becoming a spectacle to be observed.

The poor pharmacist was trying to sort of concentrate on the positives and I really wasn't seeing them. I was aware of the queue listening to the conversation and I wasn't in the mood for that. Anyway when I got back in the car and dh started to drive me home, I did feel I had gone on a tad too much.

Some people will stand and stare and listen carefully to private conversations and not have the common sense to try to hide it. Nor do they move prams and active toddlers and their other things out of the way of the doorway and general public areas so that after hearing about my injuries and what I am coping with I can get out of the shop or indeed even get around the shop. It's not just for me, there are elderly people and others who are struggling with moving around. So I erm let off steam in an embarrassingly moaning way. How I found the words of Lissettes prayer comforting when I got home and reflected.

We have been invited to a family celebration and normally I would be looking forward to it. Then I checked the date and it dawned on me that I will be wearing the neckbrace which restricts what I can wear and I will be sporting my even greasier hair decorated possibly with new poodle knots. I just can't face it. Plus I don't really want to go to a place where there will be lots of people and loud music and activity as it really does tire me out. It's quite confusing now to even watch that type of thing on TV never mind do it.

I need to be more patient and humble. I need to be more accepting and less irritated by things. There is much to feel blessed with and I need to have a word with myself and try to keep positive and thankful.

Dontbesilly · 11/02/2017 21:43

My dd has lovingly and painstakingly brushed my hair free of knotts and has done my hair in two plaits. I actually look human. I think that the grease in my unwashed hair helped with the unknotting procedure. The way to go is two tight plaits as the bobble is lower down and doesn't hurt when I lay down as my hair is long.

I am so pleased. It's the smallest things that make the most comforting differences. My dd is so so caring. I am counting my blessings I look like a human being and it's practical to do. She honestly just sorted me out with no fuss and was so capable and practical. I am giving thanks for this. I really am x

CocoaX · 11/02/2017 21:46

Oh dont sometimes being open and honest is best, even if others don't want to hear it or don't know how to respond. Stupid suggestion maybe but can you get your hair braided? Maybe less uncomfortable than a ponytail for sleeping and will not get tangled. I totally understand you feel self-conscious and people are not always polite or tactful, but you can bet your bottom dollar that five minutes later everyone in the shop would be back to worrying about their own lives. So please don't dwell on how you should or should not have behaved. You did just fine - you went out and got the meds you need to help your recovery, be pleased with yourself for managing that. Your DD is helping you with your hair, between you, you will find a solution. And you know, there will be other family celebrations, if you don't want to go, send a gift with apologies and hope to join you next time. Put yourself and your needs first for once. You are really dealing with a lot, be gentle with yourself Flowers.

It is something I try to remember and don't always succeed. There is the first arrow, which is the challenges and problems of life, which is thrown at you. Don't add a second arrow berating yourself for how you deal with them. Look deeper and think about what the hurt part of you (from the first arrow) needs. It is usually self-compassion for a start or some other kindness and support, not a second arrow. If that makes sense.

I was thinking about your question about listening to God and I would like to reply but I am very tired.

So I will just post a couple of things just now and come back to that. I wanted to say I prayed for you Orchid and I will continue to do so. You are in my thoughts and prayers even when you are not around and I hope you feel able to post soon.

Edd I pray for wisdom and discernment and more broadly, for tolerance and openness, as well as for those you have requested prayers for.

girlandboy prayers for you too, and for everyone who needs God's love.

I quite simply am praying for God to stay with me.

CocoaX · 11/02/2017 21:48

X-post, so glad the hair is sorted for you, may God bless you and your DD.

Dutchoma · 11/02/2017 22:46

Dont, there is nothing you need to change. You do not have to be more humble, or patient or whatever, you are just fine. We are all holding you in our heart and praying for you that things will get better as time goes on. If you don't feel like going to the family celebration don't lwt anybody make you feel awkward about it.
Prayers for everybody else as well

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BlackeyedSusan · 11/02/2017 23:29

combing the hair everyday willlkeep down the greasiness. though someone else will have to do it for you.

Dontbesilly · 12/02/2017 10:39

Thank you Cocoa. The arrow totally makes sense. When I thought about it and applied it to situations it's so true. Really thank you. You are always so kind and supportive to everyone.

Oma. I have told everyone that I will decide on the day if I am going to the family thing. I know that I was told that my family are proud of me and what I have gone through and want everyone to know that. Plus family who haven't seen me since the accident and have sent cards and flowers will be there and are looking forward to seeing me. I simply reminded them of the words of the consultant neurologist on Tuesday about resting and doing only as your body and mind allows and just because I look ok (obviously not the hair lol) that I am recovering from a head injury. They all unanimously agreed that although it would be nice if I can go, it's absolutely not the be all and end all. My family said someone will stay home with me and the remaining family will put in an appearance for an hour. Thing is noone really wanted to go and everyone wants to stay back with me Shock Plus on a realistic and selfish note, the person the event is for hasn't been in contact personally since the accident. Ok a family card, but we are not close, more socially polite. They have yet to speak to me about dad even. Ok they sent a sympathy card but we haven't spoken about it at any time. So there is no real fuss or obligation if I don't go.

Bes dd is on brushing and plaiting duty. It's when I sleep that knots happen. This one created itself down the collar and hid and grew. I am having twice daily plaits and hopefully the tangle teaser and brushings will help it with the grease....erm natural oils. The dc showed me an article about Gary Barlow not washing his hair in, I think 14 years. So I am in good company. Wink

I hope that the more frequent brushings and plaiting will help masquerade the natural oils and hair apparently is self cleaning ..... I will be an expert on this subject matter BlushHmm

Someone said try dry shampoo but it's for shall we say, erm light duty work. I could try baking soda if I really get desperate......it's a hero product on the house keeping thread........

CocoaX · 12/02/2017 11:14

Just had a complete meltdown- me, not DC Sad

I somehow still have the feeling that I should be different, respond differently, organise differently, and then it would all be fine. H has had minimal care of DC, so he does not see DS's problems or challenges. Therefore H says the problems do not exist. Therefore it is me. So, if I was different, or parented differently, DS would not be challenged.

Part of the longer narrative that any difficulties in our marriage were me. And now the fact that it will end up in court is me, because I will have to make that call to get the harassment to stop. It is like my reality does not exist. Has never existed. Cannot be allowed to exist.

I wish I was able to not care. God forgive me, I sometimes wonder if DS would be happier with H, because H is neater, more organised, better than me at day to day life. Then I think about the failed attempts at residential contact and the things DS said, and his behaviour around contact, and I know that is not true. But what a mess, to be the one providing all the care, and to be always questioned about that care and what I say about DS's needs. To want to say, God forgive me, well, you do it then, even for a bit, but not be able to because of what has happened. And what has happened not be acknowledged or recognised or admitted.

I love my children beyond measure. I do everything I can for my children. I cannot and will not be the one on the floor crying because I have nothing left to give. Dear God, forgive me, there is no marriage left.

DancingUnicorn · 12/02/2017 11:22

Cocoa I'm so sorry for you being in such a difficult situation. I think sometimes a meltdown can be helpful, almost like pressing a refresh button. I hope that this will be the case for you. I pray that you will feel Gods grace and immense love for you, his child, whom he loves without question and forgives always. ❤

CocoaX · 12/02/2017 21:05

Thank you DancingUnicorn for your kind words and prayers. Yesterday I had the feeling of being very close to God and calm, and today, I am jagged and raw. Prayers for all Flowers

BlackeyedSusan · 13/02/2017 07:38

Yes it is so easy when they only dip into the parenting now and again!

shattered.

was at ex's til 8 doing four loads of washing, and still one not got done. then home to finish homework with children, then gluing in homework once they are in bed covering books with tackyback. (how do you get pva out of the carpet? ) then hanging up four loads of washing til 1am so they do not stick in the bin bags they came home in. finallly asleep at 2.30.

Dutchoma · 13/02/2017 08:40

That does not sound like a lot of fun BES. I hope you slept at least for a bit, once in bed. Are you on half term this week?

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