Mum can't come she's got a chest infection and is on antibiotics and I can't be around that. She was well enough to go out last night with friends for a meal but today is very coughy and croaky.
I have really thought about your replies and taken from them. We did an online shop and everyone was involved with nourishing and convenient foods. The jacket potatoes are going down a storm. As are frozen veg and packet rices and pastas. Dh isn't on nights for a month. Hoping it's easier than nights were.
He really is doing such a lot for me. If I appear in the kitchen when he is there he asks if he can do anything or what would I like. I tend to narrate my movements to them.
I spoke to my sister and she said that I should not expect anything from mum. As unfair as it is it's the only way. She is not a practical and hands on person. Dad did everything for her and her parents before him. She is of little effort. It's not being nasty, it's the truth. She can't be bothered with much, nothing to do with being a widow. Dad loved gardening and his garden was so tidy. The edges were crisp, the plants were lush and healthy and there wasn't a weed anywhere. He loved cooking. He could just invent a really tasty meal adding this and that. My kids as toddlers would absolutely pester for grandads food. I mean kids who wouldn't eat xyz vegetables would cry for his same xyz vegetables. He made everything fun. Even teaching maths and physics. He always thought out of the box. Mum didn't cook. She buys ready meals from m and s now. Dad was neat and tidy and organised. He regularly cleaned. I guess they shared it between them. The only thing mum did was washing and ironing.
Its going to be a bit strange in not asking her for anything when I genuinely could do with it and I know that she is young enough and able to help (69). I will be able to do it though. I pray that I wont be resentful, that's all, especially in her time of need to sleep over etc when it's not really necessary or convenient.
Dh made a chicken casserole and chicken curry so we have tea for a few nights which was frozen and it's a huge relief to know it's there. The online shop worked well. I spent less than I normally would do and I could still see any offers they had but the fact that the total is there as you go really helped. Plus they all just put everything away together really easily. It's just about adapting. I honestly think that it is doing the dc good to be more involved and to work as part of a family team while being independent and responsible for things within their capabilities.
My memory is still not good. I forget what I am saying. My concentration is poor. I love call the midwife. I have the books etc. Tonight I could not follow it. It was as if I was watching something that I don't particularly like. Same with other things. We sat down to watch a TV programme as a family this afternoon and again, I couldn't get into it. I love this programme normally. Same with books. Two pages and I am not able to concentrate on the book. I tried the book I had been reading and I tried a new book I had lined up for later. Same thing.
I can type here as I have a word bar which suggests words and corrects my spelling and odd words I slip in. Plus it saves the text so I can come back to it.
The stitches around my mouth and down my forehead and nose is healing nicely but the scar tissue is very big. It's really very noticeable round my mouth. I always wanted fuller lips but I look like a trout pout that's fuller on the right hand side. I look like I have a real floppy pout. It's big chunky pea sized lumps on the inside of the lip area. It might go down but I am having trouble eating and smiling and pronouncing some words. Cleaning my teeth with the broken hand and chunky lips is a sight indeed. I am applying plenty of unscented cream on the skin surface in the hope of it disappearing but it's inside the actual mouth where it is. I looked like a Clingon with the forehead bumps. Foundation won't hide it. I need tarmac or cement or a super long fringe. In fact I need all three lol.
Hoping you are all doing OK.