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Christian prayer thread

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Dutchoma · 10/11/2016 07:34

Just starting a new thread without any embellishments so it doesn't run out.
Please add any concerns/witterings/names to it.
Love to you all.

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Madhairday · 30/12/2016 11:01

They sound awful, dont - I feel incredibly angry just reading that AngrySad - your response is normal! But I also agree with Oma's very wise words. Your anger is hurting you more than them.Flowers how is your dd now? What an awful thing to happen. Prayers and love.

Praying for you, your parents and the situation with dp, Edd. Flowers

Prayers for you all. How are you, Cocoa and Orchid?

How are things today, BES?

Have infection and pleurisy so in bed moping.

Tuo · 30/12/2016 21:21

Prayers for all tonight, but sending special 'get well' prayers to MHD and 'coping' prayers to Edd for all that she has going on right now, and especially for her DM.

This was the Methodists' prayer for the day today. Edd, sharing for your DM, but also for everyone who feels confused about choices they have to make, paths they might (or might not) follow, challenges that lie ahead, or barriers to be crossed.

God, in whom the faithful put their trust and for whom the true of heart wait in hope; guide us in the hour of perplexity, preserve us in the day of confusion and remember us in the moment of our need; through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Lancelot Andrewes (1555-1626)

I won't be here tomorrow, so let me wish you all a very happy new year. See you in 2017!

EddSimcox · 30/12/2016 22:31

That's a perfect prayer, Tuo, thank you.

barefootcook · 31/12/2016 06:24

Dutchoma, have you had any more news from Trazzle? I hope that she and all the Trazzles enjoyed Christmas.

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Dutchoma · 31/12/2016 08:25

barefootcook, no I have not seen or heard anthing from them for a few days. I suspect that they have 'closed in' as a family. Just before Christmas there were some gorgeous pictures of them all, Joe included where you could hardly believe that there was anything wrong with him and of course we keep praying for that miracle in the new year.

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CocoaX · 31/12/2016 16:35

Edd that sounds difficult and Christmas is already an emotional time. It sounds like you are doing your best to support your DParents and hanging in with everything else for a month or two is the most sensible way forward. Adding prayers for you and your family Flowers

MHD, I hope you feel better soon. Thank you for asking after me. There is an awfulness to things which I no longer want to contemplate, so I am praying a lot and handing things over to God and trying to focus on day to day life. I do not want the anxiety and panic any more but I feel very separate from the world.

I am going to add prayers for trazzletoes and Jo, and for PA and her family and everyone in need of comfort, healing and miracles. Dont I hope you are feeling a little better.

I have been thinking of Lissette as well as this is a hard time of year to have strained relationships with parents.

I am praying for 2017 to bring opportunities to grow in God's love.

Thank you for all the prayers Tuo.

May God be with all on this thread, posters and readers, into the New Year Flowers

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 17:15

don't just caught up with the thread. Sorry to hear of the antics of the other family. I'm sure other people have noticed their behaviour too so you are not alone. It will eventually unravel for them sooner or later. Their behaviour is not sustainable longterm. Give them a wide berth. They are to be pitied really (although I can see why you have just cause to be very angry).

Thinking of Eddand her family and MHD's health. Cocoa for your kind thoughts. No word from dear parents since I asked them to get help for their relationship and general behaviour Smile. I am concentrating on building my life away from them as it's been over six months since they walked out. I have had low moments but I'm okay.

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 17:16

that should read 'thanks for your kind thoughts'

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 17:51

Heartfelt thanks to all who post or lurk on this board, for the prayers posted and said. Happy Hogmanay.

CocoaX · 31/12/2016 18:37

Lissette, I think you are doing the right thing and I wish you well with rebuilding your life Flowers. I went to see my mother the first time in a long time and it did not make me feel better - simply reaffirmed the constructive dismissal from my family of origin. Not saying this will happen in your case, but it is the thing about keeping on doing the same thing over and over and hoping for a different outcome. Still, the time and distance let me observe with a greater clarity and will hopefully lead to acceptance.

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 20:35

Thank you Cocoa. I've finally realised that they don't get on and that their marriage never really worked but they tend to take their frustrations out on me. Also they have controlling tendencies so I'm often ridiculed and told what to do. I appear to be the scapegoat with my sister being the golden child at least in dm's eyes. Luckily they elected to move to the other side of the world a few years back. At the time I was upset but now I see it as a blessing. I also married a really lovely man. It has been very freeing to not bother about how they think of me. I feel totally adult. I don't like having a family rift but, on the other hand, I wouldn't let friends treat me this way so why family? It's been a learning experience. I've also sought a church community out of my desire to be less hermit like.

QofF · 31/12/2016 20:38

Hello everyone been a long time since I posted regularly but I do read the thread and pray and wanted to come in here this evening to thank God for you all, the support and love you provide and to say all the very best for 2017. MHD praying for your health. God bless all you posters and lurkers.

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 20:38

Sorry to hear your DM's behaviour was continuing as before. There is power in seeing the pattern cocoa and when you see the pattern you are in control of the situation Flowers

Lissettethehallswithholly · 31/12/2016 20:39
Christmassnake · 31/12/2016 20:41

How did i miss this thread,lovely just lovely...happy new yr and hello

BlackeyedSusan · 01/01/2017 02:12

~ </strong> ~..<span class="underline">..~ <strong> ~..HAPPY NEW YEAR!..~ </strong> ~..</span>..~ <strong> ~

BlackeyedSusan · 01/01/2017 14:28

can't think why I am so tired

Hmm
CocoaX · 01/01/2017 15:03

Grin I am tired and I did not even see the New Year in. Your message was very artistic though.

Happy New Year, may it bring peace and hope.

Christmassnake hello and Happy New Year and welcome!

Hello to QoF as well

And anyone else reading

Lissette I think I felt like it was somehow my fault but it is not. There was a golden child dynamic with my sister too (still is) but I also realised how much my father moved to the margins when my mum was there, like she has to be centre stage. I did not see that before, really, but it was obvious after time not seeing them. It is all about keeping her happy.

What was kind of obvious to me as well is that I cannot challenge or change the dynamic (and do not wish to, I just stay away). It made me reflect on advice I have been given re potential mediation with my xH - that it does not matter how strong I work on being, I will step into that room and nothing will have changed because he is controlling too and knows my weaknesses and there has been an inequality for ma y years. So that was kind of illustrative as well. I think God shows us what we need to see.

Lissettethehallswithholly · 01/01/2017 18:29

Yep, you are spot in Cocoa. You can't change other people or their behaviour. You can set boundaries, however, and if they walk away so be it. Of course your 'weaknesses' can change. Whether dealing with parents or a partner, they think they know you but if you see the patterns, then you have changed and can adapt further.

New Year, new start. I'm working on anxiety and good physical health. Also enjoying the church year. Wishing you all many blessings.

Christmassnake · 01/01/2017 18:37

Hello again..I'm not sure weather to read the whole thread from the start ,or not ,as it seems a bit intrusive as I only just saw this thread,is it a chat thread?

Lissettethehallswithholly · 01/01/2017 18:41

Well chat occurs! We do post prayers and offer support too. Please feel very welcome christmassnake.

Lissettethehallswithholly · 01/01/2017 18:43

Lord, You make all things new
You bring hope alive in our hearts
And cause our Spirits to be born again.

Thank you for this new year
For all the potential it holds.
Come and kindle in us
A mighty flame
So that in our time, many will see the wonders of God
And live forever to praise Your glorious name.

Amen

Christmassnake · 01/01/2017 18:51

If someone was catholic,but couldn't go to the Catholic Church,and was going to a Church of England church,,which was lovely..but it didn't feel right to take communion as not baptised in Church of England....would it make a difference when praying...I really miss my catholic mass, and c of e is nice.but I can't bring myself to receive communion,and I miss confession

EddSimcox · 01/01/2017 19:15

Hey QoF lovely to see you! :)

Welcome christmassnake. I can really understand that you miss communion. It's important (for some of us!). Confession can certainly be arranged in the CofE. It's not as common as in RC, but particularly in Anglo-catholic churches it's certainly available to those who want it. And the rules about who can and can't take communion are less strict in the CofE than in RC (so far as I understand RC - which is not a lot). Perhaps you could talk to the vicar in your current church to ask? Or if that's awkward for any reason you might be able to find another church nearby that includes info about confession on its website? I'm not sure about communion - I know RCs generally don't think it's proper to take communion in the CofE, but I think many CofE churches would allow it if you wanted to - again probably best to talk to the priest.

lisette you are doing brilliantly.

mhd how are you feeling?

I will pray for you all tonight (look out for the compline thread at 9.30 those who are interested and not following the chat thread too) including cocoa bes oma tuo and all other posters and lurkers.

Blessings and good wishes to you all for the new year. Flowers

Christmassnake · 01/01/2017 19:27

I think ,well it's about belonging to a church.and I don't feel I belong to the one I'm going to...and I don't feel I can go back to the one I used to go to..there is one right next to my house...my dc would love it ,as it has a children's group,and the vicar is lovely...but it's a new style c of e..one with lots of arms waving and songs I don't know...but I need to go to communion and confession and it doesn't feel like a church without a priest in robes and the smells and songs I'm used to...but my dc would love it and it's next to my house..

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