I wonder though if 'prayer' and 'talking it out' aren't two sides of the same coin. Is there life after death - dunno. I have a feeling that when close to death myself, or (god (you know what I mean) forbid - a child) I would be hard pressed not to want to believe, even though logically I don't.
I actually got the nuns onside so that when I saw my half-sister last and she gave me shit about how reiki could help my dh, I could respond "thanks, I am giving the power of Christ a try" just to annoy her.
Having lived in Spain and Mexico, I do sympathise with the 'we are Catholics despite doing naff all to demonstrate it' view. Particularly in Mexico, men didn't go to church (due to having to confess to all manner of jiggery pokery if they did), but it was 'enough' just to go at Easter - load of bollocks in my opinion. Any belief system requires you to put the legwork in. Either do it, or don't. Your choice - but you don't get to play pious if you don't put the hours in.