Tarot Readers

[Mummycan]

Hi - I was going to change my name for this but have decided against it.

Today I went to see a Tarot reader as it is my birthday soon and just fancied a bit of insight/reflection for the following year. Had a pleasant enough reading but then statred to talk about relationships etc. I have had a horrible 18 months - 2 years with H re another woman, lies, secrets etc. Basically this reader told me that H has cheated before, will cheat again, has lied about the relationsip and that basically I should get out.

It wasn't quite so overt but he was basically telling me that I should leave H and that so was my dead grandfather. Now I am usually a sensible sort and I see no reason to break up the marriage abd destry DD's life on the say so of a tarot reader - BUT - I do have my doubts - I am confused - and he mentioned my dead brother who I haven't thought about in years ( I was only 3 when he died)and got his initial right.

I have been trying to rebuild my marriage after an awful couple of years but now I wonder if it's worth it.

Somebody please be a good friend and slap me and tell me to snap out of it - that's what I'd do if somebody else told me this - BUT - I just can't shake the feeling that he might be right.

The tarot does NOT give specific messages about relationships. What the cards can do is offer insight into the state of things, which may help guide how you act in a given situation.

The tarot is also NOT a tool for clairvoyance or communicating with those who have moved on from this life.

People like this give those who use the tarot responsibly a very bad name.

Thanks expat - this bloke is a medium as well - I saw him about 2.5 years ago and he was very accurate then which is why i went back

What expat said.

You can't base relationships on what a card reader or medium tells you.

Thaks SG - I know it is the sensible thing to do - surely I should give H the benefit of the doubt - I have had some feelings but I am still very angry about the last couple of years but am trying to put it behind us and move on. Sorry I'm rambling - will go now and revert to sensible self.

Work on your own instincts - they are what will get you through life.

If you think your marriage is worth saving despite your previous troubles, then keep working on it. If you can honestly put everything behind you and start afresh together then do it.

OTOH, if you are still doubting and worrying then maybe relationship counselling might help. You cannot build a successful relationship on doubt and distrust.

Either way, trust your feelings that you live with every day. Not those put into your head by a one off reading.

Crap. Probably just confused you even more now. I'll get my coat.

No SG - Thank you for taking time to reply - one of the things that I used to like about tarot readings were that the reader would say something and then say "But this is just an indication - nothing is set in stone and you have the power to change things" - all wonderfully vague things that made me feel in control - now I just feel like abit of flotsam - But ONLY of i choose to believe it.

Take care

MC
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Just wondering if anybody else has had any bad experiences with tarot readers/mediums/clairvoyants? Just interested.

Just me then - I'll get my coat

Why pay people to read them for you, though? It's not hard to learn to read them yourself and there is plenty of free assistance around for hte novice.

Hi Expat - I worry a bit that I would read too much in to them and go off on a tangent - so was hoping somebody else doing them could bring a bit if objectivity to the table as it were. Also _ I like people so would much rather do somethong with another person than on my own (just sad and lonely I guess)

You will find plenty of people have had bad experiences but plenty that were satisfied and extremely happy with readings etc. Probably would balance out to 50/50 in the end.

None of which helps you.

You are dwelling on this uncomfortable reading, please don't.

I will do what you asked in your first post:

SLAP Snap out of it!

Email me if you need to. I might waffle and often spout BS, but I can listen.

TC
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You're right SG - I AM dwelling on an uncomfortable reading - the more I think about it the more uncomfortable I am about this man's behavior - he was right about one thing in particular that spooked me and I suppose that is what makes me dwell on the other things he said.

I wonder if I could ask you a question re spirits - it may not be your area but would be interested in your opinion. When somebody passes intothe spirit world do they behave in the same way as they did as when they were alive. This man talked about my grandfather - now all of my grandparents are dead but one of my grandfathers I never really knew (lived in a different country and can only remember seeing him once or twice) the other was not very interested in me when he was alive and seemed to be expressing opinions that he would never expressed when he was alive. When he was alive he was typical MCP and would say that women shoulds just put up with their lot - do as their husband says etc but through this tarot reader/medium seemed to be sayingthat H is a cheat and I should get out of the marriage.

I haven't told anybody about this in RL as I feel so foolish for being affected by it - normally I'm very level headed and sensible - honest.

Thanks for listening.

MC
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'When somebody passes intothe spirit world do they behave in the same way as they did as when they were alive. '

Nearly always. Some exceptions, yes, but for the most part.

I hope you are not planning to patronise this reader again.

They behave in a way that you would recognise.

So in this case he should still be a MCP, not someone handng out marital advice to a woman.

Thanks so much SG and Expat for indulging me - I am starting to feel so much better. You're right Expat - I will NOT be seeing this man again. Has made me a bit wary about all things spiritual to be honest but I'm sure I'll get over that.

Grateful hugs and kisses to you both.

MC
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Could I just bump this to ask if anyone has been told anything by a tarot reader that turned out to be complete rot - even if they got a couple of other things right.

Please

Just me then?

mummy,
i've never had a paid reading. i learned tarot from a friend and had other friends who guided me.

Hi Expat - do you trust your own instinct?

I am not very good at trusting mine so wonder if I am going off on a tangent when I do my own.

Has anything ever been indicated to you by the cards that didn't actually materialise?

TIA

MC
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yes, i do trust my own instinct completely. it took me some years to be able to do this, and until you can trust yours, i wouldn't suggest using the tarot. it will always be there, it will be there when you are ready!

it seems many people in today's society have lost touch w/their instinct or never gotten to know it.

also, the tarot does not tell you things definitively. mostly it helps you clarify things and issues you already dealing w/. it's just a tool, an instrument, not fortune-telling or that.

I think that's part of my problem - I got spooked because this man said this will happen by this date - your grandfather says so!

I am usually very sensible but this bloke realyy got to me!

this is scam artist, not a tarot reader.

sorry to be blunt, but it just doesn't work like that.

Thanks Expat - I am going to try and put this bloke and what he said out of my mind (easier said than done but I will try)- surely there is such a thing as free will!

i'd blow him off completely. he gives people who use the tarot responsibly a bad name.

hi the other thing you have to remember is that nothing for the future is set in stone we all have a certain amount of pull on what happens and can chage it for the better so for him to tell u it would definatley happen he was very very wrong