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hideous hymns, vocal vicars and theatrical thuribles. Religious Chat Thread Number 6!

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nickelbabe · 17/02/2013 19:24

Welcome to the Religion Chat thread.
We're mostly Christians, but all are welcome.
a lovely soace to talk about church life, spiritual journeys and stuff in general.
It's not about debate, it's about chat.
Come oldies and newbies!

this is the previous thread

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niminypiminy · 09/05/2013 16:31

What have I started?

UniqueAndAmazing · 09/05/2013 16:38
niminypiminy · 09/05/2013 16:55

I think one would be fine. I'm also knitting a baby blanket (I know, I know, he'll just puke over it, but I'm doing it anyway).

UniqueAndAmazing · 09/05/2013 17:34

DD has got about 4 - they were very useful when one had to go in the wash (and we used them for under her in the moses basket, and downstairs on the floor and in the pram. you can never have too many!)

UniqueAndAmazing · 11/05/2013 17:44

some people really are numtpies.
Me first - I didn't get round to posting out something for DutchOma - mainly because I never made enough time for doing so Blush:(

mian one - this wedding this afternoon, DH tells me that the couple hadn't put the words to the hymns in their service sheet. not a problem, use hymnbooks. Except that they'd changed the hymns and not told the church. and one of the hymns isn't in our hymnbook (We Pledge to One Another - it's to the tune of Thaxted) so they had to change it again.
shame, because had they given us notice, we could have provided the words.

Dutchoma · 11/05/2013 19:11

Don't worry about it. It will get there in the end, I was just worried that there was no note with it and that she wouldn't know who sent it. Mind you Dogger should be a massive clue Grin

Bluetinkerbell · 12/05/2013 21:08

Learnt an interesting fact about Graham Kendrick tonight at our local churches ecumenical service. He got married in the Methodist church in the next village :)
We sang one of his songs.

UniqueAndAmazing · 12/05/2013 21:59

argh! you're not even allowed to dislike his music! Shock

sermon about unity today - NV stole my newbie questionnaire for his sermon Shock he said "some people like incense - i do, i burn it at home... some people like screens and that's okay, some people like choirs and organs and that's okay..." he was talking about the church warring within itself and gow it wasn't what jesus wanted. then he dropped into the conversation that he's been on the local news on Tuesday. I saw it on the internet, but I wouldn't have if NVW hadn't been for tea on Tuesday afrernoon

niminypiminy · 13/05/2013 12:53

Hm, just wondering what Justin Welby would make of the newbie questionnaire ... Wink

I'm just off for a couple of days all on my own -- the first time ever in my life I've been away by myself

See you all in a couple of days!

Dutchoma · 13/05/2013 14:12

Enjoy Niminy. Our minister is at a leaders' conference at HTB and spoke glowingly about an interview with Justin Welby.

madhairday · 13/05/2013 19:23

Oh lovely DO, have seen some of that streamed online, would love to go one year!

Niminy, have a lovely retreat, sounds wonderful! :)

I didn't realise the sainted GK was from our neck o'the woods, Blue!

Nickel, maybe your newbie questionnaire will become famous! Grin

madhairday · 13/05/2013 19:23

That post was exclamation mark city! !!!

thanksamillion · 15/05/2013 05:59

Hi everyone. I just came across this blog report of the HTB conference - it looks really interesting.

I don't suppose anyone is at the Women Alive conference today? Two of my friends are speaking and I wish I could be there Smile

Dutchoma · 15/05/2013 09:16

Our minister is there and having a wonderful time by all accounts.

SESthebrave · 16/05/2013 10:16

Hello all!

I love the idea of the newbie questionnaire becoming famous :)

I've got a bit of a situation that I've been wondering for months whether to ask advice on. I'll keep it as brief as poss.

There is a guy I know through church (I'll call him Daniel). I've known Daniel for about 6yrs as he came along to our RCIA group the year after his wife was confirmed. He was then baptised and confirmed the following year. He continued coming to RCIA and joined the team. He doesn't lead any sessions but does a valuable role of doing teas & coffees.
He has always been fairly tactile with everyone, as am I, but there is something that sometimes makes me feel really uncomfortable being alone with him. I can't put my finger on it. About 2yrs ago I started giving him a lift home after the sessions. He would give me a kiss on the cheek as he got out of the car and a hug and sometimes say that he loved me. It never felt more than platonic from him but just didn't feel right either. I started finding excuses why I couldn't give him a lift and he seemed to take the hint and backed off a bit.
Within the last year, he's started saying things to me like "I'd consider you a really close friend and hope that's reciprocated" . He also makes comments that he seems to think are funny but aren't. For example, I posted on FB that my cleaner was looking for extra work if anyone was interested. He commented on my status "snob!"
Then out of the blue he bought DS a birthday card & present last week. He has 2 sons himself a bit older than my DC but they've never really met. Daniel texted me to say he hoped it was ok that he'd got DS a present. I wasn't sure what to say!
I'm not sure what to do. It may just be that Daniel is desperately wanting some new friends and I want to do the right thing but I don't want to be feeling awkward.
Any advice?

Dutchoma · 16/05/2013 11:48

What's his wife like SES Invite them/him for dinner when your husband is there and be really affectionate. Tell him on every occasion how close you are and how you hope that they have as good a relationship. If he is separated, you really need to e honest and say that you would rather not hear that he would like a closer relationship.

UniqueAndAmazing · 16/05/2013 16:15

yes, I like Oma's idea - dinner with spouses as a first response.

SESthebrave · 16/05/2013 19:14

Thank you, that is a great idea.

Daniel has suggested that he and I meet up with the 4 children at a local play centre on Sunday afternoon. It wouldn't be DH's cup of tea and he'd probably appreciate a few hours time in the garden to himself. So I may well go on Sunday.

We are planning an open house/garden/BBQ in August so may add Daniel and his family to the guest list.

Dutchoma · 17/05/2013 10:26

Sorry love, but going out with Daniel and the four children will give the wrong signals imho. He needs to see that you are not an available 'partner' to him. Just inviting him and his wife to a barbecue with other guests will not do that either. He obviously has completely the wrong idea about your relationship with your husband and he needs to be disabused of the notion. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

SESthebrave · 17/05/2013 11:28

No, not harsh. Reality maybe. I was hoping that I'd been reading too much into it. You're right and Daniel has only met DH once because DH doesn't often come to church.
Thank you DO Thanks

UniqueAndAmazing · 17/05/2013 11:50

nononono don't go out with the children and Daniel on your own.
I totally agree with Oma - he needs to see that you are married, and happily.
invite him out or in with your husband and his wife.
do not entertain him without your husband because he really does sound like he's trying to tap a move on you.
(this sounds terribly 1950s, but in this case, it seems the only appropriate course of action!)

niminypiminy · 17/05/2013 12:30

SES agree so much with what DO and Nickel are saying. If he's not making a move, he won't mind meeting in a couples (ie when your H and his W are both there) situation.

In other news... most unexpectedly I have a date for a BAP (when I had stopped even thinking about it) in June!! Eeeeeeeeeeeeeek! It's wonderful, I think, but I feel like someone's put a flock of butterflies in my stomach.

Dutchoma · 17/05/2013 13:20

Wonderful, wonderful butterflies. Praise the Lord. Grin

Bluetinkerbell · 17/05/2013 14:31

Waw niminy does that mean a possibility of training in September?
I'm meeting new DDO on 2nd June! :)

niminypiminy · 17/05/2013 16:09

Had another phone call earlier. Apparently BAP place is now no longer available.

Just so down. Talk about playing with people's hopes and dreams.