UnlikelyAmazonian's DS is gravely ill

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Please pray for UA's son,4yo ,who has just been diagnosed with Leukaemia and is on his way to Bristol Children's Hospital this evening.
UA is currently banned from MN after an altercation on Relationships,but she has continued lurking and really misses the support which helped keep her strong for her DS since her very abusive xh disappeared 4 years ago.
She is a very dear friend of mine and her DS is her entire life.She is absolutely devastated and has no family.

Best wishes and prayers for you and your DS x

Dino, if you can find him for me, then.....

well still, nope, he doesn't deserve to know anything I'm afraid.

Lol, UA, maybe Dino should search your history first ... then see if s/he still thinks ex deserves to know

Or would have anything to offer if he did know

UA you get another vote of NFW should you be wasting energy you can better use looking after you and DS than barking up the tree Dino is pointing out.

I've typed and deleted several comments but it's all repeating the same thing.

Put it out of your mind lovely

Where is the "thick as mince" emoticon when you need one?

Thinking of you both.

Can't say I agree with Dino either. A man who gets a woman pregnant is not automatically a father with the rights and responsibilities that entails. Being a father is an active verb.

couldnt agree more. And even if he did know, you can bet your bottom dollar that he would either not bother, and hurt everyone all over again, or he would turn up and make all the drama about him - weeping and wailing over the child he hasnt bothered with since he left in the cruellest way I have ever heard, and rinsing every last drop of sympathy for himself.
you concentrate on your ds. xxx

UA, trust your instincts, your true friends and those MNers that really know you and your story.

What Hissy said. He deserves fuck all! And yes I also agree with Nettle it would all become about him and how awful it is for him. Twunt!

Thinking of you both. Sadly I've been there - different type of cancer tho - and it is shit. We made it through one year, five years and ten years. We're now on year 17. I dread to think how many fags, how much wine and how many sleepless nights there has been in that time.

It sounds like you're doing great to me. There's no instruction manual on how to cope so you just have muddle through somehow. There are good days, shit days, tearful days and days when you manage to forget about it. I think that's just normal. Just remember to look after yourself as well xx

Thinking of you, UA. Hopefully this will be the deepest valley and then it will be upwards from here.

Wishing you and your amazing sounding DS strength.

It has always been HIS choice to have no contact - you haven't prevented him from knowing what is happening in your sons' life -he has absented himself.

An intelligent,caring father would try to find a way to show his concern and interest via neutral means. He would find a way to put himself in a position to know about meaningful events in his childs' life,even if only at a distance.

His choice.

You do not have any responsibility towards him. He has chosen his position.

Your darling son has the best mother in the world. You are doing brilliantly.

Just caught up with this thread again - wishing you lots of luck with Monday and thereafter.

Not having been in your situation, I could be very wrong - but I wouldn't entirely write off planning DS's birthday and Christmas because it will give him something positive to look forward to. I know you'll have enough to do with just getting him and yourself through this - but still it might be a bright spot in an otherwise dark time.

Can anyone here help? I'm far too far away to be much use but anything I can do, even if it's just sending DS a card with a kangaroo on!

As for the bastard fuckwit, dear God, he gave up any right to be DS's father years ago. Not even just gave it up - threw it away with some force. So no, he doesn't "deserve" anything much apart from a nasty bout of some STI of course

Keep on keeping on - lots of love and strength to both of you xxx

Thanks for messages. Got to hospital this morning, needles in, settled in bed, all ready and set, then his bloods came back - too low to start the chemo so we were sent home. No drugs for a whole week (apart from next weekend) and then we go back again next Monday to try all over again!! Just to let you know....

Another week's respite from the drugs - hope you're ok though, it can be a shock to the system when you're all psyched up ready to go and then it doesn't happen - lots of loose adrenaline running around making you feel anxious, tired and possibly even rather sick.

Hope his blood counts recover in the week off anyway (((hugs)))

How frustrating. Fingers crossed it goes ahead next week. Here's hoping for boring, textbook treatment from now on.

Reading your updates is just the same as what my cousin would tell me about her DD's treatment. They got the all clear in the summer, which is what your DS will get in time.

Ah sorry UA was hoping to hear your ds first day went well. Is there anything that can be give to get blood count up a bit? Lots of hugs to both of you and next week is all go go go!

So sorry that your wait has been extended.

Have been watching this thread and keeping you both in my thoughts. Your DS sounds incredible.

Sending you lots of love xx

Just returned home after three nights in hospital as ds' temperature hit the Magic 38 - which automatically means an overnight at least so they can fill him with antibiotics and knock anything it might be on the head. We had three nights as his temp wavered and hit over 38 a couple of times while we were in. Needs to be 24 hours clear of any spike like that before we can leave.

Glad to be home. Means his Delayed Intensification blcok of chemo is delayed by yet another week though.

He was such a good boy in Hospital and we actually had a great stay. As a very lone parent, a lady appearing with a tea trolley offering snacks toast and coffee was fucking marvellous!!!!!!!

oh I'm glad he's home again, UA but good that your stay in hospital wasn't too bad this time!

Hope there are no more delays though. (((hugs))) xx

Thanx thumb (GO TO BED!!) Hee hee

Hope the AntiB's flush out those bugs for next week and start your brave brave ds on next stage. Hope that tea lady is back in next week to supply plenty of toast and tea whilst your and ds stay for treatment goes well!

Goddess and Green Man watch over the little one, and give UA the strength to get through this. They're both in my thoughts, sending lots of positive vibes their way.