May time-Christian prayer thread

[blackeyedsusan]

All welcome to join

Here is a list of all those who popped in or were regulars on the last thread. I hope I have not missed anyone!!

Amberlight- prayer that the heart problems she has are temporary and that the beast cancer will not return. Pray for dh after his op.
Aspirantpiate-studying and a new job in September
Bafana, Thesober-single parent to teen/preteen Pray for a friend who has a brain tumour
Becaroooo- ongoing health problems that are now starting to be investigated
Beatrice Primrose and cupoftea poorly baby and support for the family
birdofthenorth prray for comfort and support after the loss of her baby at 8 weeks of pregnancy
Bluetinkerbell- lost her beloved Sterre during her second trimester. Now pregnant again!
Caz and her baby Xander. Also for dh who does not share her faith.
CaptainDippy- busy busy busy
Chairofthebored-dh has ms and ttc number1
Creatovator ds ?asd and dd?s eczema
Don in killerheels-hous
Dutch Oma- dh has a lung disease requiring regular trips to hospital/drs and lots of rest. Church services are not always easy due to excessive noise causing problems for Bob.
Expat's dd suffering from leukaemia. Give thanks that she has a donor for transplant and pay for a good outcome!
FriendofDorothy- pray that the pregnancy will stick and bleeding to stop.
Gingercurl- things are stressful at home, studying for PhD, high blood pressure
heyyyo-dd with health issues.
Issypeach- work situation insecure for h and Issy. Prayer requested for the dcs one of whom has gone awol and the other at uni
Jaffacakes... new baby
Jan marriage, new baby and ongoing health problems
Jugglingwith?-job applications to work 1 to 1 with children and a husband who needs to appreciate all she does!
Lostmywellies- recently returned to the uk, friendships for dd and ds to settle into nursery. Possible knee op?
LoveAndPrayers. Marriage and h?s debts
Lovelyman access arrangements and maintenance. (and his SO prefers kissing wookies? eeuuu)
Madhairday- reoccuring lung infections, dd with psoriasis/partial hearing and unhelpful school and getting bullied. SATs week. Madhair is writing a book! ?or at least she should be if she weren?t on mn?
MaryB- work and relationships at church. difficult situations socially for dc's. dd getting bullied.
MrsMcCave -hello!
Nanniejo- family and weddings abroad
Nickelhasababy pray for friends who have lost babies.
Notevenamousie- curently undergoing treatment as an inpatient. recently lost her mum.
PositiveAttitude- soon to be working abroad for 2 years from 17th July!. Pray for dds1,2 and 3 staying behind. prayer also for current work situation and 3 jobs! (eek). Prayers for DB and PA?s family?s relationship with sil.
SESthebrave-prayer for husbands stressful job situation, which may involve going to Dubai (not what ses wants). The last few weeks of pregnancy and work. Pray for the baby to turn the right way round.
Starwisher-pray for a job for dh
SweetestThing- just got the all clear from cancer and officially in remission. however, still has to deal with the after effects of surgery.
Teaandcakesplease- single parent to 2 young children. unsupportive parents re ds "being a toddler." prayer for new reliable friends, and one friend in particular!
Tuo-dd1 and dh to be more positive about her faith
Weegie Thank God that treatment is bring some relief to her condition, chronic inflammatory.Demyelinating polyneuropathy. Ongoing prayers for more improvement and adjusting to a new way of life for both weegie and he dh dd has Perthe's syndrome , where the hip joint dies then regrows. Thank God for an improvement in her condition and further improvements so no op is needed.
welshcerys- family and a mega toothache
ZipidiSoozi- welcome back! GCSE season for ds
and finally (I hope)
Blackeyedsusan- mad as a hatter! single parent to 2 youngish children, separated after dv. pray for friends and a new church. ds's behaviour and toddler diarrhoea. dd, niggling health problems. Parents poorly, mum collapsed- investigations to find out why. Mil with lifelimiting cancer

[DutchOma]

Sending big cotton hankies to Jan and Tea. I always think the worst of the crying is that your nose keeps dripping.

[lostmywellies]

When I get into that level of a state, I give myself an early night. I realise it's not quite that simple, but things do usually seem a bit more bearable in the morning. Hope you can both get some rest tonight.

PA - you must feel so let down, with your church family behaving like that. Well, except that presumably it's not a huge surprise. So sad, though.

[Tuo]

Praying...
... for TaCP - I'm sorry that things are so tough for you atm. Sending getting-things-done prayers for the admin stuff; prayers for resolution for the court case for LM; and prayers that he'll be in touch with you soon. (Is it possible that he is keeping you a bit at arm's length, because he fears that it may harm his chance of contact with his kids if he's in another relationship? No good advice, but I'm thinking of you.)
... for jan and BES and all those with difficult relationship situations - for love and peace in your lives.
... for PA - I'm so sorry that you've been hurt by the behaviour of those at your church today.
... for Oma and Bob - for a good outcome from the next hospital trip and a resolution to any transport and travel problems.
... for SES - for a trouble-free end to your pregnancy and the VBAC that you are hoping for (I know that every birth is different, but I had an amazing pain-relief-free VBAC with dd2 so it can be done);
... for Mary who hasn't posted here but has asked for prayers on the chat thread - for clear-headed consideration of any decisions that need to be made.
... for all who are struggling with illness atm - thinking particularly of expat's dd and of UA's ds.
... for my dd2, who's off on a school trip abroad tomorrow. She'll be fine, I know, and is soooo excited about it, but I am anxious, so praying for a safe trip for her and calm for me.
... for me - for some difficult conversations I need to have at work this week.
... for the people of Italy, after a tragic bombing at a school in Brindisi yesterday and the earthquake today - praying for those who've lost loved ones, those who've been injured, for rescue workers and police, for all who work to combat organised crime, and that those who've died this weekend rest in peace.
... and for anyone I've forgotten - sorry!

[Teaandcakeplease]

Yes TUO I think a lot of it is that. His ex wife would make things twice as hard if she even had a sniff of him seeing someone new. She would think he's only pushing the court case because of a new woman or wanting more money for a new life etc. Which simply wouldn't be true of course.

He has texted me a few times tonight by complete surprise, no comparison for seeing him though and he's now away for 4 days I shall go to bed and take wellies advice.

Did get quite a lot of admin done this weekend in total and will try and fit a bit more in tomorrow when both the kids are at school/ pre school. I also have a dentist appointment, as the filling they did 3 months ago is still so sensitive up by the gum and it hurts if I eat on that side. So time to go back to them again Maybe I should get false teeth?

[blackeyedsusan]

pa hugs. poor you

[blackeyedsusan]

agggggggghhhhhh the mouse on the computer is brroken and driving me insane.

dd has got spots, currently of unknown cause and we are keeping her off school tomorow.

[blackeyedsusan]

tttttttttttttteeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssssstttttttttttttttiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnnnnggggggggggggg

ahh good. resetting of commands has worrked. though mmy double rrrs arer back.

[FriendofDorothy]

Gah I wish I felt better. Had another bleed this morning, pretty much as the same as on Friday. It was kind of rusty colour and I am going to have to assume that as there has been no pain that it is nothing.

It's driving me nuts now though. I waited so long to get pregnant and now I feel like I can't even enjoy it :(

[JugglingWithTangentialOranges]

Hoping everything will settle for you soon FoD

[jan2011]

FofD that sounds so stressful. thinking of you much.

i can't think properly today. tried reading the bible and the words just go round and round in my head...

[blackeyedsusan]

still spotty.. going to gp to find out the implications for mil who is immunocompromised.

still got an extra visitor... who is being dispatched to the mouse shop to buy a new mouse as the current one is dying.. and will only un in a left and up direction. the keyboard mouse is driving me nuts but at least it works slowly.

h is here and is going to set himself up with stuff to work from here so he can come to the drs and find out if he cango back to his mums. he is going to be sent into the supermarket to get us bread and milk too.

[jan2011]

i phoned woman's aid today. someone is going to call me back with advice on separation... i am sooo anxious about everything. i am also going to go to a prayer meeting this afternoon ill just call in at the end of it to talk to the women there for advice. please pray i feel unbelievably vulnerable. he of course is saying how much he loves me, wants to make things work, how im not willing to work through things, how i am not understanding the reasons WHY he is reacting strongly (which of course is because im not listening and understanding him enough etc) i am in a fog.

[Teaandcakeplease]

Oh Jan and FOD praying for you both.

Jan did you find me on facebook yet? I'll pm you my real name.

[blackeyedsusan]

oh jan. that is big. (((hugs))) and prayers

[SESthebrave]

Jan - prayers for you and FWIW, I think it's really positive that you are trying to find a way forward, whatever that may be. Prayers that God will lead you clearly in the path he would have you follow.

BES - prayers for you and DD

FoD - prayers for you. When is your next MW or scan appointment? You are right that dark rusty colour with no pain is usually nothing to worry about but I get your frustration at now being pg, you still can't fully relax.

[thejaffacakesareonme]

Oh Jan, prayers.

FoD -prayers for you and your little bean. I was told that rusty or brown colour isn't as serious as bright red as it indicates "old" blood rather than a fresh bleed, iyswim.

PA - sorry that you've had trouble at church.

DO - praying that the trip to the Brompton will come up with some answers, and that they'll have the medical records this time!

TACP - hope you are feeling better today. I always see things more clearly after a good nights sleep.

BES - prayers for a sickly DD

TUO - prayers for your difficult conversations.

And prayers for anyone I've forgotten. I'm a luddite and can't work out how to see the previous pages.

I'd be grateful for prayers for DD. She's 11 weeks old today and has a cold. She sounds like Peppa Pig with her grunting. As she was born with pneumonia I'm much more paranoid about her than I probably should be. I think she is probably fine, but I just have this nagging worry.

[JugglingWithTangentialOranges]

jan I do think you are doing the right thing by considering or deciding to separate from H. Sometimes I feel in my own relationship that there can be something of a grey area between ordinary conflict and emotional abuse. I know my partner has certainly stepped over that line at times though.

I feel your partner is spending too much time on the wrong side of that line ie. being emotionally abusive to you.

Obviously I don't know everything about your relationship, but I think, what you have said on here has given us all cause for concern for you.

I think you have to do what will be right for you and dd, so you can build a brighter future for you both. It will probably turn out to be the right thing for H too, as an abusive relationship does no-one any good.

Hoping you can see light on the path ahead, and feel the companionship of those that care about you and of your God.

" Put your hand into the hand of God, for that shall be to you better than a light, and safer than a known way "

Thinking of jaffa and FoD too, and all x

[madhairday]

Praying for everyone as I have read through. so sorry for all people are facing/going through. Praying for God's peace for you all.

Have very numb mouth as just had filling. ouch.

[amberlight]

I think the test of any relationship is 'am I scared of my partner and their reactions'. Trust is never ever about fear.

Prayers all round.

[jan2011]

thank you for support, thoughts and prayers. praying God to meet every need.

im drained - spoke to marriage counsellor. she is offering us each a one on one session and says we can talk about separation options and weigh up what would be best. spoke to WA. she said i can make private plans to get a housing executive house and they would support me if thats what i want, and offered to come for a chat - i declined for now but may in a couple of weeks. and spoke to someone from the prayer ministry team (not my church) he prayed with me and told me to do these 2 things:

1. every time i think of him, ask God to bless him (this will change him and me)
   
2. spend a few minutes each day imagining us happy, getting on, loving one another - and believe it into being.
   

he thinks God can turn it around. i am going to try these things first before i give up. but im still keeping in touch with WA. i am so very tired by it all, so run down.

[JugglingWithTangentialOranges]

Personally I wonder if you need more impartial advice jan - and from other women maybe. Just don't think the two suggestions you were given by the man from the prayer team are comprehensive enough really ie. they are both directed towards the possibility of you staying together.

I notice too that you're saying "I am going to try these things first before I give up" Whereas you could be saying, "I'm going to give us another couple of weeks to see if we can work things out with support, and him another opportunity to make significant changes, before I move on for both DD's sake and my own"

Just that you don't have to see it as you giving up, that's all
Hoping to help.
Prayers for you, whether things work out one way or the other.
Hope you can find some time and space for rest and refreshment amongst all the confusion x

[mathanxiety]

I want to second Juggling's advice to you there Jan. I went to church counselling with my exH that was, for starters, joint counselling even though I said from the outset that there had been violence in our relationship.

Generally speaking, churches tend to want to keep marriage intact and do not see much of a problem with 'male headship' in a relationship, an umbrella term that means a lot of different things to a lot of people, but can be used as the foundation of a philosophy that says women should endure whatever a man cares to dish out to her, that a woman has more of a responsibility to the relationship than she has to herself or the children.

[blackeyedsusan]

non specific viral rash... she is well enough in herself, just spotty!

[lostmywellies]

dd1 had 3 days off school with one of those a couple of weeks back. Hope your dd's good company for you (and maybe better sooner)!

Marriage advice... hmm. I think the first of prayer man's suggestions is great. The second sounds a bit airy-fairy and hard to put into practice. I suppose positive thinking can be useful. Maybe not as useful as he suggests, though! The only real problem I see with his advice is that it assumes the marriage can be fixed just by your actions, but it would be hard for him to do otherwise given he was just talking to you!

DH away again this week and the dcs seem particularly emotional. This is manifesting itself more in yelling and hitting than cuddles and droopiness, of course. I do a good line in patience most of the time, but after the umpteenth kick on the leg which is still sore from last week's operation by a boy who doesn't think before he acts (and is cross because I might be about to do the wrong thing in relation to food preparation), I have been known to be less than calm...

[JugglingWithTangentialOranges]

Thanks for sharing your experience mathanxiety

Sympathy lost for the DH away and DCs emotional scenario. Just when you could do with them being just a bit more helpful their behaviour goes off the radar instead ?!

Glad the spots aren't anything worse bes