Wiccans! Help needed ...

[Jux]

DD is 12, and is Wiccan. She is also quite a disturbed child due to a large number of bereavements we suffered in a short space of time when she was younger (and between December and February we had 4 more).

She is searching desperately for a way through. I know very little about Wicca; I've read a couple of books which dd has passed my way.

We are in the south west. Does anyone know of anyone who could mentor dd? I don't necessarily mean face to face, over the net would be fine. I mean really, just give her a bit of advice when she's having a tough time, point her in the direction of trustworthy sites and so on.

She is vulnerable and impressionable, and I (we) need someone sensible, responsible.

Can anyone help? I would be so grateful. I am really out of my depth.

Hi again! Today's dd's 13th birthday. She is dedicating herself this evening - any minute now, I think.

Sorry I haven't replied to you RedMolly, the thread dropped off my list and I missed your and Grockle's posts.

Happy birthday to Jux Junior!

Oh, and congratulations on acquiring a teenager...

I did a self-dedication ritual at 14 - i remember it gave me a lot of strength and peace and a stronger sense of my own identity. I really hope it does the same for your dd.

If you would email me, id like to talk to you about your daughter.
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-Brenda

This has been a lovely thread to read.

OP, I am sorry that your DD has been so woefully let down by her counsellors. You said that your DD has had a lot of loss and has yet to recover. Maybe your DH could lay off her for a bit? She's trying to make sense of life. I'm not saying he has to agree with her or not explain his POV, but he should support DD as she tries to find her own way. Just as you seem to have done.

I wish your DD a happy birthday and your whole family peace Jux.

GlowSore and Dione, thank you. This is a very old thread though, and all our lives have moved on. DD is so much better and happier, and is getting stressed about normal teen things like exams etc. It is lovely, tbh, though I know that sounds weird in a way. Just to see her being normal, instead of being anxious about who's going to die next.

Dione, it's all very well to suggest that dh lay off her, (he did at last realise that poo-pooing her beliefs just made her dig her heels in) but we don't really have that much control over how other people behave, do we? Remember that we had all been bereaved time after time after time, and were none of us functioning normally back then. We are all on a much more even keel now. Sometimes only time can help.

I do thank everyone who was on this thread at the time. I would not have coped without being able to talk to you all. Thank you for your time, kindness, reassurance and advice. (very heartfelt).

GlowSore, please feel free to pm me.

hi Jux

i found this book to be very helpful when it comes to learning about wicca. The author is a trained teacher and she's written it in a 'syllabus' style so it covers each age group from Infancy to Adolescence and Young Adulthood, and it is something that you both can study together. It will enable you to help/teach your daughter without needing to be already fully informed on wicca yourself and if anyone tries to lead her down a dangerous path you will recognise it.

it's called: Raising Witches, (Teaching The Wiccan Faith To Children), by Ashleen O'Gaea.

Paperback is £13.99 but i just checked and Kindle do it for £7.39

good luck

Glad to hear that things are settling down for your DD and your family Jux.