I wish I had called the police when he was whacking my dog with a long bit of tarpaulin (sp?)

[TrinityIsFuckingTrying]

my delightful neighbour has yet again called the polive on me about duke

his crime this time was running through his garden

I am aware that he should not be in hais garden
it was an accident
my mate forgot to close the gate after him and duke thought he was getting a walk

the police came and I explained(again cause it was different policemen) about our situation, the dogs behaviour changing, the fact we ahve a dog trainer etc)

and the poliveman was shocked to see we only had duke

he was waiting to find the savagely aggressive dog that had been explained to him

not duke who rolled oer in front of him for a tummy rub

I also explained that I am having trouble training duke not to try to protect me frtom said naieghbour as he has started to hit him with a long peice of tarp
I witnessed this about 4 days ago but I just didn't think there was any point in calling the police as I know that the dog shuld not have been nesar his drive

but the policeman says I must call them when I see him do it next

I am enraged by the obvious difference in the way he deals with issues since neil has died

Oh Trinity, that is the last thing you need!

Call the police when he does it again and ignore ignore ignore until he gets the point.

I am beginning to panic about what to do really
duke is starting a bad habit of trying to protect me and the children

only since neil died

he was neils dog and I know he is confused too

he's my first dog and I'm a a bit at a loss now

neil had always had dogs growing up and with his first wife
so when we were getting a dog I was confident that we could cope as neil was an experienced dog owner

now I'm just useless

this is the third time he has got the police to come down to see us

he also accuses me of flushing nappies down the toilet
tells me off for parking on my own lane (with pleny of room for other cars to pass)
because he says it is not a licensed car park

he also said I will end up in jail if I keep swearing at him

I know I know I shouldn't but I have a very short fuse atm
the last time he said this to me was when I causght him whipping tarp at my dog and said 'stop fucking hitting my dog'

his response

'keep him out of my property and if you keep swearing at me I'll call the police, you'll end up in jail if you dont stop'

oh Trinity he sounds like a twat

At least the police seem to be being reasonable
I have to admit I'm surprised they bother coming out to it

No Trinity, you're not useless, you just don't have any experience with dogs. At least you admit it. Carry on with dog training, it will work, and Duke will settle with time. Like all of you, he is confused and upset that DH is no longer there, but unlike you or the children, he can't have it explained to him in any way at all.

As for your neighbour, next time you see him threatening or abusing your dog, film it on your phone (if you can) and call the police. Or ring me, and I will come up and show him what happens to scum who beat animals. And that you have many friends and are not to be fucked with.

Oh Trinity, some neighbours just haven't got anything better to do. He is an idiot have you ever heard of anyone going to jail for swearing !!! I am sure things will get better with Duke, he is just grieving in his own very confussed way.

And tell the police about the harassment and bullying your neighbour is inflicting on you.

thanks everyone

yes he is an idiot

but that makes me think that he'll never stop

he'll just find somthign else to complain about

its like he as it in for me

I dont know anyone in a mile raius that likes him
he is very odd and it isn't just me that thinks it

I feel sorry for his wife and child

I dont know you very well, but I feel outraged on your behalf about this neighbour.
What an awful, cowardly little excuse for a man to behave this way. Especially since you know he wouldnt of done it if your DH was still here.
What a nobber.
at least the policeman that came out to you saw sense.
Next time he does it, phone the police about his abusive behaviour and the tell them you find him agressive and frightening. If they have the time to come out about a dog being loose in the garden they should take you seriously and come out about him.

Harassment! Thank you Greenmonkies, I couldnt for the life of me think of that word!

I agree that he sounds like a dreadful man and that his behaviour towards your dog is unacceptable but I also think that you really must stop swearing at him. A short fuse is no excuse IMO. I consider myself a reasonable and very polite person but there is nothing that gets me aggressive more quickly and ensure that I stop listening than someone swearing at me.
Perhaps you could start by changing your nickname - it doesn't make you sound very nice. Sorry but that is what I think.

'a short fuse'

encompasses my entire situation

maybe you dont know it

I agree with the swearing not being a good idea at all

sadly I genuinely beleive it would make no difference at all
I have never met anyone like him in my life

he is adamant that I am flushing nappies down that toilet as he is seeing them in the septic tank.......

Trinity this is all you need. The world does seem to be full of loonies sometimes. I guess whatever you do will not be right so I would stop even trying!

Do keep the polic informed though as it does sound like he is hassling you. If you get put in prison for swearing I'll be there with you in the next cell! The odd expletive has been known to pass my lips but I guess not the thing to do to calm the situation down!

If you need help with Duke just yell and we will see if we can help. I think you are doing a great job and managing brilliantly. As the others have said can someone help you make your garden more secure.

But don't let the bu@@gers let you down.

I dont think he can get out of the garden

we have doubled the height of the fence and have a chain on the gate

when he got out it was an accident with my mate leaving the gate open and the time before that my 2 year old let him because 'he looked bored' lol

lol at your two year old

yes she is great

Okay, Trinity, way I see it he has left you with very few choices as he is clearly a world class fucking nobber.

Get a nice new notebook.
Leave it somewhere accesible.
Everytime he does anythingwrite it down with times/dates and a signature of a witness if there were any.
If he does anything such as hitting Duke again or being remotely aggressive to you then call your local station (not the 999, the lcoal number) and report him.
Then everytime the police are called out you can show them that he is clearly harrasing a widow as he thinks he is a big fucking hardman and can get away with it.

And if you can (and I am a potty mouth so I know it is harder than it sounsd) start calling him names that are not swearwords so he will look like a complete twat if he calls the police, like a twunt, or a fanjo, or a pleb. It will make you feel better and he can' complain if you are calling him random words.

And stop flushing those nappies

lol essence

yes I'm going to do that
good ideas

Trinity he sounds like an absolute wanker.

poor you. poor dcs, and poor Duke

Neighbour sounds like a complete knob end. specially since he had nothing to do with you before.

If you've built the fence up, sounds like it'll be a while till Duke gets out again, so no doubt your nutty neighbour will have to find something else to complain about

How's it going with the dog trainer?

ps you're not useless. Dogs are fucking hard work at the best of times!

oh yes, meant to say about dogs, we were looking after mil's dog while she is in hospital and she's being a fricking nightmare, jumping, stealing food, not returning, nipping. All things she had stopped doing, so he has a perfectly valid reason for acting up (Duke thatis, not nobber neighbour)

As others have said, at least you are getting help with him, youreally are doing exactly what you should be.

Unbelievable!

You're a recently widowed lady with young children and your neighbour sees fit to act like this?

All credit to you for not jumping over the fence and thumping him - I don't know that I could have restrained myself had he hit a dog in my presence.

You have done nothing wrong and clearly are doing all you can with fence improvements, locks and training, to rectify the situation. None of this justifies this bastard's cruelty to you or to your dog.

Please do record/film/get witnessed any more such behaviour. Have you thought about asking your local neighbourhood PC to come and have a chat with you, to explain your concerns? (Sorry if you have, I don't know the full story). You'll most probably be told to keep a diary of ANY unacceptable behaviour from the neighbour and log it immediately with the station, getting an incident number, if it is illegal, threatening etc, so its worth starting now.

Do be careful about Duke getting out though - if he bites the bastard neighbour he could be at big risk of being PTS as a dangerous dog. I wish I knew where you lived because I can promise you that the neighbour wouldn't try to cause you or Duke any harm again once I'd finished reading him the riot act.

Btw, what sort of dog is Duke? Just wondering if I might be able to think of any specific advice or any particular person/organisation to speak with.

Take care and don't let it get to you.

Val x

he's a collie cross lurcher
the size of a small collie

thanks everyone