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I'm inconsolable with grief, my dog has just been killed, and I'm trying to stop myself from screaming I TOLD YOU THIS WOULD HAPPEN at DH

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snigger · 02/11/2008 17:52

I'm just offloading here, I don't want to upset dh any further or make him feel guilty, so maybe if I say it here it'll stop me from saying it in real life.

My lovely soppy bounding great galumph of a dog has been killed by a glancing blow from a deer. It's the 'rut' - the deer get aggressive and territorial, and as we came piling out of the Land Rover after our walk this afternoon, our terrier belted off at a rate of knots, I, holding the big dog's leash, called to DH saying "he's too excited, come get him, I can't hold him."

Let him go, says DH, stop being such a killjoy, he'll come right back.

I held on so tight, but he's a big dog, and young, and soooooo excited at the thought of dashing off after our other dog.

I couldn't hold him, and there was a deer in the trees by the house, and it caught him the most glancing of blows. It's like a little tiny puncture under his ribs.

God, my dog's dead, and I'm so sorry to bore with this monologue, but if I go near DH at the moment I'm going to say something unfair and regrettable.

This is shit.

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heididrink · 02/11/2008 17:53

how awful for you

jooseyfruit · 02/11/2008 17:53

so sorry

saltire · 02/11/2008 17:53

Aw I'm sorry for you, I remember how upset when our dogs got put down. poor you

MadamAnt · 02/11/2008 17:53

I'm so sorry. That's awful!

cornsilkpyrotechnicqueen · 02/11/2008 17:53

Very sorry

no1putsbabyinthecorner · 02/11/2008 17:54

ah thats awful. I am so so sorry for you. Dont really know what else to say.

NotDoingTheHousework · 02/11/2008 17:55

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LadyOfRoffle · 02/11/2008 18:00

{{HUGS}} You poor thing

watsthestory · 02/11/2008 18:02

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DisasterArea · 02/11/2008 18:04

sorry that is awful. i expect your h is feeling guilty enough and although you want to i wouldn't.

ClaireDeLoon · 02/11/2008 18:05

I'm so very sorry, that is terrible

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2shoeshissbangwhoosh · 02/11/2008 18:07

so very sorry about your dog

BBBee · 02/11/2008 18:08
Sad
itsyditsy · 02/11/2008 18:13

I'm very sorry about your dog

Deer are very dangerous in the rut, my DP was attacked by a red deer stag a few weeks ago in Bushy Park, one of the big parks in south London. He was gored in the stomach and leg and I think was very lucky. The leg wound in particular is very nasty and deep, I'm just glad he managed to grab the antlers and hold it so the stomach wound isn't deep. Be very careful near them - particularly if you take your DC's into parks with deer.

ChairmumMiaow · 02/11/2008 18:16

Oh snigger, I feel for you

My beloved dog died a couple of months ago. He was so good with our baby DS and I was so grateful to have him - then DH took him out running as normal - on the boingy waist-lead I bought him. Dog ducked into road to avoid some recycling boxes on the kerb and his back end was hit by a car, breaking his back. We had to have him put down that morning.

DH and I always argued about what it was safe to let the dogs do (DH always let them run free when I wouldn't have etc) but I knew if I said anything that DH would just feel even worse, so we agreed straight off not to assign any blame.

Your DH must be feeling just awful, and though I can completely understand how you feel, having a go at him will not help either of you. Rant here, we'll listen!

MatNanPlus · 02/11/2008 18:17

So Sorry Snigger

The Rut is a bad time for human/canine attacks by Deer who are in a hormone craze.

snigger · 02/11/2008 18:17

Thank you so so very much.

I've just been hugging the kids, they're watching George of the Jungle, DD1 is howling, but laughing, and says "This doesn't mean I didn't love him."

I never never thought I'd feel this way about a dog, it was just so violently sudden.

Thank you for the voice of reason, you're right, I mustn't kick off at DH.

Poor guy's white in the face.

I just want to HIT him though.

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 02/11/2008 18:18

So sorry about your dog. Am sure your dh feels awful.

2shoeshissbangwhoosh · 02/11/2008 18:18

oh hug him instead. He must feel so sad.
loosing a dog is like loosing a family member. I really feel for you all

bella29 · 02/11/2008 18:24

So sorry, snigger - it's just terrible

You & DH are obviously in shock, as is natural. It's also natural to look for smoeone to blame, when it was actually a really horrible freak accident.

Go give him a hug - I am sure he's feeling just as bad as you are.

GrimmaTheNome · 02/11/2008 18:24

I'm so sorry. Do offload here... our last dear dog died in very different circumstances but DH felt he was in part responsible and in truth maybe he was... but I had to make a decision to NEVER speak a word of blame to him as he felt so terrible anyway. The grief is bad enough without adding anger and recriminations.

I wasn't MNing at the time and did quite a lot of actual screaming when he was out of the house, I must admit.

I'm so sorry, it is shit. But your instinct not to scream at your DH is a good one.

FlameNPumpkins · 02/11/2008 18:29

Oh snigger

TheMadHouse · 02/11/2008 18:30

I just wanted to add my sympthay

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