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My dog died today...

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solo · 02/06/2008 00:09

My dog died today. She would be 13 this week and we think she had a stroke. My Ds 9.10 is taking it very hard. Mollie is still in the dining room as I couldn't did her a grave, I just don't have the energy as my ME is quite bad right now, so I'll have to find the money to have her cremated and take her to the vet tomorrow.

We had some weird stuff happen a bit before and during her passing.
My Ds was staying at his Grand parents for the weekend and before they knew about the dog, my dad was saying that he and Ds smelled the smell of wet dog, which was amazingly strong on Ds at about 9.30 last night, keep in mind that this is in a different house where there are no animals. We think that was when Mollie started to fade, though we didn't realise as she's always been a lazy girl that loved her bed. Anyway, at about 12 midnight Dp went to let her out in the garden for a wee and he called me through. She looked lethargic, but otherwise ok, except that her hind legs were damp. I got her out of bed and her bedding was wet, but not smelling uriney(no idea), so I changed her bedding and we kept an eye on her and at just before 2 am, when going to bed, she was obviously not herself, so I resolved to get up early and see how she was and then go to emergency vet if necessary. Part of me(deep down)knew it could be the end though as her breathing was quite shallow. I really wish I'd sat with her so she wasn't alone though...that's my biggest regret.
Dd was asleep but at around 2.20/2.30 she woke up and even after feeding wouldn't calm down or go back in her cot, she was quite hysterical, so I took her downstairs...remember, we'd not even left Mollie for an hour at this point. I checked on her and she was gone. Rigour had already set in! I was shocked and stunned. I'm very sad about it all...she was such a gentle soul.
Ds apparently had smelled the wet dog smell again this morning and I didn't tell him about Mollie until about 18.30 this evening, so I'd like to think that Mollie had said her goodbyes to Ds when she knew she was going and to Dd as she went. Dd just loved her so much, used to run in to see her first thing in the morning and when we came home etc shouting ' ooof, ooof!!' it was so lovely. Funny thing was, she didn't do it either this morning or when we came back from mums this evening. Spooky.
Hope nobody minds we just talking about this, I do feel alone with it right now and Dp has returned to work...Glad he was here though at the time.
Thank you for ' listening'.

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tortoise · 02/06/2008 00:11

Sorry for your loss.

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 02/06/2008 00:13

I'm so sad to hear about your loss. My old boy is going to be 13 this summer and I am dreading him going. At least your old girl seems to have gone peacefully.

solo · 02/06/2008 00:16

Thank you all...This is my third doggie loss now, but I had to have the last two put to sleep, so never had the experience of finding a pet in the morning if you see my meaning. I have only had Mollie for 5 of her 13 years and really tried not to get too attached. Obviously not as detached as I thought I was eh?

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Ulysees · 02/06/2008 00:20

So sorry for your loss. I just got a rescue dog and know how attached you get. We used to have a boxer who fought cancer twice but 3rd time couldn't.
I'm also a spiritualist and firmly believe they can come back to say bye as they're like part of the family.
Keep posting and never feel we would mind as it's heartbreaking

solo · 02/06/2008 00:20

You just feel so guilty. I feel like I ought to have called the vet in, though realistically, I know he wouldn't have been able to save her and it would've cost a small fortune - which I just don't have...
Ds, poor love started to blame himself. I told him that it was nothing that he did or didn't do. She was an old lady. Mind you, she looked sooo spritely and young looking.
My other two baby dogs were 14 and 13.6 good ages I guess.

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Ulysees · 02/06/2008 00:24

Guilt is part of grief solo. Even if you'd called the vet in you'd find some other reason to feel it. You gave her a great life and loved her so try not to feel guilty.
I felt guilty that we'd let our boxer have her 3rd surgery, she died on the operating theatre. We were selfish really as we should've had her put to sleep but I was heaviliy pg and we just loved her so much

solo · 02/06/2008 00:25

notjustmom, thank you. Those words were almost exactly what I told Ds tonight, that Mollie wouldn't be hurting at all, she'll be basking in the sunshine and wagging her tail and happy. Thank you. I am finally crying properly. I've had a few tears today, but this is the first time the tears have run down my cheeks properly. I think I need this...

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solo · 02/06/2008 00:27

Ulysees, I was Pg when I had to have my Sally put to sleep. I was truly devastated by her death. The main reason I took on Mollie was because she was almost identical to Sally which was the wrong reason really as then I think I detached myself so that I didn't get hurt again...

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solo · 02/06/2008 00:30

Think I'm going to keep Ds off school tomorrow, maybe have a quiet and loving day. Maybe go to the park. Would this be the wrong thing to do? He's really upset.

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solo · 02/06/2008 00:32

Thanks dittany, you're probably right.

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Sazisi · 02/06/2008 00:33

So sorry Solo xxx

Sazisi · 02/06/2008 00:36

Perhaps see how DS is tomorrow; it might be better to 'be normal' if possible and keep routines; on the other hand if you feel he's still feeling very sad it would be nice to keep him close.

Ulysees · 02/06/2008 00:37

No it won't be wrong to keep ds off. Did you take Mollie to that park though? May be better to go somewhere different maybe movies? Or just chill out at home? You'll know how you feel about it.
Off to bed now take care xx

solo · 02/06/2008 00:37

I can't believe my tears right now...can hardly see,

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solo · 02/06/2008 00:38

Thanks all...I think I need my bed now too. Didn't get much sleep last night.
Good night.xxx

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mummyblue · 02/06/2008 01:04

solo, I do understand your feelings. I once had a dog, loved him so much I still carry a photo of him. A pet is our family too, closer than most humans, sharing our lives, our hearts, our homes. Yes, it hurts. Tell you children to remember her forever so she can still live inside theis hearts xxx

mummyblue · 02/06/2008 01:04

solo, I do understand your feelings. I once had a dog, loved him so much I still carry a photo of him. A pet is our family too, closer than most humans, sharing our lives, our hearts, our homes. Yes, it hurts. Tell you children to remember her forever so she can still live inside theis hearts xxx

copingvquietly · 02/06/2008 01:08

oh solo ive only just seen this.im very sorry

salsmum · 02/06/2008 01:48

Solo
Sorry to hear of your sad loss. My old staffy has been by my side for 14 years and I know that when the time comes I will be looking for him for weeks afterwards because he is sooo part of the family. My son was 9 when we rescued Dex and he is a man of 23 now. He has such an adorable way about him and now he's old and 'grumpy' we still have a laugh about his little habits . My previous dog was 16 when she passed. I believe pets like people do come back and check everythings going o.k. after they pass and I'm sure my 'ol boy' will still be by my side even when he's gone. My thoughts are with you I'm sure you were the best owner to your friend mollie
xx

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