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HELP - at the end of my tether with our dog, should I rehome.

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Totters123 · 10/04/2025 21:42

We have had our 7 year old dog for around six years now she's a rescue street dog from Cyprus and she has always shown scavenger like behaviour with food. Shes a mixed breed - mostly hunting dogs like Viszla, Beagle and Spaniel. She was generally well behaved, with the odd exception, until recently when she started to show extreme behaviour around food.

In the last year she has been obsessive about food including constantly jumping at the sides, stealing food, opening cupboards to get food, eating/ripping up anything with any kind of human traces on it (underwear, snotty tissues, tampons, pads, its disgusting) she has figured out how to open all of our bins, including a Tommee Tippee nappy bin (how did she open this?!?!) and pulls out dirty nappies and tears them up. Some days I come downstairs and shes managed to get up onto our seating area and pull things off the kitchen table. She is really good with our children and other kids, in that she is very gentle, tolerant and has never shown any aggression BUT she does snatch food out of their hands if they arent looking.

Behaviour wise - we have done lots of training with her since she was a puppy, we take ownership of a dog very seriously and she has never displayed any aggression towards people - she can be a little territorial of other dogs if they come near our kids or if she is eating/has food. As a result we dont take her to places we know will trigger her, like pub, cafes etc, as she would get territorial and bark at other dogs if they came in. Out on walks she is fine and plays with other dogs, her recall has always been solid. She is generally quite nervous of new people and wouldnt approach anyone she doesnt know.

However - today I was out with my son, who is only two months old, and her and suddenly I saw her walk straight up to a childs picnic and takes food from them - literally out of their hands. I was quite far from her and thankfully someone watched the buggy so I could run around like a lunatic, apologising and trying to get her back. I couldnt believe how bold she was, I was sobbing by the end. It was also scary as I had to leave my son to deal with her, I managed to get her back but I was mortified. When I say she has NEVER done this before - I mean it! She is normally far too shy to approach anyone she doesnt know.

We have had her checked by the vets (worming, all the usual stuff done) and they suggested she may have Cushings disease - which is an overactive adrenal gland that produces a high cortisol level causing excessive hunger and thirst. Long story short they weren't able to officially diagnose her because of many blood tests gone wrong, but they started her on medication a month ago. I havent seen any improvement in behaviour at all.

I cant believe I am thinking of rehoming her and I dont even think my husband would let us do it - but I dont enjoy any aspect of having her at the moment. As I am on mat leave and my husband travelling a lot for work, she generally falls to me to look after, and I am at my wits end with her. I am also tired from having a newborn and I know I should probably give it more time and training, but her behaviour isnt just embarrassing its also dangerous. For instance if she scents food on the street (e.g. someones thrown some food next to a bin) she yanks so hard on the lead she almost made our buggy tip the other day pulling under it. She also knocked the babies bassinet trying to get at a tiny crumb of food underneath it, he was fine but it shook him. I also feel like she may need a home that can give her that time and attention, as although she gets a daily long walk and some attention here, she probably needs more.

I dont know what to do - I feel like I either need a break from her (short term foster?!) or she needs to be rehomed somewhere that can deal with her issues.

TLDR; we have a 5 yr old and two month old. Our dogs behaviour has become unmanageable in that she is constantly stealing or seeking out food. This may be down to an illness but its hard to tell and the behaviour is overwhelming. I want to rehome her but unsure if its a knee jerk reaction.

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ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 21:50

She's only been on medication for a month, and if it continues to be ineffective there are loads more things to try. IMO it's way too early for a responsible dog owner to rehome.

notloralaigilmore · 10/04/2025 21:52

Not sure if I missed it but you don’t say why the dog wasn’t on a leash knowing how they behave ?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 10/04/2025 21:52

I expect most rescues will be unable to rehome her because of the possible Cushings and she will be destroyed - at a cost to the rescue.

Or of course the rescue will have to bear the cost of her meds until she is adopted, if ever.

People aren't exactly queueing up to adopt unwell dogs with lifelong costs / treatment but people do,
people adopt dogs that require palliative care for however they have left.

but that's fine, you get rid of her after 6 years.

dogs don't know they are dead, it's only us that know they are.

I am quite surprised you had her off lead somewhere people are picnicking and that you allowed her to be so far ahead of you.

Snail01 · 10/04/2025 21:53

Give the medication a chance. You would be unreasonable to rehome her because of a potential health issue without getting to the bottom of it.

beccahamlet · 10/04/2025 21:54

Just short term advice. Don't let her off the lead if she's stealing other people's picnics.

Eggsboxedandmelting · 10/04/2025 21:54

Muzzle and a lead out? Other side of a baby gate during meal times with a filled Kong?

FortyElephants · 10/04/2025 21:57

Nobody will adopt her sadly with those behaviours and potential illness. You've got a very small baby and it's hardly surprising you're at the end of your tether. Your DH needs to step up a bit, and could you pay a dog walker for a while until your baby is a bit older?

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 21:57

@ArtTheClownIsNotAMime any suggestions of what else to do if the medication isnt working? That would be really helpful.

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon @notloralaigilmore I have never had an issue with her before, she always walks off leash in the park, I can call her to heel. She has genuinely never had bad recall and never gone for picnics, as I said she would never approach someone she didnt know until today. I live in London so the park is a shared space, the picnic benches are near the exit of the park, I was actually walking her in a different area, this happened as we were about to leave.

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Quitelikeit · 10/04/2025 21:59

Why are people focusing on the fact she was off her leash?! The op has had her for 6 years and there was no issues! That’s why she was off the lead 😏

Op I would hate this - it would be a PITA that I could live without

I’d re-home

And for posters going in and on about meds the dog is not diagnosed FGS they are just trialing the meds!!!

Mrspatmoresapprentice · 10/04/2025 22:03

Quitelikeit · 10/04/2025 21:59

Why are people focusing on the fact she was off her leash?! The op has had her for 6 years and there was no issues! That’s why she was off the lead 😏

Op I would hate this - it would be a PITA that I could live without

I’d re-home

And for posters going in and on about meds the dog is not diagnosed FGS they are just trialing the meds!!!

You’d rehome to where? The enormous queue of people wanting to adopt a senior dog with behavioural and potentially medical issues?
Op, I suspect this is more to do with you having a new born. For both you and the dog. In the short term, can you get someone else to walk her? A dog walker?

Flippertygibbets · 10/04/2025 22:05

You need a diagnosis, it’s not ok to say blood tests messed up etc, something is going on and your dog is not ok.

Tbh OP this sounds like one of those situations where you got a dog, had kids, now can’t deal with dog properly. It was a mistake to get a rescue dog just before babies and I feel for her, but it’s ok to say this is not for you. Rehome but don’t get another pet. It’s not for you, and that’s fine.

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:06

@FortyElephants thanks - you might be right - its just the cost of everything at the moment and being on mat leave. But it would be a good place to start.

Just to be clear - I absolutely wouldnt take this decision lightly and as I said, we put a lot of time and effort into training her - hence asking for the advice. And I obviously now have said she cant be walked off the lead.

I also didnt think that Cushings is a terminal/serious diagnosis? The vet seemed very non plussed about it affecting her lifespan. But yes I can see perhaps rehoming is unrealistic with a health condition.

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Clementorangeade · 10/04/2025 22:06

Diabetes can cause these symptoms too OP. I would go back to the vet to try to get to the bottom of the problem.

Hopefully you’ll find something that can help. If not I’d consider pts unfortunately if you can’t rehome.

Theoscargoesto · 10/04/2025 22:08

What is interesting to me is that although the dog is food focused, what happened today hasn’t happened before and it is NOW that she is on medication, supposedly to stop these behaviours. Something doesn’t seem to add up about that so I think I’d be back to the vets.

It sounds really difficult, and I can understand this being the straw that’s breaking the camel’s back. I’m on the ‘husband needs to step up’ page too, even if it’s just arranging walks so it’s one less thing for you to do.

QuickPeachPoet · 10/04/2025 22:09

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 21:50

She's only been on medication for a month, and if it continues to be ineffective there are loads more things to try. IMO it's way too early for a responsible dog owner to rehome.

I agree.
But on MN you can just ditch your pet and get on with your life when it’s no longer convenient for you.
Hasn’t that poor animal been through enough already? Mistreated in his first country, brought over here, rehomed by an apparently loving family, gets ill…oh now time to ditch him again.
Hugging my four legged friend extra tight tonight

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:13

@Flippertygibbets okay - again - just to be clear - we spent nearly £1500 in tests to try and confirm a diagnosis (luckily we have insurance) however due to a number of inconclusive tests and three that got messed up, the vets suggested to start the medication anyway and see if it helped.
I've had my dog for six years, two years before our daughter was born, and never considered rehoming her until now. I think its fair to ask the question if I am worried about the babies safety.

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Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:13

Ah okay I see it was a mistake to post this on here....

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ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 22:13

any suggestions of what else to do if the medication isnt working? That would be really helpful

Yes, go back to the vet.

Wakemeupbe4yougogo · 10/04/2025 22:14

What food are you giving them? That may account for the extreme hunger as well as any medical conditions. They may need more protein to keep them fuller for longer. What's their weight like?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 22:14

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:13

Ah okay I see it was a mistake to post this on here....

Ah, you just want permission to abandon your dog. This isn't the right forum for that, no.

Clementorangeade · 10/04/2025 22:16

Wakemeupbe4yougogo · 10/04/2025 22:14

What food are you giving them? That may account for the extreme hunger as well as any medical conditions. They may need more protein to keep them fuller for longer. What's their weight like?

But OP has had her dog for 6 years and this has only happened in the last year?
More likely to be a medical condition that’s developed imho.

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:19

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 22:14

Ah, you just want permission to abandon your dog. This isn't the right forum for that, no.

Helpful analysis of the long and heartfelt message I wrote that I now wish I hadn't! Thank you! 🫠

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Clementorangeade · 10/04/2025 22:19

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 10/04/2025 22:14

Ah, you just want permission to abandon your dog. This isn't the right forum for that, no.

I’d be worried when the dog is at the stage of snatching food from small children tbh.
I’d be concerned about their safety with a clearly unwell dog.

Cardinalita90 · 10/04/2025 22:22

I know how it feels when you feel like you can't take any more with a dog. I had the same but for different reasons (happy to say I discovered a wonderful trainer and she's still with me but empathising with the despair).

I think it would be unfair to rehome at this stage though. For her appetite and behaviours to change so dramatically means there MUST be a medical or behavioural cause. I'd be pushing for the vets to redo the blood tests that were messed up at no charge. I'd also consider maybe reaching out to a dog behaviourist - i wonder if perhaps thr new baby has triggered something and it'd attention seeking? Worth a shot before you rehome a loyal otherwise well behaved pet.

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 22:23
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Thanks all for the responses. Perhaps best to go back to the vet and discuss with them and draw a line under the thread.

EDITED: Again, I should have said, we have changed vets as the blood test debacle was such a nightmare - thankfully they didnt charge us for tests.

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