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HELP - at the end of my tether with our dog, should I rehome.

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Totters123 · 10/04/2025 21:42

We have had our 7 year old dog for around six years now she's a rescue street dog from Cyprus and she has always shown scavenger like behaviour with food. Shes a mixed breed - mostly hunting dogs like Viszla, Beagle and Spaniel. She was generally well behaved, with the odd exception, until recently when she started to show extreme behaviour around food.

In the last year she has been obsessive about food including constantly jumping at the sides, stealing food, opening cupboards to get food, eating/ripping up anything with any kind of human traces on it (underwear, snotty tissues, tampons, pads, its disgusting) she has figured out how to open all of our bins, including a Tommee Tippee nappy bin (how did she open this?!?!) and pulls out dirty nappies and tears them up. Some days I come downstairs and shes managed to get up onto our seating area and pull things off the kitchen table. She is really good with our children and other kids, in that she is very gentle, tolerant and has never shown any aggression BUT she does snatch food out of their hands if they arent looking.

Behaviour wise - we have done lots of training with her since she was a puppy, we take ownership of a dog very seriously and she has never displayed any aggression towards people - she can be a little territorial of other dogs if they come near our kids or if she is eating/has food. As a result we dont take her to places we know will trigger her, like pub, cafes etc, as she would get territorial and bark at other dogs if they came in. Out on walks she is fine and plays with other dogs, her recall has always been solid. She is generally quite nervous of new people and wouldnt approach anyone she doesnt know.

However - today I was out with my son, who is only two months old, and her and suddenly I saw her walk straight up to a childs picnic and takes food from them - literally out of their hands. I was quite far from her and thankfully someone watched the buggy so I could run around like a lunatic, apologising and trying to get her back. I couldnt believe how bold she was, I was sobbing by the end. It was also scary as I had to leave my son to deal with her, I managed to get her back but I was mortified. When I say she has NEVER done this before - I mean it! She is normally far too shy to approach anyone she doesnt know.

We have had her checked by the vets (worming, all the usual stuff done) and they suggested she may have Cushings disease - which is an overactive adrenal gland that produces a high cortisol level causing excessive hunger and thirst. Long story short they weren't able to officially diagnose her because of many blood tests gone wrong, but they started her on medication a month ago. I havent seen any improvement in behaviour at all.

I cant believe I am thinking of rehoming her and I dont even think my husband would let us do it - but I dont enjoy any aspect of having her at the moment. As I am on mat leave and my husband travelling a lot for work, she generally falls to me to look after, and I am at my wits end with her. I am also tired from having a newborn and I know I should probably give it more time and training, but her behaviour isnt just embarrassing its also dangerous. For instance if she scents food on the street (e.g. someones thrown some food next to a bin) she yanks so hard on the lead she almost made our buggy tip the other day pulling under it. She also knocked the babies bassinet trying to get at a tiny crumb of food underneath it, he was fine but it shook him. I also feel like she may need a home that can give her that time and attention, as although she gets a daily long walk and some attention here, she probably needs more.

I dont know what to do - I feel like I either need a break from her (short term foster?!) or she needs to be rehomed somewhere that can deal with her issues.

TLDR; we have a 5 yr old and two month old. Our dogs behaviour has become unmanageable in that she is constantly stealing or seeking out food. This may be down to an illness but its hard to tell and the behaviour is overwhelming. I want to rehome her but unsure if its a knee jerk reaction.

OP posts:
blacksax · 11/04/2025 15:48

Dogs are not more important than humans. If a dog's behaviour is completely intolerable and has become totally incompatible with family life, then family life has to come before dog. Yes, try to get to the bottom of it, but if nothing is working, then the dog has to go.

I'm sure there are lots of dog lovers out there (many of them seem to be on this thread) who would absolutely jump at the chance of rehoming such an animal.

dovess · 11/04/2025 15:54

Get rid of it. Too much work and trouble. The MN mad dog shaggers will make you out to be the devil and when it inevitably bites your children trying to snatch food from their hands or mouths - the children will be blamed despite being injured or maimed.

StargazerLiIy · 11/04/2025 15:58

Totters123 · 10/04/2025 21:57

@ArtTheClownIsNotAMime any suggestions of what else to do if the medication isnt working? That would be really helpful.

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon @notloralaigilmore I have never had an issue with her before, she always walks off leash in the park, I can call her to heel. She has genuinely never had bad recall and never gone for picnics, as I said she would never approach someone she didnt know until today. I live in London so the park is a shared space, the picnic benches are near the exit of the park, I was actually walking her in a different area, this happened as we were about to leave.

This is exactly why dogs should NEVER be off leash, except in specific dog-only fenced fields.
You NEVER know. You can never trust a dog 100%.

BatteryPoweredPeacock · 11/04/2025 16:05

So if the dog has been fine on walks up to now and this is a sudden change then this is not behavioural, it is medical. £2000 on tests is nothing, sadly - medical tests are expensive but thankfully she has insurance. I would be pushing the vet for better support and if your regular vet cannot get to an answer in a reasonable time frame then pushing them to escalate to a veterinary specialist centre where they will have greater skills, knowledge and access to better testing. In meantime, stronger environmental controls are needed to ensure she cannot steal food.

AcquadiP · 11/04/2025 16:28

If it's any consolation, I had a rescued Black Labrador (from the age of 5 years to 14.5 years.) She had a lovely temperament but sod all training when she came to me. Food stealing was one of her faults. She wasn't ill and she wasn't malnourished, she was simply greedy. In the early days, she would run up to people having an ice cream or a picnic trying to get food. She once ran up to a child feeding the ducks and ate all the bread. It took a while to train her and remove this habit but I did succeed and so will you.

The bin is a quick fix. Remove the opportunity - get rid of your kitchen bin and use a small pedal bin kept in the sink cupboard. Likewise, remove all edible food items on worktops and tables from reach.

IMO it's too stressful to take your child and dog out simultaneously at the moment so your DH needs to muck in and walk with you; or babysit whilst you walk the dog.

You say your dog has good recall, that's a massive plus in your dog's favour. You can use that to your advantage. Keep your dog on a line or long lead when around people and call your dog back to you at random. The reward for doing so are some "special" treats which your dog doesn't get at any other time. Read the environment and pre-empt what your dog is likely to do and try to recall her before she spots people having a picnic and so on.
As others have suggested, contact the vets and explain the meds haven't kicked in yet, she may need different medication.

I really don't think this a case for rehoming.

Wells37 · 11/04/2025 16:36

Give yourself a break your knackered you’ve just had a baby.
1/ make a vets appointment.
2/ lead walk for the moment.
3/ if you can afford a dog walker for a few days to take the pressure off do it.
4/ Dog proof the house this weekend. Everything out of reach.
5/ children only eat when the dog is behind a safety gate.
6/ get some high value long lasting treats to give the dog whilst he’s behind the gate.
7/ Work out with your partner how he can take the pressure off when he is around. Extra long walks before he leaves.
It’s been a big strange for the whole family, everything seems worse when you are tired.

Wells37 · 11/04/2025 16:36

Change not strange!

nonmerci99 · 11/04/2025 17:15

QuickPeachPoet · 10/04/2025 22:09

I agree.
But on MN you can just ditch your pet and get on with your life when it’s no longer convenient for you.
Hasn’t that poor animal been through enough already? Mistreated in his first country, brought over here, rehomed by an apparently loving family, gets ill…oh now time to ditch him again.
Hugging my four legged friend extra tight tonight

Get a grip.

ZiggyZowie · 11/04/2025 17:20

How about walking the dog on her own ? Say early morning before husband goes to work and he can watch the kids,?

Then in evening one of you again walking dog without kids, it'd be easier and could be a solution for a while.

CousinBob · 24/04/2025 21:40

Joining in with others to push for further medical investigations OP.
I had a cat that developed an overactive thyroid that was constantly hungry, meowing, and needing feeding several times a day. It was really pitiful to see, but thankfully did improve with medication.
Really hope you get it sorted. I understand how it sucks the joy out of the relationship.

biggerboat · 17/05/2025 20:30

Hi @Totters123
How's your dog doing on the meds now?
My dog is exhibiting similar with the food obsession and has suspected Cushings. She has many of the other clinical signs but the blood tests keep coming back borderline or inconclusive (Cushings is difficult to diagnose) so isn't allowed meds.
I'm just managing it for now with lick mats etc to keep her satiated between meals. I empathise with the challenge of looking after a dog with this disease.

dovess · 17/06/2025 16:59

Just get rid of it. It’s a danger to children snatching food out of their hands.

The mad dog shaggers will tell you how evil you are for considering the mad possibility of putting your family above an animal but will also refuse to take the creature on.

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