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How many days did you cry for?

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HangingOver · 04/10/2023 16:33

I cried on the way to vets, I cried while they did it, I cried all the way home and now I'm laying on my bed in a sodden heap. Please tell me it gets easier because my whole body seems to be hurting.

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AThickLayerOfLard · 04/10/2023 16:47

I sobbed multiple times a day for months. I still miss them after 4 years, although a new pet has helped heal my heart. It does get easier and, although the sadness will remain, the pain will lessen.
I’m so sorry for your loss

BristolBlueGlasses · 04/10/2023 16:56

I'm so sorry for your loss. Our pets mean so much to us that their passing is hard to bear. I promise you it does get easier. You will have lovely memories of your life together, look after yourself and take time to grieve. 💐

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HangingOver · 04/10/2023 17:13

Thank you. I miss her so much already. I keep remembering and bursting into tears over and over.

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HangingOver · 04/10/2023 22:25

I just went to put his mate away for the night (they've been paired for ten years) and it felt horrendous. I know I'm projecting and he's only a rabbit and therefore about as smart as a fish but he must miss her and wonder where she is. They haven't been parted before even for a night. Also he's blind so must be so confused 😢

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/10/2023 22:27

I had to say goodbye to my dog yesterday.My heart is literally hurting.I just want him back.

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HangingOver · 04/10/2023 22:37

I'm so sorry. It's so unbelievably raw and awful isn't it.

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Kaill · 04/10/2023 22:44

I still sometimes cry and it was a couple of years ago. There are bits of her everywhere. A book with a chewed corner. A scratch on the door. White hairs on an old coat. A tiny scar where she nipped DH by accident while playing. Little things that stay with you after your beloved is gone. I’m sorry for your loss 💔

Wolfiefan · 04/10/2023 22:45

I’m so sorry OP. You cry because you love. There isn’t a rule on how many days but one day you will think back to the time you had together and smile.

ButterfliesandMoths · 04/10/2023 22:48

When we had to say goodbye to our cat. I remember saying to my husband the day after, how are we going to get through this. I couldn't stop the pain of losing him. I think we spent most of the first week just crying. It's got easier over time, we still miss him now. Always will, it's been three years.

Mortimermay · 04/10/2023 23:01

So sorry for your loss. Its so hard. We all cried on and off for at least a week when our cat died. It's been three years and I still get moments of just really missing him. In fact our dd mentioned that she saw a wings charm that you can personalise with the name of someone who has died and she would like it for Xmas with our cats name on it! Even though we now have another cat and him and dd are inseparable, you never forget them.

Titsywoo · 04/10/2023 23:13

I cried constantly for 2 days when our dog was pts 2 years ago. And I never really wanted a dog! It's very hard and I'm sorry for your loss.

Surely2023IsTheYearForMyRainbowBaby · 04/10/2023 23:15

I didn't cry on the way to the Vets but that was only because I wanted to make his final journey as stress free as possible. Although for the only time in his 16 years that car journey was the only one he didn't sing the song of his people to let them know his hatred of being in the car. Sadly it was also how I knew it was definitely time for me to say goodbye. I still had that slight glimmer of hope that I'd get there and the Vet would say actually the results weren't as bad as we thought and we can treat him x y and z. Although deep down I knew that wouldn't happen. I was sort of whilst the Vet took him away to put a cannula in but then started panicking that it was taking too long and he'd already gone without me telling him how much I love him. As soon as she brought him back I started crying. He looked so adorable wrapped up in a big towel with his little bandaged arm hanging out. She left us for a while and I just stood and stroked him and kissed him and cuddled him as much as I could. The hardest bit apart from saying goodbye was the having to let her know I was ready for her to inject him, but before she did I kissed and cuddled him again and told him how much I loved him and to thank him for the 16 truly happy years he gave me, and to go find all his Kitty friends who would meet him at rainbow bridge and that Mummy's human baby would be there waiting for him ready to play with him. He went pretty much as soon as the first injection went in. I took some of his fur home in a little glass bottle and a few days later received a card with his nose and paw print. The first few days after I don't think I cried much, obviously the pain was unbearable but it wasn't until I got back in from work that it hit me that he was no longer there to greet me at the door like he always did. Even his final few days he'd summon the energy and walk from the living room and lay in the hallway waiting for me. It wasn't until I collected his ashes I remembered his blanket. Thankfully they'd kept it for me. I sleep with his blanket every night. Sadly it no longer smells of him because I had to wash it before I took him due to his incontinence and I wanted him wrapped in it before he was cremated, but it brings me comfort knowing that he spent many a day and night snuggled up in that blanket and I can imagine he's snuggled inside it having snuggles. I also have his pictures on my wardrobe which I talk to every day. I tell him how much I miss him, how much I love him and to make sure he keeps an eye on Little Bean for his Mummy and Daddy and to make sure he's behaving himself.

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HangingOver · 04/10/2023 23:53

Oh wow @Surely2023IsTheYearForMyRainbowBaby that is so sad. Yes I had the same thing when they took her away to put the cannula in. Thankfully I got to briefly hold her while they did it (she was in respiratory distress so we couldn't wait). Then after I just held her and looked at her little face and was just overwhelmed by how beautiful she looked. I've had her 12 years and I feel like I know her face better than my own but in that moment she just looked like the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen.

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Lizzieregina · 04/10/2023 23:56

I cried off and on for weeks and might cry in a minute because of this thread. It’s been almost 7 years and I still can’t get another dog.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Our little furry friends mean the world to us.

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HangingOver · 05/10/2023 00:01

Thank you everyone. I was worried I was overreacting but it seems everyone feels this way about their beloved pets. I have a remote interview tomorrow. Thank god my camera isn't very good as I look like I've been punched in both eyes.

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TheTempest · 05/10/2023 00:08

I lost my old girl tonight, it really really hurts. I’m sorry for all the losses you have all experienced. I have lost beloved pets before, it does get easier and you can remember them with love and smiles. Tonight it feels so hard though x

Didicat · 05/10/2023 00:09

I cried every day for 6 months still can’t look at a photo or say her name without crying (crying now typing this) a year later it still feels raw. But from previous pets who were my soulmates I will get to point where their memories make me smile rather than cry. It just really fucking hurts still. Gentle I mumsnetty hugs to you.

Celibacyinthesticks · 05/10/2023 00:13

6 months since I lost my darling girl, the first couple of months it was hard to even function I was in utter despair, I still have days where it still feels like I’ve been punched in the stomach and I just cannot comprehend that she is gone forever, it’s broken me to be honest and I don’t think I will ever recover fully, I think I’ve reached the point of this is as good as it gets, she is in my thoughts constantly and I still cry every day, her things are everywhere and always will be, they bring me comfort, I watch videos of her a lot, the sound of her little bark is comforting and seeing her healthy and happy blocks out the awful last few days, for a while at least. I’m so sorry for all of us on here who have lost our much loved pets.

Celibacyinthesticks · 05/10/2023 00:19

@Surely2023IsTheYearForMyRainbowBaby Your post really resonated with me, it sounds like we had a very similar experience. I’m sorry for all your losses.

DeadbeatYoda · 05/10/2023 16:50

I still well up when I think of past much-loved pets passing away. One particular dog had been like my best mate for 13 years, it's still hurts that she has gone. I'm in tears just typing it. I lost her 7 years ago.

ButterMyParsnip · 05/10/2023 19:24

It was about a week on and off. It was probably closer to 3 months before we could talk about them without welling up.

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HangingOver · 05/10/2023 21:59

I spent about an hour tonight looking at photos of her. It's astonishing how something so important and special, someone's whose face you know better than your own and who you've spent years trying to protect and love and keep well...and you know their every little quirk and gesture, just gone completely within seconds of that evil looking yellow stuff being injected. She just went instantly limp just like that and suddenly she was gone. I can't take it in.

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BristolBlueGlasses · 06/10/2023 16:26

@HangingOver I've think you've hit the nail on the head there with one of your thoughts. It's very hard to switch off all that loving and protecting after so many years of it being one of your happiest and most important things. Our beloved pets are not gone though, they are still with us in our hearts and memories and will be with us forever. It must be a comfort knowing you were such a caring and devoted pet companion and that your little friend couldn't have asked for a better life than the one they had with you.

Five weeks in for me since saying goodbye to my beloved dog and slowly, day by day things get a little better I do promise you that. I hope your interview went well and send you hugs.

Ihateboris · 06/10/2023 16:40

I feel your pain. I lost my beautiful black labrador yesterday. The pain is indescribable x

Cowlover89 · 06/10/2023 17:11

I'm so sorry for your loss x

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