Future pet....cat?

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For years, my future life was to include having a dog. For walks, for comfort, for cuddles and just because I adore them. However, things changed and I’m not in a position to do daily walks so I understand it would be unfair.

Cats were an absolute no! I didn’t like them, could see no point in them and felt they were the antithesis of all a dog could offer/was. Thing is, I’ve been watching YouTube videos of ‘funny dogs and cats’, and I mean loads of the damn things over the last few months and cats are thawing my cold heart.

I didn’t realise how much of a personality they had.

Question is, how do I go about buying one/choosing one/knowing how much one would suit/type of personality?

Any advice welcome.

First thing you need to realise is the cat owns you not you own the cat 😂 Seriously though they are great company and my two are very different personalities despite being sisters from the same litter so I don't have any advice on breed and temperament because with mine they are polar opposites.

We have both cats and dogs and both offer so much, albeit in very different ways. We got our two cats (brothers) by visiting the local animal sanctuary (mice to llamas) and spending time sitting in each of the cat pens and just seeing what happened. Some are aloof, some curious and others immediately say on our shoulders and nibbled our ears. The two we eventually paid for came over, cuddled a bit and the. Sat next to us gently contented - neither over demanding or ignoring us to the point of not being there. Somehow we just knew from these simple interactions which ones we were taking home - after all of the necessary checks - and what the dynamic would be.

Prepare to be shocked, amazed, challenged by how much interaction and communication you'll get from a cat. Yes, they're not dogs with the slavish desire to follow you around and drink in your every word, and yes they will own you... but they are such deep creatures that bring so many rewards into your life - and not just the odd dead mouse.

This is the thing, it seems it’s just luck of the draw then..I could end up with a crazy psychopath that tries to smother me in my sleep if I don’t prostrate myself enough.

Weathervane, thank you! That’s very interesting and helpful.

If you want an animal with a more defined personality, you probably need an adult cat to start and from a small rescue where the cat has been in a home situation rather than in a cattery type set up. You can read about general breed characteristics, but there are always outliers.

I would recommend approaching a rescue shelter who can suggest a suitable cat based on what you are looking for. The advantage of adopting an adult cat is the shelter will know their personality whereas a kitten will be more of an unknown. We have always had cats and they can be incredibly loving, and so so funny with all their little quirks

Hmm, I wouldn't expect what you see on youtube to be the same in real life (that goes for more than just pets ). I speak as a cat lover (but have dogs too) if cuddles and affection are your main desire, I'd be cautious about a cat. Even the very most affectionate cats I know are not quite the same as a dog - that being said I think they're wonderful in their own way, can be playful and funny, can be affectionate and loving (although you typically have to earn it from a cat in a way you don't from a dog). The way I see it you have three options, I'd go for 1 myself but up to you:

1. Go to a rescue and explain the type of personality you are after and the set-up you can offer, a good rescue will match you well and often these days they have the cats in foster homes so they know what they're like in a home environment as opposed to cattery which can be terrifying for a lot of cats and cause them to go very shy and withdrawn. If you'd like a lapcat/companion I'd go for an older rescue, all the rescue cats we've had have been more or less independent as youngsters and more into hunting/guarding territory than interacting with humans (other than cupboard love of course!) but they mellow a lot and appreciate strokes and a lap to sit on more and more as they age.
2. Buy a pedigree kitten (or 2!) from a breed with the characteristics you like, e.g. ragdolls are known for being very calm and affectionate, Siamese are intelligent and characterful, Maine Coons are funny and more 'dog-like'. This will be more of a known quantity I guess compared to a rescue moggie but equally it's a cat at the end of the day so if your heart still pines for a dog you might need some expectation adjustment.
3. Don't get a cat at all - there are other pet options that might give you more what you're after without the drawbacks of a cat. E.g. budgies are friendly, interactive, can be trained like a dog. Guinea pigs are cuddly and soothing.

I've had cats all my life. One or two at a time. Cats are brilliant. If you get an adult cat from an animal shelter you will know the personality from the start. Be advised of a couple things if you get a kitten: firstly kittens learn some things from siblings, like what it's like to be bitten. So a single kitten doesn't learn not to bite because it hurts. Also, find out where a kitten comes from. A feral cat, even a kitten from feral mum will be a prolific hunter. They will bring it to you as a gift. Some cats are nervous and have to be adopted by themselves. Almost any cat will warm up to you given time and patience. They are independent but also good company. Good luck

I really think that all the people who don't like cats or say they're not affectionate (only care about being fed etc) have just never got to know cats!
In my opinion cats are just the best!! They're so easy to look after. I just have to feed mine and that's it. He has a little corner of the garden, behind a Bush where he goes to the toilet. And yes cats are extremely affectionate. Every cat I've had has been so loving and we've formed a very close bond. I think that with cats you get back what you put in. Because I've always loved my cats so much they've loved me in return. Even the little vicious beast of a feral cat we took in has become like a soft, cuddly Teddy bear under our TLC.
The only downside is they can bring in mice and birds but this can be greatly reduced if you keep them in between dusk and dawn (hunting time).

Some brilliant replies here which I will take on and explore. Thank you very much for your feedback. I will keep you updated!

I'd also add my one cat seemed very shy and quiet when we went to get them, she was the runt of the litter as well. Fast forward a few years and every single dog in my neighbourhood is petrified of her because she thinks nothing of attacking them if they walk past 🤦‍♀️

There is never a guarantee, but some breeds are known to be more cuddly (eg Ragdolls) and less aloof. Male cats also tend to be cuddlier than females, and senior cats are often much more mellow and chilled. Perhaps fully embrace the cat-love and get 2 - that way they not only have a little playmate, but you double your chances of a lap cat.
Or get a Maine Coon, then you'll have a dog-sized cat 😬

I’ve had a couple of cats in the past, this was when I was working full time pre kids. My DH worked away a lot and I got fed up of coming home to an empty house. They are good company and like a cuddle.Although I love dogs, and have one cuddled up with me now, I think I’d have a cat in the future as they are much more independent and you can leave them alone longer.

My daughter has 3 ragdolls and I can confirm that if you want something that will cuddle you all day long, look adorable and let you pick them up constantly - then they're the breed for you!

I have a tabby. She is feisty but also very cuddly

You can never go wrong with a black cat or Ginger cat. I’ve had 5 black cats in my life and they were all incredible in their own way. My current cat was 5 years old when I adopted her. I knew I want an adult female and although she was shy at first we have bonded to the point where she comes for cuddles every morning. 😻

I've never had a cat. Didn't like them, but ridiculously had never spent time with one. My then new husband is cat made. I caved and we got a cat. He is AMAZING!! So clever, such a personality. I never knew cats were like this. Myself and my kids are obsessed and we now have 6!! I'd have more. They're all awesome 🐈

I wish there was a like/love button here! Thank you again! So much appreciated.

This is my previously aloof rescue cat coming to give me snuggles whilst I’m working from home.
Cats own you… they call the shots but they show their love.

A lot easier to take care of than dogs and are happy to be left alone for longer stretches… it’s her house not mine 😂

Dogs love you because you feed and train them.
Cats assume you will feed them, they resistant the majority of attempts to train them. If they love you it is because they choose to love you.
I have cats and dogs, but if I had to choose one or the other it would be cats. Currently I have 3.

If a cat is what you decide on I think your best bet is going to a rescue centre where you can explain your needs and they can match you to the best cats/kittens to suit you.

I work at a cat rescue centre and have owned 15 cats they ARE all different with different needs and preferences, some cat just don't ever warm up to you or become the living cuddly type.

It's great to hear that you're open to the idea of getting a cat! Here are some tips to help you choose the right cat for you:
Consider your lifestyle: As you mentioned, daily walks are not feasible for you right now, so a cat may be a better fit for your lifestyle. But, cats still require daily attention and care, such as feeding, playtime, and litter box cleaning. Think about how much time you can dedicate to your new furry friend.
Personality: Each cat has its own unique personality, just like dogs. Some cats are more social and outgoing, while others are more independent and prefer to be left alone. If you're looking for a playful and social cat, consider a kitten or a younger cat. If you prefer a more low-key and independent cat, consider adopting an older cat.
Breed: While breed isn't always a guarantee of personality, it can be a good starting point. For example, some breeds, like Siamese or Bengal cats, are known for being more active and vocal. Other breeds, like Persians or Ragdolls, are known for being more laid back and affectionate.
Adoption vs. buying: Consider adopting a cat from a local shelter or rescue organization. These cats often need loving homes and have been screened for any health or behavior issues. Plus, adoption fees are typically lower than buying from a breeder.
Meet the cat: Before making a final decision, spend some time with the cat you're interested in. Observe their behavior, play with them, and see how they interact with you. This will give you a good sense of whether or not they're a good fit for you.
Remember, owning a cat is a big responsibility and requires commitment. But, if you're willing to put in the time and effort, a cat can be a wonderful companion and source of joy in your life. Good luck!

I have two rescue cats. Wanted lap cats and so rescue centre helped me pick 2 who love a cuddle. One on particular just loves to cuddle. They love playing with various toys and know when I've had a bad day and just need a cuddle.

I'm onto my fourth cat and they are the BEST pets: entertaining, aesthetically pleasing, self-cleaning and, yes, loving. Dogs may instantly lavish love on you but cats demand you spend time watching and responding to them. They have bags of personality, if you have the patience to let it unfold.

My cats have all been rescues, and were matched to us through personality rather than breed (cats have not been as intensively bred as dogs, I'm not sure it's that meaningful for non-pedigree cats?). I adopted twin kittens so they are very entertaining to watch playing together. They are different in personality (one cool dude, one shy little snuggle muffin) but both very loving. They follow me all round the house like miniature outriders.

Good luck!

Go to a cat rescue and talk to the staff. Cats are mostly really easy pets to look after, but you do need to understand them.
They choose to be with people and enjoy life generally. They're pretty undemanding - food, comfort, security and modest amounts of fuss.
I have 4 cats. They are each unique in terms of personality, preferences and temperament.
I'd suggest a golden oldie, but definitely not a kitten. Males are often friendlier than females. Long haired cats (in my experience) are a bit more highly strung and no one should get a Calico as their first cat!