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Horrible Gaslight Experience at Vets

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soulandcats · 23/06/2021 19:01

I’ve been going through the week from hell after my normally very healthy and active but elderly cat suddenly became seriously unwell. She started vomiting, stopped eating, zero energy and her breathing became somewhat shallow and rapid.

I took her to her registered vet’s practice (first visit as I moved to the area several months ago) as soon as possible. One blood test later, the vet said that she was dehydrated with slightly raised liver enzymes. All other organs are in good shape and no diabetes, etc. Some fluid was injected under her skin, anti-sickness given and arranged for her to return the following day to receive IV fluids. My cat seemed a little perkier that evening and ate a full meal, but was still clearly not right.

I returned the following morning to drop off my cat for standard IV fluid therapy. At the end of the day, I made the journey to pick her up. She certainly didn’t seem any better; instead, she was noticeably worse. The vet came to meet me, a different vet who just so happens to be the founding director of the entire veterinary group.

He declared that my cat had “eaten a full meal” and that he was “looking at a very healthy cat!” I next asked why she had become so unwell, and he advised that it was “most likely her teeth.” He explained that the tartar on her teeth might have acted as a toxin and caused raised but nothing to worry about liver enzymes. Once again, I thought this sounded highly unlikely. I asked if it was possible to give my cat a scan of her abdomen.

Unfortunately, in my confusion, I said “CT scan” instead of ultrasound. I was next repeatedly told that they had “no provision to scan an animal.” The vet and nurse must have realised that I meant ultrasound but did not correct me as you would expect and came across as altogether disinterested. The nurse then said that “scans are very expensive”, even though I had made it clear that I had medical insurance for my cat. I began to wonder how I had managed to register my cat with a practice unable to create an image of small animal organs.

Due to Covid, all appointments took place publicly in the waiting area. Sat across the room was an elderly couple who had brought in their cat. This same male vet returned to brief the couple but said that he “couldn’t really examine the cat because she was hissing and scratching”, or words to that effect. I thought it was strange that he couldn’t call in a nurse to help hold the cat. The vet’s tone made it clear that he blamed the couple for their cat’s demeanour, and they looked bemused.

The following day, a Friday, my cat deteriorated further. Concerned, I phoned the vet again for an appointment, only to be told that no vet was at the practice. Another staff member has now advised me that this was ultimately “due to Brexit.” The only option I was given was to drive with my very ill cat for just under 1 hour to visit another one of their vet practices in another county. I failed to see how any part of this is acceptable and was clearly blamed for taking this stance.

The next morning saw the start of the weekend. I managed to get an appointment at 10:40 am for my cat. I arrived on time, to be told flatly by the nurse in reception, "oh, we were expecting you 1 hour ago." I knew that this was wrong, as I'm meticulous about putting all appointments immediately after phone calls in my hardback diary and phone calendar. My mother, who has been helping out with my poorly cat, also overheard the phone call and confirmed that it was categorically a 10:40 am appointment.

There was no apology, and I was left to sit there through 2 other people's appointments whilst my cat's breathing became increasingly shallow. The nurse then said, "why didn't you take her to out-of-hours?" in an accusatory tone. I explained that since the most senior vet in the building declared my cat to be "very healthy" a little over 24 hours ago, I was led to believe that this wasn't necessary. I didn't receive a reply on the matter and began to feel as though I was losing my sanity.

Finally, I saw a vet, who I once again had not seen before. I handed her a bullet point print out list of my cat’s symptoms, which I had compiled the night prior, as I was exhausted trying to fight. The vet examined my cat before admitting that she was incredibly unwell with severe jaundice and that if she doesn’t go to out-of-hours care, she won’t make it. Upset and beyond frustrated that the two other vets had failed to accurately assess my cat (you would have thought they’d be able to recognise a yellow cat), I was left with no other choice but to drive my cat to emergency care. By now, this was my cat’s 7th car journey.

Arrived at out-of-hours care to be met outside by a female vet who was incredibly on the ball from the start. She expressed great concern that my cat had been offered absolutely no pain relief throughout her ordeal and questioned why there was no scan or diagnosis. It was great to feel heard finally. To cut a long story short, my cat ended up requiring emergency 24-hour care for the next two and a half days and nights. It was very much touch-and-go, and her long-term prognosis isn’t great due to the ultrasound results, but for now, my cat is back home, eating, drinking and purring, with a healthy heart rate and breathing pattern. The emergency team went above and beyond; I cannot fault them and remain incredibly grateful and impressed.

The morning after collecting my cat from emergency care, I decided to register with another veterinary practice as soon as possible. The receptionist was very pleasant and showed great concern for my cat’s wellbeing. She advised me that I would receive a phone call from the receptionist at current vets to give my consent for my cat’s medical history to be passed across. At a quarter to noon, I still hadn’t been contacted by the vet practice and so decided to phone.

From the offset, the receptionist was incredibly curt and rude. I was at least expecting her to say something along the lines of “sorry this didn’t work out; I wish your cat well”, but no. There was no apology, and instead she started retorting, “you can think what you think” and “that’s what you think.” She was so bitter and evidently angry, I hung up the phone physically shaking with disbelief.

Within the next 10 minutes, I received a phone call from a staff member from another one of the branches to discuss my reasons for dissatisfaction. On this call, I learnt that in the notes made following my appointment with the senior male vet, the word ‘deteriorated’ had been used to describe my cat’s condition. At no point was this voiced to me; in contradiction, this was the same appointment I was told by the vet that he was “looking at a very healthy cat!” I can now conclude that this was flagrant dishonesty.

I took my cat for her first appointment with her new vets the day after being released from 24-hour care. The vet was fantastic, incredibly thorough, picked up on another condition that my cat was suffering from that the first vet practice missed entirely, and, importantly, seemed genuinely concerned about my cat’s health and wellbeing.

My experience of dealing with the first vet practice has been nothing short of harrowing. I have been gaslighted, brainwashed and vital information was not relayed, and as a result left with no choice but to take my cat to out-of-hours, leaving me with a bill that has wiped out my annual insurance cover. I'm still very much dealing with the aftermath.

Any words appreciated. Thanks for reading.

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ButterflyBitch · 23/06/2021 19:08

Yes they sound utterly shit and I’m sorry you and your cat had to go through that. I think brainwashing is a tad dramatic but I can understand you feeling upset right now. Hopefully the new vets will be much better.

soulandcats · 23/06/2021 19:14

Thank you @ButterflyBitch for reading this super long post. You're probably right; I guess I'm feeling pretty livid right now. Never dealt with a vets practice quite like it and I'm emotionally drained as a result.

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ButterflyBitch · 23/06/2021 19:18

Totally understandable feeling drained and livid after all that. Hope your cat continues to improve 🤞🏼

Mrspimplepopper · 23/06/2021 19:21

Wow sounds horrific, is there a veterinary governing body you can complain to?

potter5 · 23/06/2021 19:28

Hope your cat is improving. Write a letter of complaint and leave a review of your awful experience on their website.

jobsagudden · 23/06/2021 19:28

Wow - that sounds absolutely awful OP. I'm sorry you and your cat have gone through that. They sound completely negligent. I think the people you need to get in touch with are the Veterinary Client Mediation Service, I would be looking to get compensation from them and at the least a formal apology.

soulandcats · 23/06/2021 19:37

Thank you reading @jobsagudden, and thank you for the info on the VCMS. I am going to be making formal complaints, and am currently in the process of fighting for compensation although it's a total battle so far.

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MrsCatE · 23/06/2021 19:40

Flowers so glad to hear your cat is on the mend but what a horrible journey! I would ask MN Admin to move this thread to the Litter Tray: loads of people onboard there who can give you professional and / or personal advice x

WhoopsieFairy · 23/06/2021 19:40

Poor you and your cat! I feel so angry on your behalf, I would be livid. I totally understand where you're coming from as we've got two cats as well and I'd be devastated if anything happened to them because of poor care. I agree, you should complain, it's just not on. Poor thing. I hope your cat is comfortable Flowers

soulandcats · 23/06/2021 19:41

Thank you @Mrspimplepopper and @potter5 for your words. I am going to be reviewing the veterinary surgery everywhere I can, plus making formal complaints to governing bodies.

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FrankensteinIsTheMonster · 23/06/2021 19:43

Wouldn't leave a public review without a great deal of thought about whether it could be considered libellous (even if true).

Mountaingoatling · 23/06/2021 19:43

You can report this to the RCVS.

I would leave out the word gaslighting and stick to the factual points in your complaint.

FrankensteinIsTheMonster · 23/06/2021 19:44

To clarify, I don't disbelieve you at all — it's just that you don't want legal hassle on top of everything, and it's not always obvious what you can and can't say without risking legal problems.

soulandcats · 23/06/2021 19:46

Thank you for this advice @FrankensteinIsTheMonster. Really appreciated.

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jakeyboy1 · 23/06/2021 19:50

I had a very similar situation and unfortunately my cat died. Would be very interested to know if this practice is in the Midlands and has just been sold?
My problem now is I find it hard to trust any vets. We had been going to this particular one for 30+ years as a family but they really let my boy down.

Veterinari · 23/06/2021 19:50

Firstly  @soulandcats Thanks
I'm glad your cat got the treatment she needed in the end.

I think they key points here are that the vet did not discuss the cat's deteriorating condition with you. If he thought she was deteriorating then why was she discharged with no further support/investigation scheduled?

When you asked for a scan why were appropriate referral pathways not discussed with you as per: www.rcvs.org.uk/setting-standards/advice-and-guidance/code-of-professional-conduct-for-veterinary-surgeons/supporting-guidance/referrals-and-second-opinions/

I think mediation is a good idea, and whilst it is tricky I'd suggest being as objective and factual as possible

Sadsiblingatsea · 23/06/2021 19:59

@FrankensteinIsTheMonster That is very poor advice.
There is nothing “libellous” about leaving an honest review.
I have left reviews after poor service and written chapter and verse about one particularly bad experience, but if what you say is true, what can the company say? Even if they did take it further, this would result in terrible publicity and in this case, the complainant being proved correct and offered compensation.
In my case, the company threatened legal action but I ignored them as they didn’t have a leg to stand on and they buzzed off.
The honourable thing to do is share this awful, inhumane treatment with other potential pet owners, so their animals do not have to suffer the same.

Barleysugar86 · 23/06/2021 20:06

So glad to hear your cat is okay. I had a similar experience with our dog, we were sent home with platitudes although they sat uneasy with me as an explanation, and we ended up rushing him to the emergency vets that evening. Unfortunately he died from sepsis a few hours later. I've never forgiven myself for not fighting more for him when there was still possibly time. He was only 7.

FrankensteinIsTheMonster · 23/06/2021 20:17

Sadsibling in the UK, for libel the onus is on the person accused of libel to prove that what they've said is true. The OP loses nothing by being cautious before posting public reviews.

SirenSays · 23/06/2021 20:25

Flowers I'm so sorry OP, give your cat a snuggle from us all!

FrankensteinIsTheMonster · 23/06/2021 20:28

People have been successfully sued in the UK for posting negative reviews online. The person complaining they've been libelled doesn't have to prove that it's false, they just have to show that they've lost out because of it. If what the person has said is true then that's a defence but they'll need to have evidence. And frankly even the risk of being sued is enough to make me want to think carefully about what I write in a negative review (which is what I originally stated: not "don't review full stop", but don't post a review without careful thought — the OP is upset, and might be tempted to post using the same kind of language they used here e.g. talking about dishonesty and gaslighting, which is okay on a discussion board when you're not naming the practice, but could land you in hot water when asked to prove it in court, like the guy who was recently successfully sued by a firm for describing them as scam solicitors).

Sillyotter · 23/06/2021 20:30

I work at a vets.

Put your complaint in writing - I know someone called to discuss over the phone but a paper trail is the way to go. Explain you’re still not satisfied and wish to make a formal written complaint. They’ll have to investigate and respond. If after that you’re still not satisfied you can take it to the RCVS and they will investigate.

You can also request a copy of your cats clinical records. I know it’s tempting to write lots of scathing reviews on social media but the formal route is the way to go. If you’re still not happy at the end of the investigation then by all means leave a bad review, but the practice should be given a chance to investigate and respond first.

It does sound like you have grounds for a complaint but if you do leave a review please keep it professional and to the point.

chaosrabbitland · 23/06/2021 20:36

there are some crap vets out there , sadly the one you took your poorly cat to is one of them , at least you know now , if your feeling unhappy with what a vet says in the future , dont wait for them to carry on fucking about , just find another vet for a second opinion . i would definatly be looking to claim the money paid back

Callywalls · 23/06/2021 20:51

So sorry to hear about your cat and I hope its health improves now you have found a much better vet. What a stressful experience you have been through at a time when you were very worried about your cat. I've had bad experiences at vets and it's so difficult as we put our faith in them and it's terrible when they let you down and all you are trying to do is get the best treatment for your beloved pet. I will only ever see the senior partner now at my vets and if I was you I'd certainly leave a bad review of the other vets, if only to warn other people.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 23/06/2021 21:09

We had a rubbish experience with ddog. Saw a locum who prescribed antibiotics and stated a mammary cyst. £80 for the pills +consultation fee..
Fortnight later more pills @£80
Next visit saw out usual vet (practice owner) who said it was a mammary tumour and assumed to be cancer... Denied anyone had told me otherwise.. Made me feel I had lost my mind tbh.
Questioned myself to dh and asked him to reiterate what I had told him. A cyst that needed antibiotics..
Saw usual vet again and paid 2 k (not insured) for mamnnary surgery... If ddog hadn't been so difficult to manage temperament wise I would have gone elsewhere..
She rallied round for 10 months but was assumed to have a brain tumour and we sadly decided pts was best. I declined the MRI etc they offered...
We have a dpuppy and a new practice. Other ddogs have their jabs there but wouldn't use them for anything else now..