Do I go behind partners back and get a puppy???

[kerrianne2412]

Hi, I'm new to all this. 2 girls age 8 and 11month old
We have to dogs, an ex military 11yr old german shepherd whos got onset dimentia weve had him for 4yrs and a 3yr old chihauhau/daschund had her since she was 17wks. We have said about getting another dog when the older one dies (it won't be long 🙁) my dilemma is that my brothers dog has had puppies and I have always said that if she had puppies I will have one. My partner has said no to a puppy as he wants another one from the military. I don't, i dont want another older dog that i have for a few years then it dies. I dont want another older dog that has never been around children especially babies before. I am very tempted to go behind my partners back and get the puppy as he does nothing for the ones we've got. I pay for them, I walk them, I look after them, I clear up after them. For example if my partner comes downstairs in the morning and his dog (germanshepherd) has had an accident, he will shout upstairs and tell me, then waits for me to clean it up, he won't do it. Alot of people have said it's my decision as I do everything. I would rather a puppy that i can train and to grow up with my youngest rather than risk her life/any harm to her with an older rescue dog.Any thoughts???

the older dog doesn't have accidents all the time and it's in the kitchen. He is house trained it's only been recently and we've found out the reason why. The vet has said he's got onset dementia and the fact that he is 11yrs old which is a good ole age for a gsd so it can't be helped.

You're missing the point. The point is not why the dog is having accidents. The point is that this man happily leaves dog shit on the floor that his children crawls on. That is fucking disgusting!

One of Two things are going to happen here.

Either you'll bring a puppy into the house with a partner who resents it and walks past its shit with another trained attack dog who has dementia and shits on the floor as well. All mixed in with a crawling baby who pulls on the dog.

Or you'll split with him and be left caring for 3 dogs and 2 children on your own, including one puppy and one attack dog with dementia who you can only walk whilst your partner looks after the baby so of course that dog won't be getting walked anymore if you split with this ballbag.

Seriously, you do not need anymore animals in your house. You aren't managing to cope with the Ones you have.

But i suppose that's all fine as long as you can lol.

Wolfie I wish more dog owners were as responsible as you sound! We've got one in the family who thinks she can introduce her untrained nippy medium sized dog unannounced and off lead into any situation, including places where toddlers and babies are playing, and that if the dog nips it isn't her fault and anyone who expresses upset "doesn't understand dogs" and is therefore beyond contempt

The "have you got dogs?" question is always trotted out - apparently owning one magically bestows moral high ground and unquestionable righteousness in herbrain, as apparently in the deluded OP's

@drinkingtea
Thanks. That's lovely. She is bloody huge though. Could have an adult off their feet. Hence we "stand and wait" when pavements are crowded or joggers run past. She isn't allowed around kids without very close supervision. I am trying to be responsible. I really am. Lots and lots of training. Me and her!

I would just get it if I did everything for the dogs anyway tbh

Jeeze do NOT get a puppy with an 11 month old.

We've got a puppy. He's lovely. As puppies go he's actually very good but he is incredibly hard work and puppies are bitey. That's just a fact.

Our kids are 6 and 8 and managing a bitey bouncy puppy around them is hard enough let alone around a toddler. They can climb up out of his way when he's having a crazy day five minutes, or go into their rooms to play if he's stealing their toys, or yell muuuuumm if he has an accident rather than crawling through it. Or watch some tv while I'm training him. And defend their own dinners until he learns "down"

Honestly. I'm speaking from experience. Small children and puppies are a dreadfull combination