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Regretting getting a dog

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daisyw302 · 18/05/2016 07:12

So we've talked for a long time as a family about getting a dog and rehomed a dog a few days ago but I really regret it. He's so lovely and gentle but very demanding and i just don't think I realised what I was getting myself into. I'm home on my own for 12-18 hours a day with a 1 year old while my partner is at work which is hard being so lonely which I thought a dog would help fix but it's just putting more strain and stress on me. My partner loves her so will be gutted if she goes back but he's not home on his own all day with them. Anyone else had this? Thanks

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NedStarksHead · 18/05/2016 08:08

So your DH works from morning until 9pm at night Monday-Friday and also isn't there at the weekend....
Right....

Costacoffeeplease · 18/05/2016 08:08

You talked about it for a long time or you just went along with it???

Give the poor dog to a rescue who will look after him properly - and NEVER get a dog, or any other animal, this way again

Veterinari · 18/05/2016 08:11

Does he have his adult teeth? They appear at 7-9 months so that would help you age him
Staffies. Are very boisterous when Young, but lovely gentle dogs when trained and very eager to please. The 6-12 months of age time is probably the worst as they hit puberty - he will get much better if you're prepared to put some effort in

TendonQueen · 18/05/2016 08:11

Agree, take the dog to a rescue place ASAP. You can't cope, and your partner is never there so as a pp said his view is irrelevant. Tell him he is not to bring any other animals home like this again.

SuburbanRhonda · 18/05/2016 08:11

So your DH works from morning until 9pm at night Monday-Friday and also isn't there at the weekend....
Right....

And he also chose the dog knowing he would never be there to train it, walk it, give it attention?

This is sounding more and more implausible, OP.

Lightbulbon · 18/05/2016 08:12

The dog is harming your child, this is a child protection issue.

Take the dog to a rescue centre today-you need to protect your child from further harm!

Queenbean · 18/05/2016 08:13

Gosh this sounds a pickle, it sounds like the best thing would be to contact a reputable rehoming centre and let him go. What do you mean he tried to kill the cat?

Veterinari · 18/05/2016 08:14

Right, so you didn't talk about it, didn't do any research and neither of you are willing to be responsible for a life that you CHOSE to take on.

For your DD's sake I hope you're better parents than pet owners.

Lives aren't disposable ffs!

Toomuch2young · 18/05/2016 08:17

I am afraid my sympathies here lie with the dog. You and your partner rushed into getting her, clueless about the demands of having a young dog and now after dedicating no time to her training and being unable to cope you will probably end up discarding her, where is every chance she will get put down as is so often the case with staffys and their crosses.
Between people selling on gumtree and people rushing into getting these dogs then giving them up they really do have no chance which is so heartbreaking and with some training and exercise they really are beautiful family dogs.
I hope you and your partner make some time and stick with your responsibility.

LineyReborn · 18/05/2016 08:19

Your partner's a tosser.

Veterinari · 18/05/2016 08:21

And to all the PP suggesting the OP take the dog to a shelter - good luck

Shelters are completely overloaded with young Staffies and staffy crosses and often aren't able to accept more. Mostly due to irresponsible breeding and rehoming practices and irresponsible pet ownership. Bit like this thread really

It always astonishes me that grown adults responsible for raising the next generation of humans often seem incapable of doing even the most basic thinking when acquiring an animal

stonecircle · 18/05/2016 08:22

This is why there are so many homeless and unhappy dogs - because people put little or no thought into how they will look after them. Poor poor dog. And buying off gumtree . If you're not going to keep the dog op and look after it properly then please take it to a proper rescue centre - somewhere that doesn't treat animals like commodities to be bought and sold on at whim

Costacoffeeplease · 18/05/2016 08:22

I know - depressing isn't it?

LineyReborn · 18/05/2016 08:23

In some ways I am hoping this thread is a wind up.

MadHattersWineParty · 18/05/2016 08:24

So is the dog a she or a he? Your posts don't make that clear, you refer to the dog as both.

I don't have high hopes you'll have the patience or perseverance to be honest

The RSPCA will probably not go to great lengths to find the dog a new home, from what I've read about them recently.

Fueledwithfairydustandgin · 18/05/2016 08:27

If you want to be responsible and keep the dog I would send it away and get it trained. This will at least give you a chance to get your house/life dog ready and you will get back a dog that is trained and the trainer should work with you. We did a similar thing. Our dog died so I bought a Doberman when our son was 6 months (he is high needs). We didn't spend enough time with him as I was over whelmed. All our other dogs have been great but I just under estimated my time. I was so stressed so we found an amazing trainer. She helped so much. It's still hard work but we now have an obedient family dog that we love.

LineyReborn · 18/05/2016 08:28

So you don't know the dog's age, or sex, or anything really. It's hurt your baby and your cat. Your partner is hardly ever home.

kissedbyamoonbeam · 18/05/2016 08:32

You need to change your mindset. Getting out to walk the dog shouldn't be a chore. It should be one of the best parts of the day. Fun for the three of you. Start planning and looking forward to it. There is lots of great advice on here already. Read through it all. Lumpy is spot on. It takes months to settle with a dog sometimes but it does settle.
Sadly it seems you have issues with your partner. He needs to step up. I have often walked dogs after 9 at night. Or at 6 in the morning. He wanted the dog. He needs to help. Same goes for wife and baby.

springhasprung · 18/05/2016 08:37

Rehome the dog before he/she? harms your child. I'm shocked that either of you thought getting a dog from Gumtree was a good idea when there are so many dogs in rescues needing homes. An older, calmer dog who is used to children would have been more suitable.

Please be more responsible and find the poor dog a new home.

MrsJayy · 18/05/2016 08:41

Its like Bingo

Dog off gum tree young child staffie cross Righty oh

Veterinari · 18/05/2016 08:44

Yes MrsJayy
Hopefully this is a bingo-playing troll

Seriously who brings an unknown dog from gumtree into a home with a 1 year old and a partner that works 15 hours a day!

MadHattersWineParty · 18/05/2016 08:47

OP could at least be clear on the gender of the dog though!

LineyReborn · 18/05/2016 08:49

I've reported this. Just saying.

NedStarksHead · 18/05/2016 08:50

I'm calling bullshit on this one.

Talked for a long time/went along with it
He/she dog
DH seems to be out the house 24/7.

stonecircle · 18/05/2016 08:55

I sincerely hope this is a wind up. Unfortunately, even if it is, there are plenty ignorant people who really are completely devoid of sense and compassion when it comes to animals. For example, the idiotic woman who told me she used to have a lab but 'had to get rid' when baby number 3 came along as her flat was too small...

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