Ivf refusal

[Rachelwhiskey]

Ladies I call to you all for help. I'm a 30yr old woman who is in a steady relationship, last year I got diagnosed with endometriosis quite severely and my Fallopian tubes are completely blocked, meaning the my only chance of having children is ivf, I got refused ivf on the nhs because my partner has a child by a previous marriage even though he does not live with us, the problem lies with me not him and according to the hospital I can not appeal my right to be a mother because he has a child. I believe the law on this to be wrong and I know there are a lot of people in the same position. I call on you all for help to get the law changed. If you could support my cause and sign my petition at www.gopetition.com/petitions/every-woman-has-the-right-to-be-a-mother.html I would much appreciate it. I have wanted nothing more than to be a parent please help me and many others like me. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Rachel

Peepod, if genetics are unimportant can we assume you've adopted rather than having your own biological child/ren? Or do genetics only not matter when one or other half of a couple has a particular medical condition, like Rachel?

Rachel, all the luck in the world - it's a tough road but I hope you get there.

Thank you highlove it's much appreciated

AFAIK single people cannot receive IVF on the NHS to whoever asked further up...

shall we stop getting personal here?

The op has entered the political sphere to attempt to resovle this therefore I am not talking personally, but theoretically. I am unable to adopt because of personal experience within the care system. hence my point.

As far as I can tell, the Department of Health Standardised Access Criteria do recommend that IVF should be available in cases like yours - but many local trusts have implemented more restrictive criteria.

Itsatiara I did try to appeal but they refused that and showed me the standard paperwork that clearly states if one of either parties has a child they are automatically excluded. X

Lots of PCTs completely ignore NICE guidelines when it comes to IVF e.g. NICE recommends giving each couple three rounds, because the chances of success in three are pretty good. However most offer only one, and some offer none at all.

OP good luck. It's a deeply unfair rule. What's to stop someone lying anyway?

I'm about to do IVF. It's not something we have undertaken lightly and I am fully prepared for failure. We may consider adoption after that. It's not fair to enter the adoption process while still TTC a biological child.

Hester best of luck for your ivf and I will keep my fingers crossed it works for you. Thank you

Good luck.have you thought about appealing? I appealed although I had been refused based upon my age. I succeeded and now have a three year old.

It is not the responsibility of the infertile to solve the crisis of children in care.

The fab, I tried to appeal but it's automatically dismissed because my partner has a child from a previous marriage. Congratulations on your little one I'm glad they do some good

I fully support you in your endeavor, but I don't like the wording of it bring a 'right' to be a mother. A right to equal treatment as other women with no children, yes I totally agree with.

A child is a gift. If we start thinking of children as a right, where would treatment end? How would we turn away anybody however unsuitable?

You have a right to treatment, not a child. However I wish you so much luck and hope the ivf works for you.

I know it may not be relevant in your case but I really would urge anyone to appeal. I didn't appeal for a long time and then managed to be approved on a technicality regarding when I had (or hadn't) been referred by my doctor. I managed to sneak under the age barrier despite being almost three years older than the cut-off.

Even if you don't think it will work it is always worth writing that appeal letter just in case.

Hi all,

We've now moved this to petitions.