Ooh, thank you Nickelbabe, it's been ages since I've been loved (or even noticed) by someone new. How exciting! I'm married but don't let that stand in your way. Are you a man? A handsome rich one? Actually, what the hell, I don't care if you are a poor, plug-ugly woman, I'm still excited.
Anyway, just looked back and read lovelycoffee's earlier musings on this, and I agree that it is entirely wrong for Southerners to correct Northerners with the 'cassle' versus 'carsle' thing. There are regional accents and there is received pronunciation, both of equal status in my book, just different, and nothing more than a class/region indicator. I find some regional accents beautiful and some ghastly, but none wrong. BUT: (once more with feeling...) this a word that begins with A!!!!!! In the flippin' dictionary! Filed under A!!!
Unless you are of Caribbean heritage and routinely aspirate imaginary aitches on all words starting with vowels, and equally routinely drop real aitches, (and I appreciate they don't all do it) then this is not truly a heritage/dialect thing, and it won't stand up in court. As I said before it happens across all regions (and to a lesser extent) all classes. There is no (regional) choice to aspirate it or not, like with hotel and historian, because it doesn't start with a flippin' H!
I'm not saying that everyone who does is it trying consciously to speak 'nicely', only that most people, IMHO, have heard it mispronounced relentlessly, throughout their lives, by people who were hyper-correcting misguidedly, and it has now become so ingrained that they just assume it's correct. As I said - it's the ROOT of the problem. Blimey, I'm even boring myself now!
Fancy a date Nickelbabe? The library? Pedants' Convention?
Only joking, don't panic.