@TheBraveLittleTailor
I read your reply and was taken aback. I can see you're clearly angry and upset. I wasn't really trying to be confrontational when I posted earlier, I was genuinely curious, but I know tone can be tricky in messages such as these, and my questions were put quite baldly.
In your last post you had been very careful to emphasise you were speaking about British English, so I was curious whether you considered haitch, gotten etc to be okay in some other varieties of English. That is, were you differentiating between speakers in the UK and those who don't speak British English? And did you hold the former to a different or higher standard? I have just re-read the thread and have seen that, yes, you had already said you felt haitch to be okay in English variants other than RP. I'm afraid l had lost track of that.
I think you're saying you feel there should be a standard English pronunciation that's held to be correct, but that you don't judge those who speak other dialects or varieties - I assume either within or outside the UK. Have I that right?
Unfortunately, human nature being what it is, I think that many others do judge those who speak the non-standard variants. Many opinions on this thread - and even the fact the thread was created in the first place - have already made that clear. That's the problem with having one correct standard, I suppose. I do feel that a certain narrow segment of British society considers itself - and only itself - to be the proud custodians of the English language. Regrettably, this can only bring division and exclusion.