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Just held dd2's party and no-one turned up - I am seething & have 1 disappointed child.

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Radley · 29/03/2008 18:11

Just had dd2's party and out of the 6 that were invited, only 1 of the them turned up, I am so

The invites were given out in plenty of time and my address and telephone no were there for them to ring etc.

Hence, party bags sat on the side, loads of food going to waste, games ruined because not enough people to play and one very very disappointed 6 year old.

I am seething and should have calmed down before Monday, do you think I should say something on Monday as to how they spoiled things for her?

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SlartyBartFast · 29/03/2008 18:12

how absolutely terrible for you!

how's dd2?

mysonsmummy · 29/03/2008 18:14

did they rsvp?

ShinyPinkShoes · 29/03/2008 18:14

Hmmm had they all confirmed their attendance then?

hercules1 · 29/03/2008 18:15

I would phone them one by one and ask them if you gave them the right time because only one person turned up. Make it it might be your fault to make them feel guilty and sorry as hell when they realise how their thoughtless behaviour ruined your dds party.

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Radley · 29/03/2008 18:15

Nope nothing, not said they were coming.

I did put at the bottom of the invite to let me know either way.

DD2 is confused and doesn't understand why her friends haven't come

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TurkeyLurkey · 29/03/2008 18:16

What! Did they RSVP? Did they defo say they were coming? How awful for your DD.

SlartyBartFast · 29/03/2008 18:16

that's shocking

hercules1 · 29/03/2008 18:16

If they didnt say they were coming then I wouldnt have assumed they were tbh. I hate it when people dont respond to invites. Such bad manners.

motherinferior · 29/03/2008 18:17

Oh that is terrible. I am so so so so sorry.

MarshaBrady · 29/03/2008 18:17

O no that is terrible, your poor dd. Is she ok?

collision · 29/03/2008 18:17

How awful for you but I think if no one had responded I would have asked in the playground to make sure they got the invitations.

Very sad for your dd.

TurkeyLurkey · 29/03/2008 18:17

I would ring them, did they definitely get the invites, sometime sif you give them the teacher and the parents don't look in their reading folders they could miss them?
Could you ring and ask them to come over tomorrow and cling film the food?

oxocube · 29/03/2008 18:17

Oh how awful Radley. Your poor child. This is SO bloody rude. I would be extremely upset too. One of my kids is 6 and I know he would be devastated

Maidamess · 29/03/2008 18:18

Thats so rude! I think there is def. a trend now for people to not respond to invitations.

they forget how much money and effort has gone into it, not to mention the poor child!

I would take the party bags into school on Monday and make a point of seeking out the guilty parties and giving them their bags as they 'couldn't make it'

Taweret · 29/03/2008 18:18

How for your poor DD.
I would have phoned them a couple of days ago to check if they were coming, I think, to avoid the worry of whether they were going to turn up or not.
DS2 has his birthday in the Christmas holidays, so I am now an expert at chasing up people for a reply.
Sorry you've had a disappointing day.

Flubdub · 29/03/2008 18:18

Oh how awful!
Whether they rsvp'd or not, its still a shame. Your poor dd, that must be really crap.
Did she have a good time with the one that did turn up?

OverMyDeadBody · 29/03/2008 18:18

Oh this is awful, your poor DS.

Maybe it's because it's holiday time? Still, it's not an excuse to have not rsvpd or turned up.

OverMyDeadBody · 29/03/2008 18:19

oops, sorry, DD!

ShinyPinkShoes · 29/03/2008 18:19

How awful for her

Generally if people haven't responded I would check with them but would tend to assume they weren't coming.

In the past I've invited 12 children on the assumption that roughly a third will attend.

Califrau · 29/03/2008 18:21

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Countingthegreyhairs · 29/03/2008 18:23

It is really bad manners on behalf of the parents. Your poor dd - and I'd be furious re expense/preparation time too. Similar thing happened at dd's party last summer (although fortunately had enough children for games etc). Some of those that responded turned up, some that didn't did - and I had a load of leftover food and party bags because I was so afraid that someone would miss out.

On the other side of the fence though, I washed one of dd's coats one Saturday morning recently and found an invitation (for the previous Saturday) folded up and stuffed in her coat pocket (so of course I phoned the parents concerned to apologise). Do you think something like this could have happened?

mckenzie · 29/03/2008 18:23

We had an experience last month where DS bought home from school a party invite on the thursday and the party was on the saturday. I called the mum immediately to say sorry but he couldn't come and it turns out the invite had been given to DS three weeks before. He had just left it in his drawer at school for over 2 weeks!

What I'm trying to explain is perhaps some of the children hadn't actually received the invites for some reason. I must admit though, if it was me i would have followed them all up and would never assume that no response is a positive one.

Really sorry for your DD though and for you.

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Radley · 29/03/2008 18:23

Thing is, I don;t have any of their phone no's so I couldn't ring them. One of them lives 4 doors away and all went out in the car, when they went past our house they all craned their necks to look out of the window.

I think I'm going to seek them out on Monday

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SlartyBartFast · 29/03/2008 18:24

for you

CristinaTheAstonishing · 29/03/2008 18:28

How awful for your DD. I think when you invite so few you need to check in advance. If you have the whole class then it's not too big a deal if 1/3 don't turn up. Your poor DD...