Weddings- what would you do differntly?

[PinkMartini]

My little sister is getting married.

We've already shared the things we did wrong when we got married (I wouldn't bother inviting every last second cousin, I would panic LESS and enjoy the day MORE and make sure the photographer had a full list of the shots we
need for "the mantelpiece" etc)

I saw a great thread in good housekeeping about expensive kitchens and learning from others' mistakes and wondered if I could pick your brains on this one:

What about you? What do you wish you'd done differently with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight?

TIA
PMartini and sister

nothing, it was great...except I wish I'd done it sooner when my mum wasn't so ill and could have enjoyed it with me.
Oh and I'd thoroughly recommend a horse drawn carriage...actually ours was a horse and cart (couldnt afford the carriage one!) it was brill and all the traffic stopped for us....just THE BEST moment

Fewer guests. No car. No official photographs. Actually, I'd head off to a registry office and grab a witness off the street

Anymore ideas?

Would have had a band rather than disco.

Would have picked Van Morrison for first dance rather than a slowy. Every wedding I've been to since has started with slush and it is so boring for the couple and the people having to watch.

Would have invited more people to the evening dance. Would not have cost any more and would have livened things up a bit.

Would have invited future friends (ie just met but getting on well with or working with) rather than old pals I'd not seen for years.

Things I don't regret though are having it on a Friday - didn't put anybody off and it made a long weekend of it plus gave us much more choice of venue; making it morning suits for the men; staying in a nice nearby hotel afterwards so we were fresh for the honeymoon flight; having it at 3pm so plenty of time to get hair done etc.

hitched up my dress and shoved my hairthing in more securely before starting down the aisle (no disasters but a bit droopy in the ceremony pics)
not got ready so early (spent aaages sitting around once made up and haired and was early to the church anyway)
not bothered buying holdups (was too hot to wear them)
dressed better the following morning - lots of pics of me in ratty shirt and jeans
taken flipflops to wear after my pedicure
eaten more of the cake (it was chocolate and exquisite)

I would not have accepted a DJ recommended by the htoel knowing nothing about him. I realized my error when he made an entrance to his own pre-recorded jingle. He failed to get anyone dancing and so started running a quiz instead (I'm not making this up). Mind you, he was so bizarre, he's been a talking point ever since, so it wasn't a total waste.

Remembered that the bride's father should make a speech - somehow it got left out of the proceedings and he was too shy to say anything! If the best man is fiance's best mate but not a born organiser, appoint a deputy!