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Should i fix pass the parcel so less advantaged kids win?

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Lady86 · 05/09/2022 17:01

Will it likely cause an issue if i fix the pass the parcel for a 4 year olds party so thr kids from families that are struggling a bit kore at present win, or should i just be completely random. The parents will be accompanying so possible they may notice if its fixed... Thoughts appreciated! Thanks

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Johnnysgirl · 05/09/2022 17:30

Lady86 · 05/09/2022 17:27

Laundrybin thanks for that interesting insight. It certainly isnt intended to be patronising. Its intended to be kind. Clearly this is a minefield not worth the agro of trying to help someone out if this is how kindness is likely to be received.

Thanks everyone for your comments it seems will just have to be random to avoid potenital sensitivities/ upset for thr winner or those who dont win! Fingers crossed the birthday girl doesnt win if ita random!!! 😂 Or they will think its fixed!

What "kindness" is it, though? What difference will it make to any kid, and your post makes it sound like there are several of these "disadvantaged" kids amongst the guest; so you're still choosing just one for the special treat?
You are over thinking the whole thing on quite an epic scale.
More treats in the party bags and call it done.

Danascully2 · 05/09/2022 17:32

At every party I've been to the birthday child has got the main prize in pass the parcel...

PAFMO · 05/09/2022 17:32

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 05/09/2022 17:25

Yes I’d do this- I fix it so my birthday child never wins

This brings back memories of Lesley down the street whose mother did the opposite. The birthday girl always won all the games at her own party. 🤷‍♀️

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 05/09/2022 17:32

Are you doing Lucky's dad's rules? (IYKYK)

Twizbe · 05/09/2022 17:34

A prize in every layer? That's not how you play pass the parcel. I'm putting my foot down Jenelle, we're raising a nation of squibs!

If you know you know ....

Twizbe · 05/09/2022 17:34

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 05/09/2022 17:32

Are you doing Lucky's dad's rules? (IYKYK)

Snap

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 05/09/2022 17:37

Danascully2 · 05/09/2022 17:32

At every party I've been to the birthday child has got the main prize in pass the parcel...

Oh my experience is the opposite. Parents try to ensure birthday boy/girl doesn't nab the prize.

everywoman682 · 05/09/2022 18:09

'What "kindness" is it, though? What difference will it make to any kid, and your post makes it sound like there are several of these "disadvantaged" kids amongst the guest; so you're still choosing just one for the special treat?
You are over thinking the whole thing on quite an epic scale.
More treats in the party bags and call it done.'

I agree with the above. If you absolutely know some of the kids are in struggling families, then put more in the party bags and just do a little 'token' gift for the random game winners. I think to try to identify every kid from a struggling family and ensure the prizes are targeted to them only, is way over thinking it, potentially awkward and won't actually make a huge difference unless you're putting significant 'treats' in a game of pass the parcel

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