Wedding Vow Renewal...nice or naff?!

[Blossom4538]

Considering this...we’ve been married over ten years and have had challenging times (not relationship wise)

Thinking something very low key and a fun celebration, as although I enjoyed our day, I spent my wedding day exhausted, feeling like an ugly, fat bride, pretty anxious and feeling sick lol!! Didn’t like the large-ish gathering too much.

So nice or naff?! Any ideas welcome xx

Agree to the special holiday idea. Any wedding / vow renewal / big party when you strip it back is really just you buying 50 odd people a nice dinner. Spend the money on the two of you, go on safari / dive the barrier reef / see the grand canyon / tour Rome - whatever floats your boat!

A bit naff IMO. Renew your vows if you want to, just the two of you and a couple of witnesses. Also do throw a party if you want to, but make it a birthday bash or BBQ or a "turn of the decade" party or whatever spurious reason comes to mind. You can even do it on the same day if you want. But personally I'm not a huge fan of gathering a tonne of people together to repeat words they've already heard you say. Just throw a party, and treat your friends because you love them.

Naff - what is the point?

You made your vows - what happens if you don't renew - do they become invalid? Have an anniversary party or just a Spring get together for you friends and family to mark the end of a difficult few years.

And no-one cares about anyone else's relationships

My friend did this. Her first wedding was overshadowed by her serious illness. They brought it forward because they thought she had limited time left.

Turns out she’s a stubborn old bird and they had a renewal on their anniversary which was the epitome of what she wanted and couldn’t have first time round.

Naff

Depends... usually Naff, I do also think of relationship problems. Just have a massive party. Leap year party. Or something 🤷🏻‍♀️Would be good. Or if your wedding anniversary is near then have a big bash to celebrate 12 years?

Saying that though if you have lost a considerable amount of weight and are more confident now, there’s been serious issues amongst the family, serious health issues ie cancer etc and it’s made you appreciate each other again and you now want new photos and memories, go for it.

I only think it’s naff when it’s two people reconfirming their love for each other because I assume marital issues, or they just want more attention lol.

If you could share the issues then I’m sure there would be a different response and some may think it would be great ?

Naff. I wouldn't bother accepting as a guest. As others have said, vows are taken once if they mean anything at all. If they don't, why repeat?

Although I have some elderly friends who had a thanksgiving/blessing for 50 years-plus which was nice. Most definitely not a renewal of vows though; they got that far by keeping them!

Sorry, I have to agree with so many comments - a vowel renewal service only makes me ( and I'm sure lots of other people) think that the original vows were broken in some way. It screams affair.