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Siblings on birthdays

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 08:12

I am so angry and upset

its dd2's birthday tomorrow, she will be 2. FIL has bought dd1 a puzzle so she doesnt feel 'left out' when dd2 is opening her presents

WTF?

it makes me so angry, and ive told him so. its teaching the wrong message

he has always done this and i keep telling him

they will grow to expect a present on the other's birthday

what do you think?

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podgegl20 · 17/10/2006 08:20

My parents always did this for us when we were children but my DP and I decided not to do that with ours. I think it's good for the children to accept it's their siblings special day and not theirs.

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 08:24

yes exactly

i think its a lesson that children have to learn

dd1 is very very good with dd2, she wont be expecting anything, but if this carries on she will in the future

FIL didnt buy dd2 a present on dd1's birthday last week "shes too young to notice" he said

wTF?

makes me so angry

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 09:59

bumP

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angmarie · 17/10/2006 15:51

I dont agree with the other sibling getting a present at the end of the day it is that childs special day so why should other people get presents
People did it with my older child when I had my son to celebrate her coming a big sister and also so she doesnt get left out which is fine but not on birthdays.

angmarie · 17/10/2006 15:51

I dont agree with the other sibling getting a present at the end of the day it is that childs special day so why should other people get presents
People did it with my older child when I had my son to celebrate her coming a big sister and also so she doesnt get left out which is fine but not on birthdays.

puddle · 17/10/2006 16:08

I would tell the FIL to please save it until Xmas.

My friend started this with her kids and feels unable to stop now - I think it's ridiculous to think that children can't accept that someone can have a special day without feeling 'left out'. Eveeryone gets to share the cake after all!

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:10

dh is going to speak to his dad again tonight

glad others agree with me!

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:10

ill ask dh ot say to his dad to keep it for dd1's xmas, good idea

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TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:12

i always dot hat
they all get a littel wquelqwue chose
even my hard as nails mum did

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:13

oh eys lal happy at our hosue
onyl you are miserable cow

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:13

will ti REALLY scar her for life?

GhoulsToo · 17/10/2006 16:14

oh my, you're getting worse - we need someone to decipher the davincicod's code

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:14

so im a miserable cow

great!

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TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:15

you are
oh fgs let her have a present
a re you tired or summat?
unike you to be so stressy

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:15

cod im not having her stamping her foot

"where is MY present"

like a brat

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:15

i have to add, i DETEST FIL and all his values/morals/sneaky ways to get on my tits

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TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:16

aha so thats the underlying cause then

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:16

deos hse stmap and shout?

silverfrog · 17/10/2006 16:16

Definitely agree with you np. It's a ridiculous thing to start - at what point is it supposed to stop? Dh's ex has always done this with my step children - my sd is now 17 and still expects a present on her brother's birthday (and not just a small token these days either). Dh and I told her in no uncertain terms that this would not be continuing when we had dd (now 2) as we could just foresee another 18 or so years of extra presents for sd....

happybiggirl · 17/10/2006 16:17

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TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:17

wee used to have a long tube of fruit pastilles or some such
scarred for life

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:18

yes miserable hefires

TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:18

yes miserable hefires

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nailpolish · 17/10/2006 16:18

cod she will if she keeps getting her own way off FIL

at restaurant on sunday FIL says "where would M like to sit? where shall i sit?" ffs she will sit where i say we are not taking the lead from a 4 yr old

she is little miss bossy as it is

(like her mother )

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TheDaVinciCod · 17/10/2006 16:18

ah thast sweet though he wants to be her friend
my parents do that and i think its sweet
woudl nte let her TELL them if htey didnt offer though