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Whether you're planning a birthday or a hen do, you'll find plenty of ideas for your celebration on our Party forum.

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Whether you're planning a birthday or a hen do, you'll find plenty of ideas for your celebration on our Party forum.

Parties/celebrations

Would you expect people to pay to attend your child's party?

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willthechangework · 22/06/2006 14:46

I've changed my name for this (I hope) as I would hate the other mother to identify me.

DS brought home an invitation from school on Monday to a child's party, the party is actually tobogganing in real snow in a new complex that has opened up.

The invite states that children will have to hire snow suits at the price of £5 per child. The complex is also a good 15 or so miles away and very few if any of the parents from the class drive, so it makes it quite difficult to get too.

This morning at the school gates the party mum, was going round the other partents asking if anyone would like to take part in the tobogganing and help out as she was worried about having a big group of 5/6 yr olds in case any of them were frightened/ not keen to take part.

However, she then said that it would only cos the helpers £15

She barely knew any of these people and was charging then to help out at her child's party.

Does anyone else thing this is quite rude??

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handlemecarefully · 22/06/2006 22:59

What a fantastic idea - perhaps I should divvy up the cost of hiring dd's bouncy slide at her party and charge the party goers accordingly (circa £7 per head)....

Mad! Personally I would decline the invitation

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cataloguequeen · 22/06/2006 23:01

£5 no problem but £15 to help out... not bloody likely... the cheeky wretch!!

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WestCountryLass · 23/06/2006 23:07

That is madness! I think the host either pays or you cut numbers to an afforedabale level. My DC were invited to a party and I was told I would have to pay for DD, find it a bit odd that this sort of thing goes on.

Either pay for the kids you invite or cut numbers!

If I were going to pay £5 for my child and £15 to help out, the birthday child would not be getting a gift

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moondog · 23/06/2006 23:15

Barking.
Both the £5 and £15.
Tell her to eff off.

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Blondilocks · 23/06/2006 23:27

A friend did a similar party - she paid for the children but if the adults wanted to take part they had to pay. I think that's fair enough. Personally though I'd choose a party which I could pay for the whole thing myself. Where we live it's acceptable to drive at least 6-10 miles to the party as there's not much within that distance for parties.

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DevilsAdvocado · 23/06/2006 23:28

Echo MD!!! Tell her to Toboggan off

Or do you think she's pulling a fly one and hoping not too many come as it's exepnsive but that way everyone knows what kinda party her ds is having and no-one can say they weren't invited.. hmmmm clever lady

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JanH · 23/06/2006 23:29

Paying if they wanted to take part, OK, Bl - this one was saying "please come and help out, too many kids, oh that'll cost you £15 though"

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Californifrau · 23/06/2006 23:34

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Blondilocks · 23/06/2006 23:34

I suppose. At a swimming party they asked for adults to go in the pool, but as the pool was hired it didn't cost any more to anyone.

If it was me I'd probably just help out - unless there was something else to do it'd be better than just going 15 miles & sitting around (but then I think tobogganing would be fun)

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brimfull · 23/06/2006 23:36

I am amazed she has the gall to ask parents to pay £5 let alone ask for helpers to pay!

as for driving the kids,I have always driven dd to parties and sometimes quite a distance.Sharing lifts makes it less painful though.

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Tortington · 23/06/2006 23:59

my son was due his first ever sleep oever on his 13th birthday - that weened we had a bit of trouble dh got beaten up and windows were put through - so obviously the party was called off - instead we took him and friend to pizza hut and a quazar thing.

of ourse i didn't expet other kids to pay to participate - i was glad they turned up to their mates party - as kids can be so fickle.

i think its a fucking piss take and would tell her so

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lbgslug · 24/06/2006 00:32

NO, never

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wanderingstar · 26/06/2006 19:11

wrong on so many levels:
-asking for money
-asking for helpers and asking them for money
-a bunch of excited 5yolds tobogganning...I reckon you'd need a ratio of nearly 1:1 for that to be safe !

My ds3 hasn't yet had a "friends invited" party, but my 3 older ones have had numerous ! They have each had at different times cheapo, more lavish, and "off the wall" parties. The success of these has had no correlation with their cost.

I'd never ask for money ! Outrageous !