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Oh, I just don't know - should I go to the Hen Night?

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PrettyCandles · 09/01/2006 14:51

An old friend is getting married this spring, and for her hen-night 'the girls' are going to Pineapple for a Cheerleading party. It will involve learning a cheer of the bride and grooms' names, dance routines and of course pom-poms.

My dilemma is that I'm very overweight (size 20), unfit and with back trouble, knee trouble and fallen arches, and even when I was fit and lean I was a cr*p dancer.

I'm afraid I'll feel humiliated, rather than enjoy myself. But OTOH I don't want to be the only one who doesn't know the cheer and can't participate if it gets done at the party.

Argh - what do I do?

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HRHQueenOfQuelNoel · 09/01/2006 14:54

Go Go Go - I'm a cr*p dancer too - but when in Zimbabwe ended up in the bridal party doing the "dances" going in and out of the church and reception - looked like a right idiot - all the other woman in the party girating their hips and wiggling their bum's like pro's - and me faffing about - but it was still great fun

mazzystar · 09/01/2006 14:55

What a nightmare! What's wrong with a spa?

I'd go though, because your friend would like you to.

But you wouldn't catch me doing a cheer at a wedding regardless of figure/dancing ability/alcohol.

Hattie05 · 09/01/2006 14:55

Hmmm, i'm not particularly overweight, but this still wouldn't appeal to me! What a strange idea, its hardly something that suits everyone is it?

Is there any other arrangements? are they going for a meal or drink afterwards where you could join them, skipping the cheerleading part.

What are all the other guests like? D'you think you will be the only one not keen? or will there be others who you can stand at the back with and have a giggle?

Hattie05 · 09/01/2006 14:55

OMG do you have to then do the routine at the wedding????

puff · 09/01/2006 14:56

You should go!!

Size 20 isn't that overweight (I hit size 26 at my heaviest)!

It might be an incentive to lose some weight too if you feel uncomfy, as long as you don't pressurise yourself about how much you want to lose - 7 to 10 lbs can make a world of difference.

Hattie05 · 09/01/2006 14:57

Forget the weight thing.

Is it not oh so cheesey? or am i alone in thinking that?

starlover · 09/01/2006 14:59

i agree with puff! when is the hen night?
do you WANT to lose weight? it may help with the back trouble etc as well!

it's a great incentive i think...
and as hattie said... do you think there will be others there who aren't participating fully?

nailpolish · 09/01/2006 15:01

i think it sounds really crap, i wouldnt want to go (unless they provide champagne )

whats wrong with a meal and a few laughs?

puff · 09/01/2006 15:04

It is a bit of a naff idea - but I'd still be inclined to give it a go

Rhubarb · 09/01/2006 15:10

I would go but sit at the back like a miserable git drinking beer and smirking at their attempts! I would never ever do anything like this, those who know me know that. But I wouldn't feel at all bad about sitting it out on my own, I wouldn't give a toss so long as I had drink in front of me! I reckon once you sit it out, you'll find others joining you!

mummytosteven · 09/01/2006 15:12

I'ld do as Rhubarb suggests - go along but don't dance.

Personally I think it sounds marvellously tacky, but then I went to School Disco in Hammersmith for my Hen Night, and danced up on the stage, so I obviously go for this sort of thing.

Dinosaur · 09/01/2006 15:12

I'm with Rhubarb on this one!

Hattie05 · 09/01/2006 17:06

Yeah i used to frequent School Disco, but thats a bit different, with alcohol as an aid also .

I'm assuming this takes place in the day, and please do tell me, you don't have to perform it at the wedding do you??

Feistybird · 09/01/2006 17:14

I would not do this for anyone....nothing to do with weight, just think it's a bloody awful idea.

kama · 09/01/2006 17:32

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PrettyCandles · 09/01/2006 21:45

If it was the sort of place where I could sit at the back and giggle my way through it with the aid of a cocktail, then I wouldn't have the slightest hesitation. I'm not the world's greatest drinker (talk about a cheap date! ) and my friend knows exactly what alcohol does to me...come to think of it, after a couple of cocktails I wouldn't be at the back any more! But I don't think Pineapple's that sort of place. More likely to get a nice glass of wheatgrass juice, than a Pina Colada.

I'm not worried about what people will think of my weight - I'll certainly make the bride look good - but when I jump the rest of me bounces after my feet land. And the whole building reverberates - just think of those sprung floors.

Oddly enough, I can't remember when the hen night is . Sometime in April, I think. It would be a good incentive to lose some weight. I've been thinking about that for some time, but the prospect is so daunting (there's so much to lose ) that just thinking about it sends me to the chocolate.

The inside doesn't match the outside, unfortunately. My friend knows me as someone who's up for anything. We 'performed' at another friend's wedding years ago. I hate to disappoint, and I know that the extrovert inside me would be gutted to sit out a performance that I could habe been part of.

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PrettyCandles · 18/01/2006 14:35

Urgh - I just got the details: we have to wear white tops and black trackies (which, believe it or not, I don't possess) fro teh cheerleading stuff, then change to school uniforms because the club won't let us in to party otherwise! The whole hen night will cost £75 each plus drinks.

I braced myself up and said "yes", but now I'm getting cold feet again.

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WideWebWitch · 18/01/2006 14:37

It sounds ghastly, I wouldn't go, even if I were stick thin.

Enid · 18/01/2006 14:38

jesus

its like a bad dream

Rhubarb · 18/01/2006 14:40

Is there not a gastric bug going around? Wouldn't it be awful if you got it on the day of the Hen Do?

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PrettyCandles · 18/01/2006 14:45

Yes, Rhubarb, it would - because I'd be flushing £75 down the drain as well!

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WideWebWitch · 18/01/2006 14:46

Have you paid? Get a refund!

Rhubarb · 18/01/2006 14:47

I think it's a bit much for your friend to expect you all to go along with this tbh, and it's not cheap either! I would have no qualms in turning this down for two reasons:
a) I would look like a pillock
b) I couldn't afford to pay £75 to look like a pillock.

Aloha · 18/01/2006 14:47

Sound f*g awful. I'd give it a miss. In fact, I might leave the country to avoid going. The wedding sounds like a chavtastic nightmare too. SOrry!

Tinker · 18/01/2006 14:49

You have to pay to do this??? Speechless at the whole Hen Party business. What's wrong with just going for a meal or to the local?

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