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Help me plan our secret wedding.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 18:47

For lots of reasons dp and I do not want to go off and get married on our own.

I am not bothered by the day at all and if we had the option to get married by signing papers at a solicitors office I would .

Dp wants something more romantic. He has suggested going away for the weekend , where could we go?

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 18:48

Sorry that should read we do want to get married on our own. Am on my iPhone sorry.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 19:34

Bump

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reddaisy · 18/09/2010 19:39

How about New York? Virgin weddings do packages there, you could get married in central park I think - sounds romantic to me and hassle free if a holiday company sort it all for you...

CaptainNancy · 18/09/2010 19:40

You have to give 3 weeks notice in UK, even with a register office, so it cannot be entirely spontaneous. You also need 2 witnesses, but they could be randoms off the street.

Choose a pretty reg office, about an hour from home, and go and make a day of it.

We did that... and it was wonderful.

A mner recently did v similar, and advertised for her witnesses on here... and 2 mners were her witnesses- it was a lovely thread- think it was Robino.

geordieminx · 18/09/2010 19:42

Italy? The lake district? Second New York, we had our honeymoon there - love everything about it. Vegas?

Really need a budget/time and whether hone or away?

Friends of ours got marrried on ten Cook Islands, looked fab. Ice hotel in sweden?

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 19:47

I want to spend as little as possible tbh and would like to do it as soon as possible. I knew we would have to wait a few weeks.

We are not having rings, no new outfits or honeymoon so the event fee is the only one. I suppose about £500 . If we had to pay more we could .

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 19:49

Going abroad sounds too much of a faff to be honest. It would also mean waiting longer than I would like. I am in the south of England.

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CaptainNancy · 18/09/2010 19:52

Well I think the fees were about £37.00, so comes in a lot less than £500!

Start a thread asking for picturesque register offices in your county- I bet you'll soon find a venue Smile

Sorry you're too far away for me to have any suggestions.

Meow75 · 18/09/2010 19:52

Do you like city life or countryside? That would make a difference to the places I would suggest. How far are you prepared to travel? Where have you had your most memorable holiday? Is there somewhere that you have as a special place - first date, first "I love you"?

These are the questions I would be asking myself/DP when deciding where to get married.

reddaisy · 18/09/2010 19:54

Ok, in that case I second what Captain Nancy said and just pick a pretty registry office in your vicinity and book that and then how about the bridal suite at a posh hotel for the night with the leftover cash?

Or you could head to London for the day, get married early at a registry office (no suggestions where) and spend the day sightseeing and getting people to take your photo at different places and then you will have enough pics for a quirky photo album!

Or you could get married in Cambridge - there is a pretty registry office there and go punting along the river afterwards if the weather is up to it. Some places will organise a picnic for you or you could make your own and have champagne as you go down the river as man and wife!

Good luck whatever you decide.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:00

We are countryside people. I suggested a registry office to dp but he was not keen and was wondering if we could find a tiny romantic venue.

Maybe if I could find an ultra romantic hotel I could convince him on the registry office.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:01

Dh hates London!! As I said we are country people.

I may start a thread asking for ultimate romantic hotels.

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LowLevelWhiinging · 18/09/2010 20:04

If it was me, I would book in at local registry office and spend the 500 quid on a night in a fancy hotel with dinner. Once in a lifetime and all that.

As you have to give notice, I would go for somewhere near ish as you'd have to go there beforehand to do it I think.

LowLevelWhiinging · 18/09/2010 20:04

Where are you?

Oh and congratulations! Smile

reddaisy · 18/09/2010 20:07

You said you were country people after I had posted a suggestion of London. You're welcome btw.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:09

I know redaisy I did not mean to be rude. I was laughing as we go to London quite regularly and DP hates every moment of it.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:10

Lowlevel that sounds appealing. We are in Wiltshire.

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lostFeelings · 18/09/2010 20:11

have look here

www.approved-wedding-venues.com/

at the bottom there are
Wedding Venues, Ceremony Venues, Approved Venues

choos one
look for the local authority you live in or near

unless you tell us where you are it is hard to advise :)

lostFeelings · 18/09/2010 20:13

or here

www.weddingspot.co.uk/wedding-venues/south-east-england--3

defineme · 18/09/2010 20:15

Will venues let you get married there if you have no guests? I thought the point was you filled their venue with guests for meal and so on?
Registry offices can be lovely-ours is on our local park and I love that our children play next to it now.

reddaisy · 18/09/2010 20:15

Fair enough.

One final suggestion for you then...

There is a GORGEOUS hotel in Norfolk called The Broad House hotel and they do civil ceremonies there. If that isn't too far for you and you fancy a hotel wedding. It is very flat so country walks would probably be out but it is on the water and you can hire their boat.

Good luck whatever you decide.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:16

Wiltshire.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:19

That is what I said defineme to dp. Although dp is really keen not to go to a registry office I think we may need to.

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Vespasian · 18/09/2010 20:27

Reddaisy that does look lovely, too far away for this but I have added it to my favourites for the future.

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CaptainNancy · 18/09/2010 20:31

Stonehenge?